Admitting your attraction/preference

Hope everyone is safe and sound. Thought I would start a new topic. Is it me or do a lot of people have a problem admitting their attraction for white women/black men? Thoughts

 

I think if they do, the reasons have changed.
Before, it was possibly being shunned, or there was fear of racist assaults/insults, but today it seems more like they push that it's "politically incorrect". They will infer that to be "woke" you should be with your own kind, or you should stay in your lane.. it'll probably reach a point where it'll be 'cultural appropriation' to date someone from another race. They'll figure something ridiculous out to keep us apart.

 

I agree wholeheartedly with your talking points. Even on this website which is geared towards ww/bm and is a safe haven I still read comments like “I’m attracted to bm/ww but” so I still feel like some people are still on the fence.

 

I have no issue with admitting my attraction at all. The older and wiser that I become my attractions get even stronger.

 

I suspect many while not hiding their IR preference and/or open to IR dating, but wouldn't let it hang out there just to avoid the BS comments/questions from narrow minded people. I'll be the first to admit that it has gotten old. I am happy to see a lot or IR relationships in the young crowd.

 

Brothas especially feel like they have to pay homage to black women even if they date/sleep with/marry white

A brotha can't even date/sleep with/marry a light-skin sista without buckdancing for the colorism crybabies

Conversely, when a WW dates out, she's like fuck the white man, black men only lmao

 

There are some folks in this forum that want us to kowtow to that B.S. I am very open and upfront about my preferences. No shame in my game.

 

It used to be much worse on here

 

People often worry about being disliked, so they tip toe around insecure folks and those with delicate sensibilities. Ignorant people equate not being an equal opportunity dater with being racist. Your personal choice as to who you date is naturally biased as it is supposed to be, no such thing as racism or colorism there. Attractions are naturally subjective. Why shouldn't they be?

The choice of who you "date" is completely yours and it doesn't hurt anyone.

Personally I don't care who likes me or not so I don't have those issues. Those that do have those issues should realize that those are issues of their own making. As long as they don't try to make it my problem I'm ok with it. Folks have all the issues you want, just contain them to yourself. Please and thank you.

I have only "dated" white women and latinas for a long time now. White women are my preference these days because latinas are often religious.

 

Another statement of fact! As a gen xer that was the case growing up and I come from a place where bm/ww was considered normal 20-30 years ago. Shaming language is working with millennials and gen Z though which is a positive in my opinion.

 

Oh? Tell me about it. What was it like?

 

I have no problem admitting my attraction to any type of women white latina black asian, a hot woman is a hot woman. Now maybe because I am older I dont feel the need to go on tik tok, twitter, instagram, or whatever else to announce it. I think we discussed this a couple weeks back in another thread, and I really dont have a problem with any of it. You do notice it is mostly younger girls proclaiming their love of black men which is all fine and good but at the same time it can feel like they are doing it more for the attention than anything else. How many of them actually have the preference or are we the in, cool, edgy, check off your bucket list thing to do when they are young.

 

Some people aren't able to realize their own preferences and interests until they are grown. Many people's minds are governed by their peers, family, etc.
I think people are much more willing to say what their preferences are now than in the past. However, I do still see people dance around things too.

It's an interesting thing though. There are things on this site where men are calling out ww who only date black men, stereotyping them, etc. How we look a certain way, have certain haircuts and so forth and I'm pretty sure most of us don't fit into any of it. There have also been those who rag about women on dating sites who put it out there that they only date black men. I know it's often joking but I find it rather interesting all the same and there definitely have been men on here who seem to have bought into a lot of the bullshit out there. But then I'm pretty sure there have been times when some of the so called black men on here are not that at all.

 

I agree with a lot of the post and I’m not saying you need to shout it from the roof tops or go out and do the boogaloo in the middle of the street. I also understand people have socio-economic backgrounds that prevent them from pursuing their initial attraction.

 

Their in the wrong place ww/bm. I love this site! It’s a safe haven for bm/ww.

 

Well, you've got to admit that "Karen" look a.k.a. the "Kate Gosselin" is basically the look of a stereotypical WW who dates BM

 

No....cause I've never seen a black man with a woman looking like that irl. Maybe it's a difference of locations?? IDK

 

Never been ashamed of whoever I been with no matter the race. I’ve grown up with older cousins who married white women so I guess it’s always felt normal to me. Interracial relationships more than ever are accepted. Hell a lot of the white dudes I work with are married/dating black women at the moment. I can’t see how anyone in this day of age could feel weird about who their attracted to.

 

The only “if she has this haircut” types are normally hoodrat ww that try their hardest to act like a bw caricature. You live in California where there is more interracial dating and that probably isn’t something you see in your circles. I’ve generally witnessed it while in the military or if I visit a distant family member that lives in a dodgy part of a city. I believe the memes are meant to express that.