I think this sort of thing is a crock. Women sharing the few eligible, disease free black men due to a shortage?

I am a black male and have several black male friends from college. We are all professionals and have worked our way up the ladder of success. While in college we were ignored for being decent, good, "nice guys", while the thugs and cheaters had a female field day. After college we all worked on professional degrees and entering our careers, waiting to meet these caring, supportive black women and yet they weren't around. Now in our 30's and desiring to settle down, we have found loves of others hues, who accept us as human beings and yet the black women need this?

I am confused, as are my buddies, where were these people and where are they now. Is it really that hard to find a decent black man or are they really not looking? My friend, a tech genius out west, emails me all the time saying there aren't any women to meet. They are either into money or stuck on themselves. But they love to put men down and them revert to the victim.

It is a crock. Let go of the dream of changing a bum into a beau. Start respecting the hard work and ambition of a nice guy and then there would be fewer limits.

By Kansascity (209.242.125.207) on Sunday, March 25, 2001 - 07:37 pm:

Illegal Polygamy American Style is already the cause and not the affect of serious social problems in this country..I have never known anyone who got caught up in it, to be happy with it. Fathers are seldom around for the majority of children from these unions, and they are growing up killing each other or wanting to (unless someones' putting LSD or PROZAC in the water). I think it is the utimate cause of war in this world as well. I do not have all the answers; but I once heard that sexual relations between a monogomous, married man and woman is like a nice cozy fire in the fireplace (it sustains the union and doesn't create such confusion and doesn't rage out of control destroying everyting in its path like AIDS etc. does). Whereas, sexual relations at wim for any other reason can be and often is like an out of control forest or prarie fire which brings death/destruction (Not renewed life). Also, countries where polygamy is practiced have different priorities, one of them being what the those in power want--be they male/female. I think it creates allot of jealousy and tension among the offspring who will later bid for power. There is something to be said for the stablizing enfluence of a regular family, but one where neither the male or female is abusing whatever power they may have (nor teaching their children to do so) in the marriage. Also, there are people who want a different type of life, such as priests and nuns who were the educators in a system that taught these very moral values. I do not hold to situational ethics. (Could be you belong to none when you belong to all?) If the moreal leaders in a society are corrupt, that doesn'mean that the principles and values they are suppose to teach and uphold---are corrupt!! Take CARE :-)

By Roberto (64.12.106.22) on Tuesday, March 20, 2001 - 05:04 pm:

This month's issue of Ebony magazine has an interesting article on this subject in which many married black women are into this new life style titled "Why Some Women Settle For Man-Sharing, And The Dangerous Consequences", by Zongra Hughes.
~ Roberto