Family Rejection

Give your mom some interracial porn, followed by a porn parody of Jersey Shore. She'll think twice.

 

I've dated (white) hearing guys that had their family dislike me because of the fact I'm deaf. Actually, the first "real" boyfriend I had broke up with me for it, because he couldn't deal with his family's judging on that aspect.

I'm not going to let race be a hold up in dating whoever I want to date and I certainly don't stick to dating only deaf guys. I like guys that are the same way, with self confidence and know what they want. I like hearing guys that don't let their feelings get confused by race OR hearing status (or... deaf guys that don't get confused with IR, since hearing status doesn't count then, lol). :smt023

 

I keep forgetting you're deaf, Nicole. I think you are freaking awesome! a total sweetheart, hard to imagine anyone not liking you.

 

great approach, Nicole! Keep up the GREAT attitude...

 

It's hard for me to say. Most of the people on the campus work part time jobs, so there isn't really much of a focus on relationships, partying, etc. I would say about 60 to 65% of the people there work so there isn't much in terms of activities and dating going on.

To the best of my ability, I would say that the majority of the girls here like a person based on who the person is, which goes beyond their race. So they are indifferent, they could be with anyone depending on who you are. The vibe I've seen from the smaller fraction of them is that they don't really like guys at all (regardless of their race).

So I'd be looking into establishing relationship(s) after college. You and I both know that we'll have to use some form of technology (Phone, Computer, Website, etc) to meet more people and create relationships.

 

I dont know if you notice but it seems that the WW catch it more times than the men do.

women (WW) have a lot more to lose or a bigger burden than the men do. they can get cut off from the family and etc.

as a BM you need to be aware of that and be str8 up about what yur intentions are so she can make a wise decision

 

absolutely, Mikey! I just don't sense the whole interracial vibe being alive & well @ Towson. I went to Morgan State, & black women HATE it they saw a BM/WW relationship. It was almost to the point of actual disgust.

Guys, PLEASE tell me something; what is it with BW gettin' so disgusted with the fact that BM are open to dating out of their race? Just curious...

 

I'm a WW and I can answer that question. It's not hard. BW are looking for a quality man just like we are. There aren't enough to go around. So when you choose to go outside your race, and they want a BM, they aren't happy to have twice the competition.

 

^^^^hmmm!!!! interesting....

.......but what i'm finding out from most of the BW that I know is that they'll complain about the BM they're with (how he's a lazy, uninspiring good-for-nothin', etc., etc., etc.), but then turn around & say "I only date BM".

If you ask me, that sounds like a major contradiction. That's not how you support your "significant other".......lol.

 

very true....

 

Can't speak for the BW you know. but my friend doesn't do that. She has been in some good relationships & some not-so-good. But the guys she dated were responsible, intelligent & hard working. They didn't all act like gentlemen, however.

 

i was almost was, but my family(black) got over it. her's never had a problem

 

:shock:

Say word.

At least you put her in check over that silliness.

 

Is my mom insinuating that black men are rarely good Christians a racist statement? I really want to know. How in the fuck would she know that? She hasn't been to black churches lately (as in NEVER). But then again, what are the statistics of unfaithfulness within the black church?

 

It is still a battle. She's racist as hell, and it makes me batshit crazy. I'd rather have her own up to it, at least, instead of always denying it and coming out with some excuse about she's just laying out the facts.

She took it as a personal attack when my last ex and I dated... she kept saying 'Why do you do this to me?' ...yeah, cause, you know, the first thing I think of when I like someone is 'How mad can I make mom over this?' Oy.

 

Huntress, I know this is your mom we're talkin' about, but you're lettin' her get you upset & bent all outta' shape. As long as you keep havin' a hard time with this, she's gonna' always feel like she has that upper-hand on you with this issue.

The bottom line is this.........you can't change somebody's mindset when they don't wanna' change it. This is an ever-changing world, and she has to either accept it, or she'll sit back and watch you have hissyfits over her issues.....


.....so, which one is it gonna' be?

 

Uh... I wasn't asking for advice. I've got it handled just fine, thanks. I was merely illustrating a point about HOW I have handled it and what my experience has been.

 

Ok, no problem. My bad...

 

SMH, you are a grown ass woman, why she feels compelled to personalize your partners in life as part of her feelings is very telling and selfish. She is living her life and has made her choices.

Should you not be afforded that luxury on every level.

I would like to think she could trust you as an adult she raised to make sound decisions about your life, instead of trying to play a guilt trip on you.

A funny thing about facts and how it changes to suit someone's agenda. In other words people tend to try and pass off their own biased opinions as facts around these issues.

Its why I try to remain as balanced and objective an individual as possible no matter how rotten to the core the views of some may be.

I tend to just keep it in perspective as their opinions for them to live and deal with. The world moves right along everyday regardless of such things.

 

Can't say that I've been "rejected" since no one knows that I'm into black men. But, I know that a lot of family and friends wouldn't be happy about it if they knew. Don't think I would be "rejected" to that degree though.