what do white women love about black men?

Bookworm616 said:
You shouldn't have to justify anything to anyone. Just do you.

There will always be people who have a problem with whatever it is you're doing or not doing....no need to justify your actions to anyone. If people have a problem with it, chances are pretty great that they won't accept your answer anyway....
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I do...and you're right, but for the most part, I was being facetious hence the weight and age thing. He has a skewed perception of WW and is obviously narrow minded. I was just adding my two cents. It won't help regardless, but oh well.
 
andrae09 said:
How am I being shallow, I think I bring up a valid question. Hope I didn't offend you sweetheart.
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Not possible Andrae.

If your questions are legitimate and not some poorly conceived attempt to bait people, then I would suggest you go back and read the threads that address your questions, as there are quite a few. I believe you will find that the women on this forum are not shallow, and in fact care very little about your skin color, or how well endowed you believe yourself to be.

As for white women only attracting black men because they can't do any better, that implies that black men are somehow second rate, or less attractive in some way as compared to white men, as well as having lower standards for the women they date. I know that is not how you phrased it, but the meaning is the same. That's complete rubbish.

I have dated both black and white men, and was married to a white man. I have no preference between the two. Skin color just isn't something I consider, if I'm attracted to you it likely has nothing to do with your physical appearance. I am approached equally by white men and black men. I will say though that the black men I know, and have known, don't critique me on every little thing. White men I know tend to try to change me to suit their vision of the 'ideal woman', i.e. you shouldn't do this, you shouldn't wear that, etc. I have never once had a black man give me shit because of what I thought, what I had on, what I do with my time, or what kind of music I like to listen to. I can't remember the last time a white man didn't. That is likely just my personal experience, as I wouldn't think the ability to accept people as they are would vary by race.

As for the age and weight of women here, I can only speak for myself, and I suspect I'm your worst nightmare:

Age 41
Divorced
2 kids
Not overweight (though that depends on what you consider to be overweight, if you're idea of thin is being able to count every rib, I'm probably fat in your book) :)
 
Inner Beauty said:
I do...and you're right, but for the most part, I was being facetious hence the weight and age thing. He has a skewed perception of WW and is obviously narrow minded. I was just adding my two cents. It won't help regardless, but oh well.
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Inner Beauty I asked a question I didn't make a statement so you have clue as to whether or not I am open minded or closed minded. I am sorry if you took what I said personally but this is an open forum for discussion. Keep your emotions in check. The only critique I had of WW on here was that the common thread was that the women liked black men because of skin contrast big genitalia and "swagger", it's all pretty surface based. I didn't say anything that other people didn't post through out this discussion. I tend to date more white women then anything else and I have to say its more of personality thing. You guys tend to be more easy going and more open to new experiences. That's whats hot to me. The physical stuff is important but white women are not the only people with light eyes and long hair. Geesh
 
EspyInHeels said:
Not possible Andrae.

If your questions are legitimate and not some poorly conceived attempt to bait people, then I would suggest you go back and read the threads that address your questions, as there are quite a few. I believe you will find that the women on this forum are not shallow, and in fact care very little about your skin color, or how well endowed you believe yourself to be.

As for white women only attracting black men because they can't do any better, that implies that black men are somehow second rate, or less attractive in some way as compared to white men, as well as having lower standards for the women they date. I know that is not how you phrased it, but the meaning is the same. That's complete rubbish.

I have dated both black and white men, and was married to a white man. I have no preference between the two. Skin color just isn't something I consider, if I'm attracted to you it likely has nothing to do with your physical appearance. I am approached equally by white men and black men. I will say though that the black men I know, and have known, don't critique me on every little thing. White men I know tend to try to change me to suit their vision of the 'ideal woman', i.e. you shouldn't do this, you shouldn't wear that, etc. I have never once had a black man give me shit because of what I thought, what I had on, what I do with my time, or what kind of music I like to listen to. I can't remember the last time a white man didn't. That is likely just my personal experience, as I wouldn't think the ability to accept people as they are would vary by race.

As for the age and weight of women here, I can only speak for myself, and I suspect I'm your worst nightmare:

Age 41
Divorced
2 kids
Not overweight (though that depends on what you consider to be overweight, if you're idea of thin is being able to count every rib, I'm probably fat in your book) :)
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My implication wasn't that Black Men are second rate but we are definitely treated that way in this country. We are historically the most hated people in this country so when I make statements or ask questions about preference I think that it's fair play. I don't like you're implication of me thinking that not being overweight means to have ribs showing. Take a look at a height weight index sometime there is a weight associated with your age and height to promote good health. I CAN'T STAND WHEN WOMEN MAKE IT SEEM LIKE THERE'S ONLY A CHOICE BETWEEN OBESITY AND ANAREXIA. Can we start being a little healthier please.
As for your age I was only implying that as a woman gets older that her options tend to dwindle, society's rule not mine, so with less options are the second class citizens more desirable. I wasn't trying to be offensive just asking a question.
 
andrae09 said:
Inner Beauty I asked a question I didn't make a statement so you have clue as to whether or not I am open minded or closed minded. I am sorry if you took what I said personally but this is an open forum for discussion. Keep your emotions in check. The only critique I had of WW on here was that the common thread was that the women liked black men because of skin contrast big genitalia and "swagger", it's all pretty surface based. I didn't say anything that other people didn't post through out this discussion. I tend to date more white women then anything else and I have to say its more of personality thing. You guys tend to be more easy going and more open to new experiences. That's whats hot to me. The physical stuff is important but white women are not the only people with light eyes and long hair. Geesh
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Wow...To think if I was really taking this personally. It's not that serious. I responded to you, period. No need to keep emotions in check, when you're asking a forum of WW (and BM) a question, so how is one to respond if not from a personal perspective?

You did ask a question, but presented it as a consensus since that's what your White girlfriends and friends have experienced. You did come at WW wrong with your opening post, so don't sit here and act like there wasn't some ill intent behind your post.

Who said WW have the rights to long hair and light eyes? WTF? lol
 
The issue of that beautiful "contrast" comes up alot in conversations with WW about their attraction to BM. As a WM, I can only add that that aspect is probably an innate allure to all white people. After all, who can't appreciate chocolate on vanilla? :-)
 
andrae09 said:
As for your age I was only implying that as a woman gets older that her options tend to dwindle, society's rule not mine, so with less options are the second class citizens more desirable. I wasn't trying to be offensive just asking a question.
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That's not society's rule, that's some bullshit thought up by some woman somewhere who needed to justify to herself why her options dwindled. Cosmo and Vogue print meaningless drivel like that on a regular basis, and too many women and men buy into it. I assure you it does not apply to all women over 40. And again I say that black men aren't second class citizens, despite what you think society as a whole believes. I cannot believe you are comfortable, as a black man, referring to yourself as second class. I agree there are far too many narrow-minded people that are all to happy to label everyone, I'll be damned if I'm gonna buy into their crap and do it for them.
 
EspyInHeels said:
That's not society's rule, that's some bullshit thought up by some woman somewhere who needed to justify to herself why her options dwindled. Cosmo and Vogue print meaningless drivel like that on a regular basis, and too many women and men buy into it. I assure you it does not apply to all women over 40. And again I say that black men aren't second class citizens, despite what you think society as a whole believes. I cannot believe you are comfortable, as a black man, referring to yourself as second class. I agree there are far too many narrow-minded people that are all to happy to label everyone, I'll be damned if I'm gonna buy into their crap and do it for them.
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I have to agree on all points.
I have to agree my options are way wider than when I was younger... I have a wider range of men approaching me now compared to when I was in my 20s.
Larger age range and larger ethnicity range.
I think today is much different than just 10 years ago. The acceptance of age difference for an example has increased.
And this second class stuff just made me sick to my stomach.. how sad.

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After thinking some more about this, I think the wider "options" are to an extent due to the fact that I care less about what people think and also is exposed to a wider range of people in general compared to my clubbing years:-) Just seems to me that the age range of men today is way wider than back then.

I think Andrae, has the women on this site pegged pretty wrong on why they date interracial and have not read much about what women here acctually has posted about the subject, nor looked at their profiles.. I suspect the possibillity of a troll.
 
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EspyInHeels said:
That's not society's rule, that's some bullshit thought up by some woman somewhere who needed to justify to herself why her options dwindled. Cosmo and Vogue print meaningless drivel like that on a regular basis, and too many women and men buy into it. I assure you it does not apply to all women over 40. And again I say that black men aren't second class citizens, despite what you think society as a whole believes. I cannot believe you are comfortable, as a black man, referring to yourself as second class. I agree there are far too many narrow-minded people that are all to happy to label everyone, I'll be damned if I'm gonna buy into their crap and do it for them.
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I think you misunderstood me because I don't think of myself as a second class citizen I was only referring to how my country treats people with the same background as me. Personally the whole different races thing is a bunch of horse shit. Human beings are the closest in being genetic matches with one another than almost every species on earth. That's why we can use each others organs and live off one anothers blood. Truthfully I don't see myself as black that's the label society imposses on me because racial divides keep the poor concentrated on the most superficial nonsense while the rich corporate elite takes advantage of the rest us.
 
Flyingeek said:
I have to agree on all points.
I have to agree my options are way wider than when I was younger... I have a wider range of men approaching me now compared to when I was in my 20s.
Larger age range and larger ethnicity range.
I think today is much different than just 10 years ago. The acceptance of age difference for an example has increased.
And this second class stuff just made me sick to my stomach.. how sad.

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After thinking some more about this, I think the wider "options" are to an extent due to the fact that I care less about what people think and also is exposed to a wider range of people in general compared to my clubbing years:-) Just seems to me that the age range of men today is way wider than back then.

I think Andrae, has the women on this site pegged pretty wrong on why they date interracial and have not read much about what women here acctually has posted about the subject, nor looked at their profiles.. I suspect the possibillity of a troll.
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Thanks for resorting to name calling its nice to see that we can be mature adults. Again for the second time I asked a question and did not make a statement so I didn't peg anyone as anything. I read what women posted on here and I did address that I notice a lot of women did say they loved THEIR men for reasons other than the superficial. I just wanted to know more about women who looked at us as just sexual objects who accept their bad habits. I didn't say all white women on here were a certain way. I think you should take another look at my posts and stop being so emotional. I love how you and other women on here have taken what I've said so personally. This is an open forum am I not allowed to ask a question?
 
andrae09 said:
Thanks for resorting to name calling its nice to see that we can be mature adults. Again for the second time I asked a question and did not make a statement so I didn't peg anyone as anything. I read what women posted on here and I did address that I notice a lot of women did say they loved THEIR men for reasons other than the superficial. I just wanted to know more about women who looked at us as just sexual objects who accept their bad habits. I didn't say all white women on here were a certain way. I think you should take another look at my posts and stop being so emotional. I love how you and other women on here have taken what I've said so personally. This is an open forum am I not allowed to ask a question?
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Dear Andrae.
I fail to see where I resorted to name calling. Supsecting that you are a troll is not name-calling (and oh, immature) and for you to peg it as that is pretty funny acctually. Since when is that namecalling, you must have very thin skin if you can not live with the fact that some people on here might suspect that your writing a bunch of stuff just for the purpose if stirring things up, some of your posts acctually fit that imo.

If you subscribe to the idea that I or many other of the women on here responding to you got emotional and took it personally - then I must say you have a vivid imagination and took in upon yourself to interpret wildly between the lines.
I dont waste my time on being emotional over your posts and I dont take it one bit personal.

However, when you post things that people dont agree with, you will have to expect to meet resistance. I still think you have failed in reading enough posts to see what the vast majority of women on here are about.
You pegged them pretty harshly and I find it amusing that you seem so surpirsed by the responses you recieve.
You even went so far as to alluding to women on here must be overweight etc... that comment was so stereotypical that I found it funny and a part of the reason I suspected you being a troll.

You might have wanted to know about women looking at bm as objects and not the women on here as a whole, however that is not how you came across.

I dont think you find ww on here that look at bm as objects (dont confuse this one for other forums).
If you spent some time surfing you would know this, the vast majority of women on here dont date bm because of the size of the dick - that is silly...

Take a good look at this site, if you pay attention you will see that this is a site with surprisingly large ratio of well educated/smart/common sense people - for the most part.

If you get a ceratin response for all the responders, then maybe you should not blame all the responders. The logical response from you then should be to look into your posting style instead of blaming everybody else.

You are more than allowed to ask any questions you want of course, it is not what you say, but how you say it. I can think of a plethora of men on here that could ask exactly what your asking without offending people... and as a result, acctually get the answers you wanted.

Just a suggestion.. and oh, until you have proven otherwise, I still will suspect that you might be a troll.
 
Are we really to believe that this newbie showed up and just coincidentally started in with the exact same song & dance as our most notorious repeat troll?

Please.

Shovel bullshit somewhere else, especially with your "I didn't make a statement" crap, like you didn't sum a thread that is predominately full of IR hearts & flowers as a thread that is predominately about shallow sex stereotypes. I read this whole damned thread just the other day. You're mis characterizing it, intentionally, because it suits your anti-IR agenda to do so.

Everyone hates Black Men, especially White Women, except the fat & old ones, who all expect Black Men to fall at their feet. The overwhelming evidence to the contrary must be ignored in favor of your painted reality.

Right? Imagine how you might weep if you were ever forced to admit how many attractive White Women genuinely find Black Men attractive, or how many IR relationships are based on more than dick, or how many have nothing to do with the stereotypes you place upon them? The lakes wouldn't be deep enough for your sorry, sorry tears.


Kick rocks, troll. You ain't fooling nobody.
 
andrae09 said:
I'm new to this site and I liked what I read at first about why white women on here like black men. Very interesting yet shallow reasons ladies. I guess my dark skin and big dick are the most important things about me huh lol.
I am curious about one thing that I notice a lot. Are most white women who like black men rejected by white men and that's why they turn to us as a "choice"? I've had girlfriends and friends tell me "white guys just don't like me", so it begs the question is it truly choice or are we the only ones who will date you?
And are most of the girls on here who date black men are you overweight or over 40? Just really curious.
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I assume you are born in US?

This post is already replied enough..it just makes me sad, what stands behind that questions. It´s the same melody I hear many times in several comments and the longer the more it appears to me that there is a big difference of being with a bm in Africa or in America..
 
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