1. 4north1side2

    4north1side2 Well-Known Member

    http://thyblackman.com/2012/08/28/married-pastor-passing-along-hiv/

    (ThyBlackMan.com) Pastor Craig Lamar Davis looks like any other healthy, happy, heterosexual pastor with good family values. He was once a preacher at the Full Gospel Baptist Church in Atlanta and a pillar of leadership in the community. Also, like a lot of men at the front of the church, the pastor had a thing for the ladies.

    Another thing you might want to know about Davis, according to authorities, is that the pastor is HIV positive. He also didn’t seem to care who else became HIV positive after he slept with them.

    The pastor was arrested for reckless conduct after police found that he was sleeping with several women with whom he was not married. A woman by the name of Ronita McAfee says that she met the pastor on Facebook and began sleeping with him.

    Ronita says that she became concerned when one of the pastor’s ex-girlfriends called her to say that she had HIV. She claims that the pastor then counseled her (presumably leaning on the word of the good “lawud”) and told her to get tested. Davis then says that she noticed that the pastor himself was not interested in getting tested, even though she had also contracted HIV. This is what prompted her to seek out a warrant for his arrest.

    Ronita is, by our best guess, the first person to file for the arrest of someone who was found to maliciously spread HIV in Clayton, County, GA. When the investigation began, another woman in the church leadership stepped forward with her confession about interacting with Davis. The woman even claimed that she’d been celibate for 15 years before meeting him. She too is HIV positive.

    Ladies, please take a good look at this man, because the fact is that you probably know him. He’s the nice, smooth, good-looking man that makes you want to get naked on the third or fourth date. You trust him because you’ve been raised to believe that a man of God would never hurt you. In fact, he might be the man that your church has had you waiting for because he too is grounded in the belief system that you’ve deemed to be a requirement for any man with whom you choose to share your body. He knows how to get into your head, because he knows that one defining characteristic of nearly every black woman in America is her deep and unshakable commitment to the church.

    As a man who’s written extensively about other sad creatures like Bishop Eddie Long (who also hails from Atlanta, aka the bible-thumping Sodom and Gomorrah), I find Pastor Davis’ case remarkable for several reasons:

    First, the courage of these women to step out and publicly reveal the pastor’s deception has saved lives. I wish there were a day where every 30 and 40-something year old black woman who has caught HIV, Herpes, Syphilis or some other disease would speak out about what happened to them, so that younger women don’t end up falling into the same trap. Countless women have died from catching something that their man brought home to them after fulfilling his “interpersonal needs” someplace else. Unfortunately, the relentless shame thrust upon “the good Christian girl” with a venereal disease keeps many of these stories from ever being told.

    Secondly, the pastor’s denial of his condition and unwillingness to go to the doctor is quite common. Many women are accustomed to getting regular STD screenings as part of their annual checkup. Men are not raised in the same way. There are men I know who sleep with literally dozens of women every single year and haven’t been to the doctor since MC Hammer had a hit record. Even worse, many women don’t ask and certainly don’t confirm the man’s HIV status as much as they check the size of his bank account or the magnitude of his “swag” factor. The fact is that if you think he’s got swag, then a lot of other women do too.

    Men like Pastor Davis are allowed to prey on unsuspecting women for at least three reasons:

    1) Many women value style over substance – if you look good, then you must be good. Mind you, men make the same mistake, since they falsely believe that when a pretty girl offers you sex, you’re supposed to take it.

    2) Many women falsely believe that men who go to church are better than men who don’t. Bishop Eddie Long should help you to know better than that. Unfortunately, people consider each case of a pastor doing dirt to be an exception to the rule, without realizing that there are men like Davis all over the country. Davis is not the man you need to fear; actually, you need to fear all the Craig Davises that you still don’t know about.

    3) Many women don’t ask questions and will gladly sleep with a handsome playboy without checking and confirming his STD status. If he doesn’t mention the other women he slept with before he came to her house, it’s as if those women don’t even exist. Even worse is that the fixation on HIV leads us to forget about how many women have had their wombs corrupted from all the other STDs that you can get besides HIV. Many people will brag about having a negative HIV test, but won’t get a full STD screening from the doctor – a researcher in Philadelphia told me that he randomly tested 20 men in an inner city barbershop and found that over half of them had Chlamydia.

    What’s the result of the aforementioned factors all coming together, conjoined with intense denial in the black church and a commercialized hip-hop culture where both men and women glorify female degradation and irresponsible hyper-sexuality? An HIV explosion like you would not believe. So, every time you hear about folks going from one relationship to the next or the man with five babies with four different women, just remember that, while all this is happening, viruses, germs and bacteria are being shared with every romantic interaction. Even worse, because the men aren’t getting their reality checks from the doctor, it’s all “out of sight, out of mind.”

    Take a note from the lessons of these women and realize that another Pastor Davis likely lives in your own community. But also note that the Pastor Davis-types of the world are allowed to do their dirty work because all of us continue to empower and excuse the devilish snakes in the pulpit. A person can do all the evil he wants in the world, and as long as he asks for God’s forgiveness in public (providing no further confirmation that his behavior has changed), we invite him right back into the church and pretend like it never happened. Just go ask R. Kelly.

    Staff Writer; Dr. Boyce Watkins



    Dr. Boyce Watkins is the founder of the Your Black World Coalition. For more information, please visit http://BoyceWatkins.com.
     
  2. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    I suppose faith couldn't prevent you from getting AIDS after all. What good is it when reality seeps into the horrid events?

    Poor people in the church. If they think prayer can ameliorate all this, then they are only killing themselves.
     
  3. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    That had absolutely nothing to do with faith. Don't muddle the facts. That was a sociopath taking advantage of women who trusted him, no different than a coach or a doctor. He's a piece of shit.
     
  4. Bliss

    Bliss Well-Known Member

    Absolutely concur.
     
  5. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    If he's in a position of trust, muddled with faith, then certainly it's all fair game to criticize the bastard.

     
  6. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    That's like saying football contributed to the molestation of those kids in PA. Football had nothing to do with it, it was some piece of shit abusing his position of power to take advantage of innocent people. No difference at all.
    Even men of science (doctors) do the same exact thing.
     
  7. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    Molestation of children? Poor analogy. A better one would be the Catholic Church mixing guilt and chastity for the sake of your faith. There's no supernatural element, let alone reinforcement of guilt and delusion to soft rugby you call football, so that doesn't apply. I see what you're saying, but you're not even close to a proper analogy.

    Try again.

     
  8. GQ Brotha

    GQ Brotha New Member

    What a fucking disgusting degenerate piece of shit.

    Fucker should be hung from his balls frankly.

    Stories like this make your blood boil at how callous some people are.

    Even the one's that run around spouting religion and God while doing dirty, dastardly deeds.
     
  9. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    What are you talking about? It's not like dude tricked these women into believing sex with him would cleanse them of all of their "sins"
    Dude was in a position of power and abused that power to manipulate those women. Whatever the mechanism might be the end result is still the same. This had nothing to do with the supernatural just a sick dude taking advantage of women. I don't get how this became another crusade against religion for you.
     
  10. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    Listen carefully and pay close attention:

    1. Was he in a position of power? Yes
    2. Did he abuse that position of power? Absolutely.
    3. Was that the sole component? No.

    The point being is that while the women put a lot of trust in this person, there's also a psychological component driven by the very thing they believe in. There are many variables to go by, but the best one would be "Mmmm, he's a man of faith, so he must be an honest person." That would compel individuals, fueled by a shared belief system to actually allow their oxytocin to build and in the end, get into a dilemma.

    Don't get me wrong, you're correct that he abused his power, but it's also fueled by other variables of that kind.

     
  11. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    Dude there are times where I agree with you the craziness of the devout but it doesn't apply to this situation.
    He was in a trustworthy position. No different than a cop who pulls over a woman in the middle of the night in an unmarked car and rapes her or doctors/dentists who put women under and molest them or coaches who invite young boys over to "rough house" in the basement. These are all people who prey on the trust bestowed to them by the public. Clergymen are no different.
    Faith may be at play here but no more so than it is when applied to any other institution. And its sad because at this point no one is trustworthy anymore.
     
    Last edited: Aug 29, 2012
  12. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    Absolutely. I cannot dispute that fact, but there's an extra layer to this particular case, especially when dealing with religious institutions. That's all I'm adding to this frothy mix of smoothie fecal matter.

    Trust can be misplaced, that's a fact. But, who's to say that other factors are considered here?

     
  13. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    I'm just going by the text in the article. If its later presented that he offered religious absolution then you'd have a point but until then....
     
  14. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    Fair enough then. Maybe I'm thinking too ahead in this ordeal.

     
  15. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    I appreciate your fair minded resolution on the matter sir. And to be fair that's usually a priest move to sell people on a faith based excuse to take advantage. Pastors usually prey on single lonely women since there are so many of them in the black community.
     
  16. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    Some would be lonely. Some would be married. Either way, an authoritative beast causing havoc.

     
  17. Bookworm616

    Bookworm616 Moderator

    That's disgusting.

    I hope he gets locked up for life. Someone should tattoo his chest in big bold letters: I AM HIV POSITIVE....

    a la The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo.
     
  18. satyr

    satyr New Member

    They stay stuck on stupid in the black church. Nobody wants to talk about AIDS when it effects the black community the most. Nobody wants to talk about sexuality when its obvious that half the choir is gayer than Liberace and Luther put together.
     
  19. LA

    LA Well-Known Member

  20. JordanC

    JordanC Well-Known Member

    Those poor women. What an jerk he is.
     

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