Do white women seek out black men?

[darkgable2000]

My experience has been that ww would like to be with black men, but are afraid to step out and make it known...any one have anything to add?

[7Seven]

My experience has been that ww would like to be with black men, but are afraid to step out and make it known...any one have anything to add?

There arent many white women willing to risk social suicide, if that is what you mean. Maybe the ones who have nothing to loose would.

[Princesa]

I have to say I disagree with you both, I have known since I was in high school that one day I would be with a black man, and I have had very few people ever look down on me for it. I have also known other WW who want to be with BM and we have never tried to hide it. As for it being social suicide, again, I haven't had those issues, it may just be where I'm from, but I hardly ever see a young BM with a BW, the majority of the time they are in an IR relationship. I believe that there is much more to gain from being with someone you love that it is worth dealing with the closed minded people, but hey, that's just my opinion.

[graphicsRat]

I have to say I disagree with you both, I have known since I was in high school that one day I would be with a black man, and I have had very few people ever look down on me for it. I have also known other WW who want to be with BM and we have never tried to hide it. As for it being social suicide, again, I haven't had those issues, it may just be where I'm from, but I hardly ever see a young BM with a BW, the majority of the time they are in an IR relationship. I believe that there is much more to gain from being with someone you love that it is worth dealing with the closed minded people, but hey, that's just my opinion.

Princesa what's your marital status if you dont mind me asking?

[Princesa]

I am single, but I am a little curious as to why you're asking me, my marital status.

[graphicsRat]

I am single, but I am a little curious as to why you're asking me, my marital status.

You mean never married? ... Because I find that a lot of the WW who seek BW are divorced/seperated ... (Maybe such women were too imature to acknowledge their attraction to BW, or were too scared to do so ...)

Sorry if I'm opening a can of worms here.

[ClssySthrnBBW]

My experience has been that ww would like to be with black men, but are afraid to step out and make it known...any one have anything to add?

Yes there are probably some that are. For many reasons from insecurity or family/social pressure to low self esteem. But not all white women are like that.....

[Princesa]

Yes, I have never been married, and I don't know why other women have waited until they are divorced or seperated, but there are so many different aspects of dating IR, so I can understand why it would take time before they are ready. [/quote]

[RRobert]

I am divorced, no kids, living in New Jersey--near New York City.
I always place personality first; however, I have noticed that white females have the personality and outward demeanor that I seek. Too bad, there are none around here (who are available) for me to meet. My backgrown lends itself to white females only. Don't know why, except that it is compatibility, and expectations for mutual kindness and fulfillment.
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[Iffy'swifey]

I think it's already been established that all WW are no more the same than all BM are!

Some women, black or white do not have the confidence to seek anyone out, regardless of the race of that person. And some, like me, live in a very white area so "seeking out" a BM would be very much like looking for a needle in a haystack. I'd never been with a black man before being meeting my man, and it wasn't because I was afraid to seek them out, it's just that there are very few of them around here. But since being with my man, the few BM that are here try to chat me up. What that means I don't know!

[kenny_g]

My experience has been that ww would like to be with black men, but are afraid to step out and make it known...any one have anything to add?

I don't really see that in my community and every place I go. I have found if you go out for a whole day just walking around going to stores, restaurants and see a movie or something like that you will encounter at least 10 IR relationships. So I don't think thats true in the public. The only place where it is true and then some is of course in the entertainment industry.

[CiViC SpiKeS]

My experience has been that ww would like to be with black men, but are afraid to step out and make it known...any one have anything to add?

There arent many white women willing to risk social suicide, if that is what you mean. Maybe the ones who have nothing to loose would.

Thus the influx of BBWs that are into BM.

[Soulthinker]

It is definatly true of WW in the US and Canada. They have a lot of scuples and not bold enough to meet black men. The American ones only go after roughnecks,livin large brothers,and verbally endowed ones.

[levhotchick]

I never dated a black guy until I met a guy at a party , he was nice so I went out with him. but I'm not sure you 'd let everyone know who your dating if it's just one date whether white or black, I dated him for about 6 months at first I was nervous about introducing him to friends and family.
before I dated him I was attracted to black men just never met one serious enough to ask me on a date

[Trisha777]

I agree with Princesa completely. The first black man I ever dated was in HS and my parent s and family didn't even need to voice there approval or disapproval, it was just a complete non-issue. many white women who might have the good fortune of being raised in good homes with good values about difference may not ever consider it social suicide. The boy i dated in HS insisted that people were going to talk, and i found that the people who did most of the talking were in his circle of friends and family, which is just another way it can go i guess. But I never considered my choice social suicide. And if I could meet another BM that i liked as much as Tristan, I would do it again in a heartbeat because it is simply my preference.

Must confess that I'm from the east coast up in the jersey/NY area, where I think people people pride themselves on being right like that. I think down south it may be harder to find entire communities who act right around this issue, but up north, you can live in an entire city, town community that doesn't take much interest. Not everywhere i understand, but plenty of places.

[Trisha777]

verbally endowed! just read that term, and i think that's so clever. i think women what verbally endowed from any man. I don't want a white or black uneducated man and it shows on either guy, but i think in different ways possibly.

[PearlGirl]

My experience has been that ww would like to be with black men, but are afraid to step out and make it known...any one have anything to add?

I have specifically sought out black men. It is my preference and so, that is what I look for. I notice almost any and every black man walking on the street or in the mall (there are not THAT many around here!) However, this does not mean that I am ATTRACTED to just any BM! I only said that I "notice" them!

Yes, it did take me a little while to fess up about my preference, since there is some social stigma associated to WW who date BM exclusively. But I have decided that I need to be happy and find what I want, rather than listen to what others think I need (ie: my mother!)

I am single and have never been married. I have been dating BM for about 5 years now and by no means am I an "ugly, fat white girl who can't get a white guy"!!! I have a profile up in a non-interracial dating site and although it is clearly indicated in my profile that I am looking for a BM, I do get many messages from WM.

So, yes.. some WW do specifically seek out BM.. and not just ones who are looking for casual sex with a black bull! I am looking for the love of my life, who will give me lots of little mocha babies and who I will live happily ever after with!!

[PeyBackTime8818]

Yes some WW and white GIRLS seek out black penis. You can usually spot them a mile away. They wear hip hop style clothes and talk hip hop slang. I see them all the time.

If you are talking about the post-college, corporate world, prissy, white bread, goody goody, white WOMEN who seek out only black men, that is a much more rare breed. I am sure they exist out there for sure, but not as many as we (black men) would like, and they are very hard to spot. They also, like many previous posters have stated, might be scared to make it known that they only spread those sexy long white legs to a black cock....

[SardonicGenie]

I have specifically sought out black men. It is my preference and so, that is what I look for. I notice almost any and every black man walking on the street or in the mall (there are not THAT many around here!) However, this does not mean that I am ATTRACTED to just any BM! I only said that I "notice" them!

There isn't anything really wrong with this, unless you only seek them out for 'the myth.' You don't seem like that type, so no sweat off of my back.



Yes, it did take me a little while to fess up about my preference, since there is some social stigma associated to WW who date BM exclusively. But I have decided that I need to be happy and find what I want, rather than listen to what others think I need (ie: my mother!)

If only more white women thought like you did.



I am single and have never been married. I have been dating BM for about 5 years now and by no means am I an "ugly, fat white girl who can't get a white guy"!!! I have a profile up in a non-interracial dating site and although it is clearly indicated in my profile that I am looking for a BM, I do get many messages from WM.

So, yes.. some WW do specifically seek out BM.. and not just ones who are looking for casual sex with a black bull! I am looking for the love of my life, who will give me lots of little mocha babies and who I will live happily ever after with!!

Glad to have ya here in the forums. :wink:

[dj4monie]

Yes PLENTY of White Women SEEK Black Men and not just for sexual experiences even though those types of personals make it past the management. Its kinda funny a site that promotes LTR's, will ban your ass for sharing your Yahoo screen name, but let Lilly White girls post how they want to get plowed by some big dicked brotha...

On the mean Streetz of America, it really looks like you have to seek out the types that are open with their desire to date black men and yeah, sorry to say most of them stand out miles away and claim to be blacker than you are in some cases, if that were even possible of course.

I say, stick to the Internet, chat rooms (where you can find them, though RARE these days) and visit selected nightclubs and other places where your bound to find alot of single white/latina/asian women & black men like yourself (note: this only works in PROGRESSIVE areas of America)

US women seeking Black Men only outnumber the rest of the world due to the sheer size of America. Next would be ladies from the Canada, UK and finally Germany.

I'd say if you can't find anybody in that group of women your in TROUBLE.

[PearlGirl]

I have specifically sought out black men. It is my preference and so, that is what I look for. I notice almost any and every black man walking on the street or in the mall (there are not THAT many around here!) However, this does not mean that I am ATTRACTED to just any BM! I only said that I "notice" them!

There isn't anything really wrong with this, unless you only seek them out for 'the myth.' You don't seem like that type, so no sweat off of my back.



Yes, it did take me a little while to fess up about my preference, since there is some social stigma associated to WW who date BM exclusively. But I have decided that I need to be happy and find what I want, rather than listen to what others think I need (ie: my mother!)

If only more white women thought like you did.



I am single and have never been married. I have been dating BM for about 5 years now and by no means am I an "ugly, fat white girl who can't get a white guy"!!! I have a profile up in a non-interracial dating site and although it is clearly indicated in my profile that I am looking for a BM, I do get many messages from WM.

So, yes.. some WW do specifically seek out BM.. and not just ones who are looking for casual sex with a black bull! I am looking for the love of my life, who will give me lots of little mocha babies and who I will live happily ever after with!!

Glad to have ya here in the forums. :wink:


Thanks SG!

[tuckerreed]

IR dating and marriage is normal here in the Northeast US

[Darman]

There are indeed some white women who specifically seek black men. Aside from the stereotypical ones (i.e. girls who talk "ghetto"), there are also those who are normal looking women. When I ask them why they prefer black men, most of them have said that it's because they are attracted to black men physically (hey, you can't deny what your eyes desire). There are of course, the young fast-assed girls who do it because they think it makes them cool... and any black man with common sense will stay away from them!

[CiViC SpiKeS]

I seem to find the ones that havent really dated BM before and i dont think they were particularly intrested in it in the first place but there willing to give it a shot since im a nice guy kinda deal.

For me the women who actually "seek" out black men are women ill apt to be the least intrested in. Not always true but generally.

[tuckerreed]

I am sure some will

[Soulthinker]

DjMonie you are right. I see on the Black Planet website of White female members and it has from American to Europeaan mostly German women.

[tuckerreed]

they do On the online websites

[RedFox]

sry to say this but to answer this post..HELL NO...damn it that would be the last thing u will see...probably lets say 100 white ladies..probably 15 of them will look for a black man...now triple that todays white woman..iam goign to guess 34343,45 white girls around the globe..just guessing..not take 15 percent out..dude thats not that much at all.. :roll:

[jxsilicon9]

sry to say this but to answer this post..HELL NO...damn it that would be the last thing u will see...probably lets say 100 white ladies..probably 15 of them will look for a black man...now triple that todays white woman..iam goign to guess 34343,45 white girls around the globe..just guessing..not take 15 percent out..dude thats not that much at all.. :roll:

That has never really been my experience. I don't think you can calculate who is looking for what> It really comes down to how much you can relate to her. I grew up mostly in the South and never had alot of problems with women coming onto me.

[infiniti]

I think there is also something to be said about human contact. I won't lie, there were times when I really prayed to overcome my attraction to whitewomen. Not because it was a bad thing, but because it brings so much frustration and other things we all know about. But then, I eventually reached the point where I said "to hell with it, I am just going to put my best out there and see what comes of it".

By that, I mean taking little steps that I wouldn't have taken otherwise. For example, when I invite a few friends to a party, I extend my invitation to the quite white girl that never really says anything. though she is cute, I really can't tell if she is into black guys. I invited her with a warm smile and said "It would be nice if you can make it". If she shows up great, b/c I will get to know more about her. If not, I will be a little disappointed, but it really wouldn't count as a loss. (this is an hypothetical scenario..for visual effect)

Using your white male friends (or make some friends if you don't have any) to get the connection needed. My white male or even female friends undoubtedly have other female friends(school is a great way to meet smart, educated WW). Ask them to bring their friends with them whenever you go out (you may have to do this discretely..depending on your friends stance on dating). Get to know them and then start making the right connections.

Basically we are all caught in "will that white girl like me" sort of ordeal that we forget that while girls are just humans. Has anyone ever wondered why KKK and and all those racists (back in the day) fought so hard to keep schools and social gatherings segregated. Yes...you guessed right. It was because they knew at the fundamental level, we humans have a bond, a connection and an almost animal like desire/ability to like one another. Actual manifestation of this sort of behavior can only occur with close contact. All the issues today (i.e stereotypes about different races, fear of black men, risk analysis about different races, living in different neighborhoods, different school districts) are just the modern form of preventing contact.

Even the white girl who bluntly stated that she doesn't date black guys will like you (or hate you depending on personality match, but at least it will be due to her actual feeling, not the socially programmed response) given the adequate amount of contact.

Black men in general are disadvantaged when it comes to creating circumstances that will allow a white girl to "really" get to know you. This is where thinking and being smart comes in.

Sometimes I see a girl that I like and after studying her, I know that if she really knew me, she would fall heads over heels for me. Well, if this ever happens again, I can guarantee you that she will get to know me.

I guess all I am saying is that, men (especially BM in America) need to learn how to reel in the right woman. It isn't enough sitting there wondering if she in into you. If she is, great. If she isn't....well most of the time she can be convinced!

We all know about the difficulties of dating (or finding someone to date) interracially. But we don't pay enough attention to the advantages we have.

[tuckerreed]

you are right jxsilicon. I have continuously listed IR personal sites with many many white women seeking out black men for dating and marriage.

[jxsilicon9]

you are right jxsilicon. I have continuously listed IR personal sites with many many white women seeking out black men for dating and marriage.

I should probably check out more IR sites. Cause nightclubs are crappy places to meet women.

[tuckerreed]

where do you live? yes night clubs have always been bad places to meet women.

[jxsilicon9]

where do you live? yes night clubs have always been bad places to meet women.

Rigth now I live in Louisiana. But will move as soon as I get time to look for homes in other states.

[tuckerreed]

well, i would think that clubs in Louisana would not be too cool for IR. In Mississippi they were awful. but on websites like www.interracialmatcher.com there are plenty of WW looking for black men. you can go there and sign up for free first and if you are interested then you join

[hellspawn72]

I can confirm that. A few years back, while in college, I would go out to the local clubs where many of the white kids went. I was a non-traditional student in my mid 20's at the time. Anyway, many nights I would be the only brotha in there and I could just sense how apprehensive the white girls were about the possibility of me coming up and simply talking to them. Sometimes there would be friend girls who were bartenders and waitresses, but mostly the patrons were distant. I just chalked it up, though, to people who were comfortable with those that they already knew. Louisiana is notorious for being cautious of people that they don't know.

Now there was one time in particular where this white chick actually approached me and we hung out. She was outgoing, though not buzzed or anything. I later found out that she had been in the Army like I had been. To clarify, people in the military traditionally have a much more liberal attitude towards things. But you guys are right otherwise. Clubs, in general, are lousy places to meet women. Unless you're one of the handsome guys or a white dude, or simply not a brotha.

[jxsilicon9]

I can confirm that. A few years back, while in college, I would go out to the local clubs where many of the white kids went. I was a non-traditional student in my mid 20's at the time. Anyway, many nights I would be the only brotha in there and I could just sense how apprehensive the white girls were about the possibility of me coming up and simply talking to them. Sometimes there would be friend girls who were bartenders and waitresses, but mostly the patrons were distant. I just chalked it up, though, to people who were comfortable with those that they already knew. Louisiana is notorious for being cautious of people that they don't know.

Now there was one time in particular where this white chick actually approached me and we hung out. She was outgoing, though not buzzed or anything. I later found out that she had been in the Army like I had been. To clarify, people in the military traditionally have a much more liberal attitude towards things. But you guys are right otherwise. Clubs, in general, are lousy places to meet women. Unless you're one of the handsome guys or a white dude, or simply not a brotha.

I never meant it was hard to meet women in clubs. I'm talking about quality women. Women in clubs are usually for one night stands.I'm pretty much done with the one night stands. Now I want to meet more quality women for long term relationships.

[tuckerreed]

i was talking about quality women too, i dont date or would date anyone who wasnt of quality and cultured.

[tuckerreed]

depends on the part of the country also. If you were a black man and went into a nice club, not a college beer joint, in say Seattle, Minneapolis, New York City, Boston, Chicago, Portland, SF, Pheonix, Philly, DC, Albany, Portland Maine, Hartford, Providence, Buffalo, Cleveland, you could find many many fine women of quality. But your approach has to be one of honesty and realness, not just trying to get in her paints.

Having moved up North, before marriage, I could easily meet women of quality in these places and did, everytime.

[tuckerreed]

bro, its the deep south, it is very hard to approach women there. I would look online at www.interracialmatcher.com sign in and look in La.

good searchign

[tuckerreed]

i found 6 women between the ages of 20-30 in Shreveport, La, for ya. so no excuses go check em out.

[tuckerreed]

medeek, i just gave you the website so you can check it out

www.interracialmatcher.com

[MeDeek]

thanks tuck

[tuckerreed]

you are welcome buddy, bon chance

[theresa4bm]

When I was younger I used to date black men discreetly. I used to live in a mostly white suburb. Now that I am older, I am more open and do not care what other peoples opinions are. Society has changed a bit, it is now more acceptable. Can't wait til we have a color blind society. The fun that I have had behind closed doors cannot be measured. :D

[sarah23]

I think many of us whoi were brought up in predominately white neighbourhoods didnt get the chance to date BM or we felt we should be discreet.
It was only when I went to study in a bigger town that i felt free to date B.M. And I must admit that is was an interesting experience being with Black overseas students. :)

[jeverage]

This discussion is living proof why living in a multi-cultural environment in your formative years is perative to your development as a human being.

I have been surrounded with diverse couples, people of different faiths, different sexual orientations, different ethnicities. For instance, my day care had a multi-cultural staff, the children were Black, Latino, White, Mixed from different social classes, and religions. My favorite daycare teacher was a gay White male. IR couples was very common for me to see, and I lived in an area where there was Black, Latino, and Whites. Family friends and associates were mainly White, Black, and Latino of different faiths, professions, and social classes. I witnessed a lot of cross-cultural friendships. As I think about it, some of the closets bonds I have had with women were with White and Black women throughout my life. I never remember not being around a WW or a BW in my life. One of my best friends was a Puerto Rican girl. My first best friend was a Black male. Most importantly, my first love was a young Black man. I guess my parents, especially my father and stepmother, made sure I was exposed to a diverse environment w/o barriers that they were not privileged to have when they were growing up. Also, I was never pressured to stay within my "race" when it came to love, romance, and marriage--I was to keep an open mind, taught All people are fair game, and to love all of who I am at the same time.

When you grow up around diversity ( No this does not mean you're the only Black in an all White neighborhood or the Only White in an All Black neighborhood). It is having personal friends and family who are as diverse as the world in your life on a consistent basis--it eliminates any taboos, stereotypes, and what have you of another group. They become normal and no better or worst than anybody else. When I was growing up and seeing IR couples, there was nothing special or different about them. The only thing I have witnessed that is different with IR is reconciling different cultures, sometimes class backgrounds, and/or realizing that the both of you having different experiences in a racist society (Applying more so to Black and White couples). Other than that, there was nothing exiciting or breaking the rules to them. They were human beings, had many of the same joys and problems as any other relationship does, and that was the end of it.

I noticed a pattern among many not all of the participants on this forum--not personally experiencing a lot of diversity in their personal environment, including family, friends, neighborhoods, and schools when growing up. Therfore, these IR relationships are exciting and thrilling. Intercultural, inter-ethnic, inter-faith relationships have been around since ancient times. Rather it was done in secret or in public. This is due to the fact that we are human beings and when it all comes down to it a dick is a dick and punani is punani. As a woman, I am going to be attracted to a MAN first. It is human nature. Sometimes, my desires swing towards different flavors depending on what I am in the mood for--I may want to be with a Black man one day, fantasize with being with a Latino man the next, want to get down with a Asian man after thatt--doesn't necessarily mean I have a preference for that kind of man I am fantasizing about or desiring to date at that point in time, but that I just like men and variety.

I believe many on here is confusing what they perceive as a preference for just being people who have not been exposed to a lot of diversity and/or have been told this is not the way to go--therefore, you are exploring and discovering that side you have not been privileged to explore. Just like a new piece of candy, a new dessert, a pair of new shoes--you enjoy it, love it, can't get enough of it, and then you move on. Some still stay in the infatuation stage, others balance out over time.

The point I am trying to make, it is easier than what you think to meet anybody of a different ethnicity, faith, sexual orientation, and etc... just be open to people period. Greet people and say hello. Make small talk without the angle. Start as friends and associates first. Make it a point to surround yourself with a diversity of friends and associates. Move out of your comfort zone and beyond the Black and White and try to make an effort in putting yourself in situations where you are surrounded by diversity and you may find yourself surrounded by people who are like you--going to multi-cultural events, celebrations, and weddings, for example. Joining social or political action groups dedicated to "racial harmony". Go to different cultural centers and museums to learn about different cultures of people. Reach out to people at your local gym, the coffee shops that you go, and etc. Don't be afraid to reach out to people who you may perceive as different from yourself--just by saying Hello and offering a smile talking about the weather, the traffic, and how good the coffee or the food is can do wonders. What you will find, as I always have--when I put myself out there in diverse situations and learn about different cultures--I find myself surrounded by people who are like me--like minded. These tend to be the people who are more likely to engage in inter-cultural and inter-faith relationships and at the same time make a serious effort to respect your culture, your history, your faith, and etc.

You meet good quality people through other friends, social events, public areas and etc... more than in the night clubs or the bars. Thus, make it a point where the theme of the event or place that you go is diversity. White people who are willing to frequent places, social events, and etc... where the theme is diversity and seem very comfortable interacting in diverse situations is worth the time talking to. For instance, going to an art show featuring the works of an artist from a "minority" group, going to coffee shops or restaurants that appeals to a diverse crowd of people and whose theme is diversity (for example, I remember going to a restaurant/club/bar/family gathering place owned by two men from Africa where they had DJ's and Live musical performances from the West African diaspora (including Caribbean music, African-American music, and served West African, Caribbean, African-American foodstuffs. They had a lot of people from Africa, the Caribbean Islands, and some African-Americans and a lot of White people, including White women). Go to public festivals or musical concerts that features diverse music artists, artwork, and different ethnic foods. (No, I am not talking about White Girls who are "wiggers" who believe Ghetto and Black is synonymous and frequent Black clubs. I think that in itself is racist.)

Start off with simple conversation on a friendly level. Ultimately, there is no science of how to meet anybody. Just be open to ALL people, ALL cultures, and ALL Faiths and make a lot of friends and associates--this will definitely increase your chances of meeting who you want to meet. Also, when you have diverse friends who believe in diversity and have diverse friends as well--go to their weddings, house parties, and, if they are artists, to their small concerts--I have meet quite a few non-black men at these events who were willing to date intercultually b/c their paradigm was based on cultural, "racial", and spiritual diversity--they were more than likely to follow "the beat of their own drum". The same goes for the WW who were at these events, close friend gatherings, and etc.

In all, just be you, be open to HUMAN BEINGS, and smile and talk to ALL people, and treat them how you would want to be treated. Your life will be soooo blessed with all the interesting and good people you will meet regardless if the relationships are romantic or just friendships.

I do apologize for this being soooo long winded, but this discussion has been brought up tooo damn much. This conversation seems like this is meant for adolescents and teenagers who do not know what the hell they are doing in the world of dating. However, I must remember many of the people on this board has had little exposure to a diverse network of people. Therefore, I apologize for being very critical.

Peace and Blessings

[awia]

My experience has been that ww would like to be with black men, but are afraid to step out and make it known...any one have anything to add?

I have specifically sought out black men. It is my preference and so, that is what I look for. I notice almost any and every black man walking on the street or in the mall (there are not THAT many around here!) However, this does not mean that I am ATTRACTED to just any BM! I only said that I "notice" them!

Yes, it did take me a little while to fess up about my preference, since there is some social stigma associated to WW who date BM exclusively. But I have decided that I need to be happy and find what I want, rather than listen to what others think I need (ie: my mother!)

I am single and have never been married. I have been dating BM for about 5 years now and by no means am I an "ugly, fat white girl who can't get a white guy"!!! I have a profile up in a non-interracial dating site and although it is clearly indicated in my profile that I am looking for a BM, I do get many messages from WM.

So, yes.. some WW do specifically seek out BM.. and not just ones who are looking for casual sex with a black bull! I am looking for the love of my life, who will give me lots of little mocha babies and who I will live happily ever after with!!

[sorry about my lack of html savvy] :oops:
I co-sign with this - although I don't exclusively date only BM or it would be 'social suicide' as you put it only because I'd have no social life lol - there are just not that many BM in Australia. :cry: Especially single ones in my age group. To be honest, some of the brothas I do meet in my age group tend to be very conservative and old school - a real mismatch. 8)
Unlike PearlGirl, I have been married before - although not to a BM. I would like to meet 'the one' and I would prefer if he was a BM, but I am looking for someone compatible first up. I know he's out there. :wink:

[awia]

living in a multi-cultural environment in your formative years is perative to your development as a human being.

:idea: Absolutely!!!

[Baby Girl]

Ever since I was 13 I know I would be married to a black man. I am not sure about everyone else but where I live you can not just walk up to a bm. So you have to try and guess if they like ww. I only get the thugs/players coming up to me and I am in to educated men.

[LovesMeLongTime]

I don't know if I am just color blind or what...but all the girls I know here in Va...including myself...could care less what anyone has to say that's negative about who u fall in love with. Love knows no color, and good sex is all colors and all ages. It is 2007 people, if somone has a negative attitude towards you because you are sampling all the buffet of life has to offer...then they have a problem...not you. You cannot go arounfd living your life one way because of what other people think or day. Your own personal happiness is all that matters. To hell with the haters...they are just jealous...because they are scarred to do what they want to do...and you are not.

Heather http://www.myspace.com/heather110973