I would never ask, but not because a fear of rejection. I am rather ambivilant about marriage. I am neither for nor against it which means it is usually my partners choice. I also dont think a man marrying me is a sacrific. If anything, he is lucky to have me. And I should feel just as honored and blessed to have him in my life.
I look at it this way: both people may be on the same page, and if the woman proposed, the man would agree. You probably won't, if you have any intuition, propose to somebody unless you're sure of the answer. But, I want the decision to come from him. He's the man. I have a friend who dated a guy for many years, and he never proposed. Well... she just lost interest eventually. He didn't let her know whether or not she was the one he wanted to spend the rest of his life with, and she waited and waited, and then sure enough moved on.
I've heard one man put it best: if you know she is the one, go ahead and close the deal. If you know how special she is, you can be sure other men do too.
And they're usually (well ideally) more serious when it comes to marriage. For them it's a lot of responsibility, and not just "OMG I'll finally get to choose what white dress to wear." Which is, again, why they get to be the proposing party.
Hmmm....I don't think I'm "allowed" to wear a white dress anymore, if I choose to get married again! :smt081
Off-white is acceptable for a second wedding. Not allowed, my foot! Your second marriage is just as special as the first and probably more so!
Well, in my case, it would be my third. EEK!! Maybe a nice champaign colored dress would be in order. :lol: We shall see if I even get there again!
LOL yah me too. (although I fully intend to get there again) Well you know - now they have all sorts of different colors out there. I don't really see doing the traditional wedding dress thing though.
Yeah, I've already done the traditional wedding dress thing. If I'm lucky enough to get married again, then I'm going to try something a little different, this time around.
here the bordeaux is very popular now, but only for civil marriages, not religious. It's so cute! I don't think I want a white dress when I (and IF I EVER) get married.
I'm with you on that. If I ever get married it'd be my first but I still don't want to do the whole white dress .. too overdone for my taste. Then again I don't want a traditional wedding either. I'd rather go to Vegas and do it that way.