Attraction to Black Men = Perversion?

Solaki2200 · Oct 7, 2022

whikle said: ↑

I'd like to know if anyone else has had a similar experience to me:

I've found that when I express to friends in a conversational/casual way that I'm attracted to black men, I'm met with jokes or shock or questions. The general assumption from society seems to be that it's a sexual perversion, that it's all about big black dicks, that it's some sort of joke. It's never just accepted as an ok/normal thing.

My good friends know about my preferences and they're totally fine with it - but there are still jokes when it comes up, or it's assumed that I'll have the hots for any black man that crosses our paths, regardless of whether I find him attractive or not.

I'm even afraid to tell a black guy that I may be dating that I prefer black men, in case he thinks it's weird or a fetish and I'm sexualising him.

Personally, my love for black men feels natural and pure and the LAST thing it feels to me is dirty or perverted. I just hate the assumption that if I like black guys, it must be about big dicks

Has anyone else had that kind of reception?
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orejon4 · Oct 31, 2022

I’m amazed at the persistence of this question. Apparently, little progress has been made.

prince odum · Nov 15, 2022

whikle said: ↑

I'd like to know if anyone else has had a similar experience to me:

I've found that when I express to friends in a conversational/casual way that I'm attracted to black men, I'm met with jokes or shock or questions. The general assumption from society seems to be that it's a sexual perversion, that it's all about big black dicks, that it's some sort of joke. It's never just accepted as an ok/normal thing.

My good friends know about my preferences and they're totally fine with it - but there are still jokes when it comes up, or it's assumed that I'll have the hots for any black man that crosses our paths, regardless of whether I find him attractive or not.

I'm even afraid to tell a black guy that I may be dating that I prefer black men, in case he thinks it's weird or a fetish and I'm sexualising him.

Personally, my love for black men feels natural and pure and the LAST thing it feels to me is dirty or perverted. I just hate the assumption that if I like black guys, it must be about big dicks

Has anyone else had that kind of reception?
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There should not be any feeling of perversion here. Truth is that Most Black guys (especially of African Origin, grow up learning to treat their women well. Yeah we may be endowed with big di*k but that is not all, we really know how to treat the woman well, given the resources, we see ourselves as kings and our women as queens

Mickey B · Nov 16, 2022

southfloridagirl said: ↑

You need not prove anything to anyone. Do you ever see a man going around saying, "I need to get myself a fine (fill in the blank adjective) girlfriend and prove it's about more than sex"? My point is stop caring what other people think. This is about gender equality a lot more than it is about racial equality. Think about it!

And yes, let me say it again: BLACK MEN ARE HOT. There is no need for me to justify to anyone why I feel that way, and for people of either gender to sexually or romantically pursue someone that they DON'T feel this about... is completely illogical, pointless and a waste of time, in my book. Therefore your people's jokes and assumptions are basically a red flag indicator of their sexual repressions. God forbid anyone be honest that sexual attraction and personal chemistry is important to them.
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Totally agree with you absolutely !

Mickey B · Nov 16, 2022

Tamstrong said: ↑

I've encountered that crap countless times over the years...the big dick comments, thinking I want every black man I see ("There's you one, Tammy!"), and tons of questions about whether or not all the sexual stereotypes are true, etc. It's like they can't wrap their small minds around the fact that my attraction to black men isn't based on a fetish or stereotypes. I guess in their minds black men aren't people; they evidently see them as walking talking giant penises.

It's irritating and sad, but over time I've gotten so used to it that I just shake my head, make various smart ass remarks, and keep it moving.

I've only had one man get weird about me dating other black men, but I didn't care what he thought any more than I care what anyone else thinks.

Loving black men has always been a natural, pure, and beautiful thing for me as well. Even though there are fools who see it as something deviant, trashy, and ugly; I refuse to let their fucked up thinking take away from what it really is for me.
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Very well Said ......from your Personal Experience & Great Maturity as a White Woman !

Mickey B · Nov 16, 2022

Tamstrong said: ↑

Yeah, not everyone who comes at us with that reaction is ignorant. I was thinking more along the lines of my experiences with ignorant people (especially some of my family members) in that particular post...I guess my frustration with them was pretty obvious, huh? lol

I agree that on some level some people understand that the stereotype isn't the whole "truth", but I do think people tend to wonder just how much of the stereotype is involved. It's like it's so ingrained in society's thinking that people's minds automatically go there. If the day ever comes that it's not the first thing that comes to society's mind, I doubt we'll still be around to see it. I also wish it wasn't the initial reaction (especially the stupid jokes), but like I said, I've gotten used to it.
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Tamstrong ...... I CONCUR with you 100% .....

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