Strange topic. I've never been with a guy who wanted to share me. But I do know a couple of wm who are into being cuckolds. Their thing is that they like to be dominated (and as far as I can see, they are both bisexual with a preference for black men, but won't admit it). They're both extremely turned on by their women actually having black boyfriends (not just casual lovers) and them being subserviant to the wife and her bm. This includes being 'forced' (lol much to their pleasure) to do sexual things for and with the bm. Don't ask me why...I have NO clue. But that's what they like. Much to their disappointment, they haven't found the "right" women (or bm) yet. Personally I don't think they ever will. Would I ever do this? Ummm...no. I'm freaky, but if I'm in a relationship...that just seems disrespectful to me. :smt009
White and black men have a variety of insecurities about each other. For white men, it is primarily the black male physical and sexual prowess that creates feelings of inferiority. For black men, it is the wide scale command by white men of power and resources over society. In the one instance you have insecurities that stem from natural causes, and the other from social construction. Both sets of insecurities carry unique mythologies that are parcel to slavery, colonialism, capitalism, politics, and media imagery.
This insecurity may be apparent in some, or many BM, but I imagine moreso only in the younger black ones. After living independent for so long, paying all your own bills, and just being black in America for 40+ post Civil Rights years, leaves many of us with absolutely no reason whatsoever to have any insecurities when it comes to WM. You get to a point in life when certain things that once mattered, you just don't give a rip about anymore.
Eq,you must be going on a death wish to have those White guys watching you shagging their women. The sex maybe good but,it somehow fulfills a stereotype.
I once had a white b/f who had these "sharing" fantasies... in his case I think it was more related to the fact he had a bit of an obsession with domination. Well, that's one thing but when you start getting third parties involved... I found it a huge turn-off and also kind of creepy! Just one of many issues that led to our break-up.
Sun Tzu was right in his Art of War by knowing your enemies insecurities it is the best way to defeat or manipulate them.
i have come across this before , a WM tried explaing it to me he said that he loved whole fantasy of it about his girl craving for BBC , he said he wasnt small but probably interacial porn made him feel that way. Which i can agree with as it will do fall all races. He said he wouldnt ask his gf about it because he knows the answer would really be no. But he said he still gets turned on by the thought of a BM an WW together. My view is if a couple of talked it through and made sure they do things safely i dont see anything wrong with it.
I haven't done that in QUITE awhile. I was a MUCH younger man. I wouldn't do it as a single man today. FYI - The couple of times I did, there was NO joining in by the WM.
^^^^Malik, I'm still around. Just been grindin' hard with work. I still drop posts here and there. Good to hear from you, good brotha !
:shock:I didn't even knew this type of ppl exist.Also,any man white/black/latino/whatever who wants to share you with another man (no matter the race) doesn't probably have any feelings for you, not even to mention respect.
Are you sure about that? So then how do you explain the long term, happily married, but "swinging" couple. The term "Swinging" means the couple share, or swap sex partners with other couples, or select single individuals. Some couples may say that their sex life is more exciting, which makes their marriage more thrilling, along with an even stronger bond, because of this sharing partners. I'm not advocating this lifestyle, but am only saying, you can't judge what other consenting adults do in the name of love, respect, and happiness, just because it's not your cup of tea.
Well said rinnaye. There's good and bad people in every type of relationship. I've read some messageboards discussing this so called cuckold lifstyle and it does attract some weirdo types who play up racial stereotypes. However, I've also seen some swinger ads where the wife only "plays" with black men and they seem relatively normal and don't talk about stereotypes....just preferences. Whether it's this lifestyle, or swingers.....i think some people use it as a defense mechanism. So mant people eventually cheat in long term relationships (close to 50%). So some people rationalize it in that they somewhat control what their partner does and do it with.
Thank You Mr. Noir You're so very right! I just wanted the OP to broaden their horizons a lil, and try not to be so harsh on others, just because they may happen to find their happiness in less traditional ways. If it was left up to tradition, places like this message board would be an abomination.
dont know if this has been said yet becuase Im not patient enough to read through the whole thread, call me totally crazy but Ive always thought when white guys (not all, for some its the idea of another man with his woman) get into black guys having sex with their women I always think that there is strong homoerotic undertone to it all. Call me nutty and I have no evidence to back this but its just slightly strange how some guys become very preoccupied with the idea of another mans junk. (just look at some of the porn that exists) I live in San Francisco and I've seen a lot but if one of my boys started on about wanting to see his girl with another guy and took it to the direction that some guys take it I would have to question it in my head.
