I hear you guys but as of late I realize how short this merry go round is called life. My friends boyfriend died at the end of last year only a couple of years older than me. He had stage 4 cancer and didn't even know it. Tall lean healthy looking guy and was carrying around cancer and then died 4 months after the diagnosis. I don't know where this thing is gonna go with me and this girl but if anything I want to give her this gift because meeting her awakened something in me I thought was long dead. I really believed that excitement was gone I've seen it all and done it all. It's good to know life still has some positive surprises.
That's why I like the thought behind his gift. He's not just throwing a $100 gift at her in an attempt to impress, he's put thought into something special for her. I think it shows that he values thought and effort, not just meaningless gifts. TDK regardless of what you do for her bday, I think she'll know soon enough that you're not the one to just throw money at a woman so whatever you do for her, she'll appreciate it because she'lol know it came from the heart.
Awesome! Glad to hear, and I hope it continues to blossom. Also.... as many of the others said... I like the gift idea. I definitely wouldn't focus on the dollar amount. It's clearly a thoughful gift, and I'm sure she'll appreciate it.
He's not proposing to the girl, he's just giving a gift from the heart that he thinks she'll love. If she's as good a woman as he thinks (hopes), she'll love it regardless of whether it cost a dollar or a thousand dollars. I think sometimes men are too guarded with their feelings, trying not to "rush things" but they eventually lose the interest of the one they like because playing aloof backfires. It's childish imo. If I'm dating a guy and he tries to act like joe cool, no emotions, no attachment/feelings about the relationship, I'd be gone. I don't play games, be upfront and own your feelings. That's how you get the respect of a real woman.
I told a young guy (25) at work who's been dating his gf for about 6 months about this idea and what it cost and then how long TDK and this woman have been going out. His first response was "Super clingy, creepy guy." :smt081 I was like "Whoa..."
Its not about being aloof....its about waiting and not coming off as rushing things. U can tell a woman you enjoy spending time with her in the first 6months but this is almost like aaying "i love you". The gift is cool....its not the time.
He said it's been a little over a month. Yes, it's still early, but they've also been communicating pretty regularly. In TDK's own words they usually talk for over 1 hour each time. That tells me that there's plenty of mutual interest. I just don't see this as rushing. Maybe things are different since I'm in my late 40s .
a month in is too soon in my opinion...especially with V day right around the corner too...to me it screams trying too hard I also think that TDK should take a step back..he always gets angry about how much money he is spending and has regrets later
Lol A whole hour a day!!!!!???? In 2 months theyll should live together and 3 months later get married . ;-)
I guess I just can't see the comparison between a thoughtful gift at 1 mo in, and I love you. They're worlds apart imo and this gift is nothing more than what you'd give to a friend whom you really even so I don't think it's rushing at all. That's jmo tho. I agree. I think people really limit themselves by second guessing how others will view them. Crazy. If he likes her and wants to do a thoughtful thing, do it. We get one life, why live it worried about how you'll be perceived ya know?
Well at that age you know the cost of stuff but never the value of people. He's at an age where perception and what others think still matters to him. I won't knock him because I would have said the same thing at 25 but I'd rather to true to myself rather than worry about how things look. Besides why would I want a woman who can't appreciate sincere thoughtfulness?
Never once has it been about money it's always been about entitlement and lack of appreciation. I never spend what I can't afford.
In my defense, I did say get her something equally as thoughtful for her birthday. Then give her the book later when they've gotten deeper into their relationship. I never said he should show no emotions, play Joe cool or not form any attachments or feelings regarding the relationship. I simply thought he should slow up a bit. It's only been a month. Being a little cautious, but still openly and honestly moving toward a relationship with someone is not playing games. Real women respect that, too. Bruh, we old. We better rush. We coming up on the other side of that hill and our knees could go at any time. ...lol Fam, as I said, do what you feel. If it works out great. But, if it doesn't that's great because you find out sooner or later. One thing that worries me, though. You posted that you'd thought you would never feel this again. Don't allow yourself to believe that. If this doesn't work, you'll eventually meet another who'll make you feel all teenage girly inside. Love is like that. Especially when you're not expecting it but open to anything.
Exactly....its the new thing...then he will notice the pimple on her elbow and go "eeewww" Dudeny12 played the age card
