I came across a question on Yahoo Answers and saw this answer. I couldn't help but copy and paste what this guy wrote. "it'll be hard for you, as a black male, to find an attractive white woman who will love and respect you unconditionally. unless you're extremely wealthy (e.g., a professional athlete, singer, or rapper/hip hop artist), the ones you will find for whom there will be mutual attraction will likely be socially inept and not terribly attractive, as is usually the case when you see black men with white women. The exceptions you see are all high profile couples (for example, Seal and Heidi Klum, Ben Harper and Laura Dern, Ellen Pompeo and Chris Ivery); once every blue moon you'll see a nice looking, educated black guy with a nice looking white girl on that same level in terms of attractiveness and level of education, but this is extremely rare, because white American women generally grow up with a very subtle, subconscious bias against black men- it is for this reason that popular attractive white females do not date black men, because there are plenty of attractive white men who are interested in them. The ones who are most likely to go for black men are those who have dealt with a lot of rejection from white and Hispanic men. Why do they resort to dating black men? Because they know that a lot of black men (certainly not all) are out there looking for white women, just as you are- and that, socially, having a white woman is an absolute premium for black men. This is why you often see handsome black men with not so attractive, overweight (and often obese) white women- the men see some value in having a white female partner, and the women know that, no matter what type of physical appearance they have, that black man will love them and take care of them. I don't think that's a bad thing at all, however- you should date the kind of women you are most attracted to in my opinion. If you live in a very conservative area, you may want to consider moving to an a different part of the country where interracial couples are more prevalent." What do you think of this statement? Do you believe any of this?
No. The writer of those statements is just playing up stereotypes. The only thing that really made sense was pretty white women having plenty of white men to choose from. (Which is a no-brainer). And yes, some of the things he said have some truth to them because stereotypes are derived from common occurences. Some BM--or men in general--see WW as a premium. (lighter is better). But the parts where he says you often see handsome black men with not so attractive WW is BS. Same with the 'you must be rich' statements. Or the 'ones who go for black men are the ones who have dealt with a lot of rejection from WM and hispanic men'. BS. Yes, some people will tend to gravitate towards different kinds of groups if they find themselves having problems with a particular group.
I don't care about this statement because I know it's not true for my relationship and that's the only interracial relationship that really matters to me.
This guy would worry himself sick if he knew about the large amounts of attractive/beautiful ww who have a preference for BM on a lot of the online dating sites. I'm amazed by how difficult it is for people to admit that some bm and ww date each other because they're attracted to each other and in love. They also tend manufacture a bunch of artificial reasons as to why we date one another.:smt021
This guy then would be very upset if he saw my girlfriend of 4 months. She looks just like that girl A.J. Cook whose in that television series Criminal Minds. She is a natural blond with baby blue eyes. Very attractive and extremely passionate in bed.
