Point ten, for me any man expressing that concern would not be the one for me. Loyality to the human race at this point in history is crucial. I think there is a real need for people to begin seeing eachother as humankind. We all bleed red.

By Frangiapani (203.54.253.47) on Sunday, February 4, 2001 - 06:31 am:

Note: Like a man name Rocky who use to frequent this site once said, "If you cannot deal with an interracial relationship do not get involved". ~ Roberto

That is very true, every relationship has its ups and downs, but an Interacial Realtionship needs a little more special attention. I didnt realise Black men would have all those thoughts in their minds when wanting to date a White woman. I too, find myself hesitant to approach a Black guy when their are so many things to consider, usually is he interested in white women? Would I be a secret? and especially point 11. to see each other beyond our race and be looked upon as a man or a woman.

Ive always considered Interacial Relationships to be "special", theres always something new and different about being together. The fact we put so much time into it, the more real and long lasting the relationship becomes.

Does this mean some black men put up a front at first when having a romantic encounter with a white woman? Sometimes I think Im getting a look back as to say "im not interested in WW", when later on I found out it wasnt even the case.

By Roberto (64.12.104.159) on Saturday, February 3, 2001 - 06:43 pm:

Many black men are afraid of white women. I turn this discussion over to the other side of the WW/BM relationship equation. How would a black man get over that fear of white women? There are rather interesting mental sets that come into play when a black man establishes that first romantic contact with a white woman on the social front:

(1) Must he be on her level of communication that parallels her own cultural experiences as opposed to his own or will she reject his lifestyle, and experiences in favor of her own?

(2) Will she be turned off by the thought of intimate contact with a black man due to his color and features?

(3) Will she use a certain criteria to compare him with other men whose standards I may or cannot match? Will she expect more from him than he can deliver for her?

(4) Will she be a closet racist, but is clever to hide her feelings. How would he know for sure?

(5) Would she be afraid of him due to social pressures, to be seen with him?

(5) Would she be open to him or will she just use him for show like to prove to her friends that she is liberal toward interracial relationships?

(6) Can he trust her with his most intimate secrets as a black man, especially his sexual relations with her? This is important, because of the questions she will get from inquisitive female friends.

(7) Will she stand with him in the most difficult situations against bigots or will she be weak?

(8) Would she have a point or limit in which she will not go beyond like having sexual intercourse with him?

(9) Could he deal with her rejection, if she says "I do not date black men" (or the "N" word), and not feel offended?

(10) Could he expect her to be loyal to her race, but at the same time loyal to him?

(11) Can he really love this woman and see beyond her race, and see her as a woman and a human being?

(12) Will she ever betray him for her immediate family and white friends?

Note: Like a man name Rocky who use to frequent this site once said, "If you cannot deal with an interracial relationship do not get involved". ~ Roberto