oh please, give me a break! All of this self-rightous condescending talk is making me nautious...I do not agree with Craig either, but a question was asked and answered. I have often wondered what makes white men offer up their wives to black men as well, but on the other side of that very same coin, I've wondered what makes black men have sex with white women while their husband/boyfriends are watching or taping. Or what makes a bunch of black men want to have sex with a woman one after the other, and finally, though certainly not least, in order for a white man to allow his white wife to have sex in front of him with black men, the wife has to be willing to participate in it as well, so she is also worthy of some of that scathing criticism/self rightous condcescending bull crap that was sent Craigs way. We are all grown-ups here, if you can't stand the heat then find another room.....Personally, I appreciated hearing an honest opionion of something I find difficult to understand.

By Aarm (64.124.150.131) on Monday, August 20, 2001 - 04:00 pm:

Craigster, thanks for responding. I really didnt imagine a person would go into so much detail when I originally posted the question. I was actually looking for more of a psychoanalysis of why a man would encourage or even be comfortable with his wife doing this. I realize that in several cultures (present and past) wife sharing is not uncommon. But I am having trouble imagining what series of events could induce a man in the Western world to be so accomodating of a sexual relationship that is so "seemingly" outside the norm.

Also, I realize that you were being candid as a means to communicate effectively the answer to my question. I appreciate that, but, I advise that in the future you "test the waters" a bit before you "let it all hang out" and let the world in on your business. Clearly, as my fellow board members have so pointedly expressed, this is not the forum where such detail is appreciated. If you are still reading the board and are prepared to revise your approach to the topic, then perhaps we can benefit from your input (minus the detail). And, perhaps my fellow board members would be willing to reconsider their previous excommunication decrees against you.

AARM

By Ishvara (208.37.109.158) on Friday, August 17, 2001 - 08:12 am:

Thank you ladies and gentleman, I couldn't have expressed myself any better.

By Kngdavid (150.201.25.154) on Friday, August 17, 2001 - 02:02 am:

Beyond belief,
How many children is that, four? all by different men!? What kind of family cohesiveness will that create? Why did you even bother to get married at all? I've seen those profiles myself; these men might as well be shooting themselves in the foot. What happens if she finds a BM that's as much fun on a date as in bed?

By Anon2000 (208.187.245.6) on Thursday, August 16, 2001 - 09:30 pm:

that is definitely sick, i agree melirosa! uggggh!

GET LOST, WHITE BOY! THIS SITE IS NOT FOR YOU!

By Melirosa (208.48.12.181) on Thursday, August 16, 2001 - 08:49 am:

oh hell no! sick sick sick!!!!!!!! no conversation on this board for two weeks and this is what we come back to? craigster you are one sick little white man.

By Craigster (152.163.194.186) on Thursday, August 16, 2001 - 01:08 am:

while i cant speak for all WM, i can tell you about my fascination with it. before my wife, Jennifer, and i got married, we became close friends while i was dating her best friend and roommate. jennifer already had 2 beautiful bi-racial kids from her first marriage. once my relationship with her best friend ended along with their friendship, jennifer moved in with me for financial reasons since she didnt have a good job at the time. BTW, her two kids were living with her ex-husband, who was financially secure.

anyway, jennifer started dating a couple of BM and, with our bedrooms right next to each other, i could hear her scream and moan when she was having sex. it was a definite turn on for me. eventually she let me watch and video tape a few encounters she had. i loved watching my best friend have sex with BM. at this time jennifer and I had NEVER had any intimate encounters. after about six months the guys she was dating were no longer in the picture. but jennifer was a couple of months pregnant by one of them.

jennifer and I then quickly fell in love with each other and were married before she gave birth. after natalie was born she asked me if it would still turn me on to watch her have sex with BM. i knew she still loved sex with BM, and being only 24 yrs old, it would have been niave of me to think she could commit to just me. for me, it was still an incredible turn on to watch my wife take it from BM. but the most exciting thing was when we agreed that i would use a condom and her black lovers would not. i knew where she was going with this. eventually she told me she was pregnant. there is nothing more exciting than watching your wife get huge over 9 months with a BM baby.

jennifer and i have now been married for almost 6 years. and they have been the best 6 years of my life. we have had 2 more kids, one by me and another by a BM. jennifer still occasionally has sex with a BM, but has settled down immensely.

this is just my story and reasons for having my wife have sex with a BM.

By Aarm (198.81.230.200) on Monday, June 11, 2001 - 02:44 pm:

I am not sure that this is the appropriate place to raise this issue so but since I found it on the website I thought I'd bring it up: Can anyone explain why so many white men want to see their wife have sex with a black man, much less any man?

I was browsing the personals and was astonished to the prevalance of white couples who were into this. I am not being judgemental, I just cant comprehend why anyone would want to watch their wife sleep with another man. Any ideas? Is this specific to WM or do some BM have this fettish as well?

Just Curious,
AARM