When my ex girlfriend told her parents, her mum thought its was ok, but her dad wasn't not too happy at all, he thought Ill be some sort of gangster, but as soon as he met me, he changed, and said I am welcome at his place anytime

By Sendawulaman (64.12.102.53) on Tuesday, June 26, 2001 - 07:24 pm:

Hi. I'm new to the board but I just wanted to say that I also have had a good experience with my girlfriends parents. I was expecting that I would be recieved with outright hostility and rejection by them but I guess things have changed some.

By Cma (216.249.73.104) on Monday, May 28, 2001 - 01:18 pm:

Fran, yes that's my real email. Write it down now, because I'm going to delete it from this forum. I didn't even know it was exposed, I don't want any spammers or anything getting ahold of it.

By Wyatt (207.8.207.27) on Monday, May 28, 2001 - 10:40 am:

As a good experience, I have been accepted by my mates family. I was introduced to her by her sister, who was a friend of mine and co-worker for three years. In most of my IR experiences, I met and was accepted by the family. Some were not as friendly as others, but there was never anything like not acknowledging my prescence or violent/ or issues of disownership. I think my parents were worse than the white parents in the issues, my father was the sole objector.

I would never throw in the towel due to the ignorance of parents. I guess because I am a grown adult and not a child, am consider myself equal to the parents as adults and I can communicate clearly what my relationship is about. I have never dated IR out of curiosity or Jungle fever, therefore I know that IRs are the same as monoracial relationships. I know that religiously, IR is supported by biblical principles and being progressive minded, I know that it is an issue of love and mutual respect. What an ignorant grown adult thinks, whether it is a peer or a parent or my boss or the President--I can discern ignorance from intelligence and I have pity on the ignorant people with reactionary opinions.

By Frangiapani (144.134.91.39) on Monday, May 28, 2001 - 08:37 am:

Cma,
Its good knowing that some guys will stick with you regardless of what others think. In a way, being involved in an IR proves to the other person just how special he or she is. In the way of it takes more effort.
To answer your question, Ill still be posting when I get overseas, but id rather not say over the net where. I like talking with you though, is your email for real?

By Cma (216.249.72.67) on Monday, May 28, 2001 - 04:56 am:

I find it most likely that I'll end up with a WW eventually. So this is something I think about all the time. When I talk to that cute brunette at school or at a party and she seems really nice, I think, "hmm...so let's say I get her number and then I show up on her doorstep and her father answers the door...now what's going to happen?" What I wonder about are those white chics who think their parents would be ok on race, but then turn out not to be only because the situation never previously arose. But if the girl is worth it and I love her, I could care less what her family thinks. I think I'm a good person, and it's their loss if they don't want to get to know me.

By Kansascity (209.242.125.78) on Sunday, May 27, 2001 - 11:40 pm:

Sometimes, it is not the parents who are ignorant. Parents know their children and have a pretty good idea what can make them happy in life. Also, alot of parents just have a hell of a time letting go...of their babies all grown up! :-)

By Frangiapani (144.134.91.3) on Friday, May 25, 2001 - 05:17 am:

I was just reading posts how parents are disgusted or ashamed that their daughters are involved with Black men. Has anyone had any good or bad experiences when meeting the family or friends of your partner? How does it make you feel if your girlfriends parents will not even acknowledge your presence? Aren't black men just about ready to throw in the towel and give up their partners due to the ignorance of the parents??