kngdavid~
the advise that helnilla provided you with is definitely very good advise that you should consider. honesty is ALWAYS the best policy, especially with a situation like the one you are now in. if she chooses not to continue corresponding with you based on the simple fact that you are black, well you have come across one very big difference in beliefs that you have with her and it shows you what type of person she really is. this is not because i am biased on the issue, this is because it is better to know who you are dealing with from the get go. i like people to know what page i am on at all times so there is no confusion and there are no lines crossed by them or me. if a woman is attracted to you for your mind at first and then she has nothing to to do with you after she finds out you are a black man, she was never worth, nor did she ever deserve a moment of your valuable time.

By Helnilla (164.58.10.124) on Friday, August 17, 2001 - 11:24 pm:

Well, in reply to your post, in my experience...

you should let the woman know right away... while many of us would probably not worry about race, there are those that might feel uncomfortable...

honesty is always the best policy... you might argue that you haven't lied... you've just been witholding information... which is definitely an argument... but in any case.. it's best to just come straight out and say it. If this woman has issues with it.. it might be frustrating for you.. it might even cause you to be burned again...

But if that happens... if the ignorance of some lady causes your heart to crumble... she's not the right lady for you..

hope that helps

-Hel

By Kngdavid (150.201.21.239) on Friday, August 17, 2001 - 10:45 pm:

For a few days I've been carrying on an e-mail conversation with a young lady from another site. There exists a mutual appreciation in regards to beliefs, and other qualities, but she has no idea that I'm actually black. To the ladies that might read this: in general, how soon should I divulge this information? From the beginning, or as soon as romantic interest becomes manifest? I understand that most of you might be somewhat biased in this regard; but from your knowledge of other women, what would be the best time? I'm not completely certain one way or another. (I've been burned before)