redspice,
check out my thread elsewhere here on "caribbean men". we may be in the minority on this here *smile*

By Redspice18 (24.141.115.169) on Saturday, July 14, 2001 - 06:37 am:

Ever since I was a teenager, I was attracted to black men but never dated till I was 19. He was white. We were married for 7 long miserable years. Then one night I was in a bar and an African man asked me to dance. That was it. I've dated black ever since. My second husband was black. I loved him more than life, the sex was wonderful, but he was miserable, too. If I marry a third time, he has to be black, but hopefully a better husband. I think I deserve a bit of happiness now. what attracts me to black men? A bit of everything. The colour, I can't deny. Dark eyes, black hair. The way they talk, the way they act, and actually I have a preference for West Indian men. They seem to have more powerful personalities, know what they want, respect their parents, like their women to look good, and I also can't deny, the sex is better. Ya feel me? It's all good! I am directly answering the topic. Thanks. I'm a new member as of an hour ago.

By Stature4 (152.163.201.58) on Sunday, July 1, 2001 - 12:59 am:

what is all this talk about? i thought this was the page for what you look for in a black man. i will tell you what i see....i like the laidback attitude and the cool way they handle themselves as if small matters deserve none of their time. they way their eyes meet yours and the simple words that come out of their mouths seem to always be the truth, which is not always the case. yes, they may be smooth talkers, but they may not always tell the truth. i like black men because they carry themselves with confidence and appeal. they are sexy creatures that require careful attention. i know this all may sound cheesy but its how i feel. sometimes i hate black men beacause of how they have treated me in the past but i do realize that they ALL are not like that and i'm trying not to stereotype. as much as i want to stay away from them, they always have me wondering what each and every one of them have to offer.
B

By Gracie (12.39.0.194) on Wednesday, June 20, 2001 - 03:28 pm:

I have been dating a black man for about six months. I was married to a white man for 16 years and assumed I would never be in a long term relationship again. However, I fell in love with someone and his is black. It had nothing to do with his color, it had to do with the man that he is.

By Kngdavid (150.201.25.188) on Wednesday, June 20, 2001 - 01:12 am:

Hey Colanna1,

Nice to hear from you. I'm new to this board myself. And being male, obviously I have a great deal of interest in the desires of real women, in order to move beyond the stereotypical cliches.
Are there any specific qualities you look for in us black men? I feel a need to really understand white women, since ultimately I'm something of an idealist, and would love to find ways to bring the races together. Even if we never really become a "colorblind" society.

By Colanna1 (63.255.152.21) on Wednesday, June 13, 2001 - 07:28 pm:

Hey what's up? Well I don't exactly how this thing work but I thought I would try to post a msg. I am a female of course and 22. I have been attracted to black guys since I was 12. I am more attracted to them for I believe they can love their women on the inside and out. It take a real man to do that and I know it can go any race, but I just have that feeling for black guys. So i thought I would just post this to let you know how I feel. I have always said that one day I am gonna marry a black man and I truly believe it, but who's to say who you'll fall in love with. Hit me up if you have any questions. I think you an get my email address off of here.

By Ishvara (4.54.119.41) on Monday, February 5, 2001 - 05:31 pm:

Hey Melirosa,

My weekends are always pure heaven. That is when I get to be with my honey. I hope yours was as well. As to not irritate others, please feel free to e-mail me and we can chat about life and not exchange meaningless dialogue by certain individual females. Oh yeah and I know svorhies was kidding, I was just throwing it back. ishvara_1@hotmail.com

By Ishvara (4.54.119.41) on Monday, February 5, 2001 - 05:27 pm:

Margaret,
if you where implying a tongue deep in your mouth, how could you possible see the look of admiration on their face? I too from idle curiosity read through some of the personnals and was shocked, I don't think that some of those post accurately describe the kinds discussions that go on here if anything they foster that old sexual stereotype about WW & BM. I was not one of the ones to send you an e-mail, I do not feel the need to impose my values on any other however I do have my opinions like every else. There is a tasteful way to discuss such things if that's the sort of discussion that interests you. Furthermore if you read your last couple of postings you joke about not "doing it right" what kissin?, come on be honest I think you know what you were implying.

By Melirosa (208.166.11.98) on Monday, February 5, 2001 - 04:46 pm:

randyt-
while their have been a few posts here and there between a few of the females, you must realize that they have been very short and not at all continuous. i am sure that you must agree that the large majority of what we are posting is relating to the topics at hand and not some jibber jabber. while i am glad that you are reading through previous posts, you must be missing a great deal of our discussions to say that it seems as this is a board where a couple of females are just going back and forth exchanging meaningless conversation. this is a clear oversight on your behalf. i, like all of the other woman on this site take what we discuss here very seriously and a few minor statements made between us shouldn't be a cause for alarm. give me a break!!

By Hectorvelasquez (63.175.45.169) on Monday, February 5, 2001 - 04:23 pm:

Do you have an ad in the personal section Margaretl?

By Randyt (12.77.14.231) on Monday, February 5, 2001 - 04:06 pm:

The question posed here seems to be a great opportunity for the ladies to let us guys know what we can do to foster better relations between men and women. All of the recent postings seem to be private messages between a couple of female individuals directed only to each other that have nothing to do with the original question. Who is the moderator here? Wouldn't it be better for you ladies to find a better forum for your private conversations? Thanks.

By Margaretl (12.77.14.231) on Monday, February 5, 2001 - 03:29 pm:

WOW! Is my face red! I have read just two of the 273 emails sent to my email address! All the confusion seems to arise from my confusion on how to spell tongue and embarrassment about using the word, so I left it out of my first posting. People seemed to assume I meant all sorts of other things, most of which I have never heard of! And why, of all things, did some of you think I meant a rooster? Some individuals jump to off-beat or even ridiculous conclusions much too quickly! When I spoke of having them 'deep in your mouth', I, of course, meant having their tongue between your lips! (Which is something I realize I should keep to myself, but isn't as ridiculous as having a rooster there!) But anyway, excuse me!

By Melirosa (208.166.11.98) on Monday, February 5, 2001 - 02:58 pm:

ishvara-
hey sweetie, how was your weekend. believe me, vorhies was just kidding- don't worry bout it girl. i was reading your post on the abortion issue, it sounds like an issue you have thought very deepply about. i don't know how i really feel about abortion, but i do agree that a man should not be able to tell us what to do with our bodies. very interesting post. it definitely made me think.

By Margaretl (12.77.15.21) on Monday, February 5, 2001 - 01:56 pm:

Sorry! I'll not make that mistake again. I respect everyone else's comments and want to abide by any rules of etiquette that rule here. My comment was not meant as a joke, and, having read some of the other discussions and a couple of personal ads, I didn't think I would offend anyone. It appeared this might be a place where we could let our hair down and be honest. Passion, sexuality, sensuality, asses and 'one other thang' had already been mentioned, and while my comment was slightly more graphic (note that I didn't name any offending parts), it is in the same vein and a positive aspect for me. I have had other women agree with me.
If you don't agree, maybe you're doing it wrong. Sorry, that WAS meant to be a joke. If I were always the up-tight and Holier-than-thou gal I am to mother, I wouldn't have had the experiences that I have, and wouldn't have 'two cents' to put in.

By Ishvara (4.54.118.66) on Friday, February 2, 2001 - 06:17 pm:

Didn't mean to start anything with the mommie thing, I've been calling 'em all that forever, it's affectionate, cause I've decided I like you. And that's how I speak with my girls take it or leave it, it's me. Calling Melirosa mami, means she's my girl as are you svorhies! So W'sup mommies?!?! LOL... ;o)

By Melirosa (208.166.11.98) on Friday, February 2, 2001 - 05:13 pm:

vorhies-
my girl ishvara understands what i'm talking about. i like her ideas. therefore the mami thing is o.k.

ishvara- don't mind her. she'll be allright.LOL

By Svorhies (208.48.12.163) on Friday, February 2, 2001 - 05:01 pm:

I didn't find any humor in Margaret's post either! It was down right trashy!!!

Ishvara- It is good that your man is doing the right thing. There has to come a point where you must realize that a person can only do so much to help educate another person

Melirosa- Girl don't let any else call you mommie!!!! LOL LOL

By Anon2000 (207.218.73.44) on Thursday, February 1, 2001 - 09:57 pm:

"margaret" is probably one of maximus's "friends"...

By Melirosa (208.166.11.98) on Thursday, February 1, 2001 - 10:18 am:

if it was a joke, it was a tasteless one and aren't jokes usually funny? i'm sorry, didn't see the humor

By Ishvara (4.54.118.101) on Thursday, February 1, 2001 - 08:33 am:

Joke?!!?

What was so funny, what was she trying to joke about?

By Frangiapani (203.54.153.197) on Thursday, February 1, 2001 - 02:33 am:

Margaret!s post was in low class, and I know this is a truthful answer/serious topic but if she meant it as a joke, and Im sure she did, it did make me laugh a little.

By Melirosa (208.166.11.98) on Wednesday, January 31, 2001 - 02:59 pm:

ishvara,
i know what you mean. although zandii's intentions are admirable, sometimes you can't enlighten some people because they are just too damn heavy. you can only do so much to try and make people see the light. glad to hear that your man is handling his business. maybe he won't hear much out of her anymore.

By Ishvara (38.163.112.69) on Wednesday, January 31, 2001 - 02:10 pm:

I'm doin' good mommie,

You echoed my feelings perfectly in your last post. That is exactly how I feel for my love. As far as that nasty little girl, she's certainly no women in my mind,...there's more of course...she e-mailed him some simpering note saying how they have differences of opinions but she hopes they can remain on good terms. He's decided only to speak at work when it's absolutely neccessary. I understand Zandii's point of trying to enlighten people, being the voice of good reason and all that but sometimes those people are better left to their misery. There's no talking sense into some, they'll never change their view unless something earth shattering happens. I have more to say on this but pressed for time.

By Melirosa (208.166.11.98) on Wednesday, January 31, 2001 - 01:52 pm:

i think the women who have been on this site for a while have made it clear as to why we are attracted to black men. we love our men for who they are, they just happen to be black. the sexual aspect is that of any other loving committed relationship regardless our race. yes, while i do admit that i think black men are very, very beautiful and i am attracted to them intensly, i can honestly say that i have never looked at them as simply being a sexual mystery,or something that i wanted to conquer to satisfy some sexual fantasy. i love my man, not only for his body and his amazing physical beauty but for his intellect, his sensitive, beautiful feelings, his sense of commitment to our relationship and his strong mind as well as his strong opinions that come with it. i love my man and i would do anything for him to create happiness around him and to keep him content and make him feel as though he is appreciated i think that the other women on this site feel the same way because we love our men for them.

By Melirosa (208.166.11.98) on Wednesday, January 31, 2001 - 01:29 pm:

ishvara,
sweetie, i am with you. how you doin girl? any new and exciting news on the bigot in philly? i was thinking about that last night and it made me so mad that there are women out there like that. there is a lot of that low class syndrome going around,you know, women that would just use black men for their sexual pleasure. how anal! (excuse the pun) PLEASE>>>> get a life!!!!!!!!!!

By Ishvara (38.163.112.69) on Wednesday, January 31, 2001 - 01:20 pm:

Melirosa,

I think we all need to leave it alone. Looks like she found her way to the WRONG place. How low class.

By Melirosa (208.166.11.98) on Wednesday, January 31, 2001 - 01:15 pm:

hey guys! any of you want to tackle that post margaret just made? i'll leave it alone.

By Margaretl (12.77.14.98) on Wednesday, January 31, 2001 - 12:26 pm:

When it comes to black men, the one thing that really does it for me is the look of admiration on their face when you have them deep in your mouth. I like being appreciated.