I have dated a few guys with kids and I personally don't feel comfortable with it. I'd like to be with someone without kids. In my situation and my comfort zones, I have to do what feels best for me. It's not like I haven't given someone a chance. One of the last guys I dated had 2 kid (by 2 different women).
Now this is just the way it's coming off to me, but you don't have to justify your actions or feelings on any topic! Everyone has to do what's best for them. It's when they don't, that problems arise. There's absolutely nothing wrong with the way you would handle this situation.
Thanx Bookie! I just saw how everyone was coming down on Iggy and Andrae for their stance on this and I'm not in the mood to debate. I think it would be different if I had my own kids.
Not coming down on anyone IB. I think you need to decided what works for you and go with it. Knowing what you want is half the battle. I do think the less 'dealbreakers' you have, the better the chance at not missing out on someone who might be great for you. But people need to stick with what they're comfortable with. No one is going to get onto you for stating your opinion, and if they do they can deal with me Chica
Thank you! I agree about having less on your list, but that's something that I can't seem to get over the hump with and I have tried. I'm a very comfort driven person, so this is a big thing for me.
? I can't definitively say no, but having children and going through that process is something I've always thought I would cherish going through with my wife for the first time together. Experiencing those emotions and struggles together would be the idea, but I have no children and remain naive in this life experience. I've never run into this scenario dating as of yet thought? Thoughts?
I feel the same way. I mean if the dude already has kids, most likely, he's been through it (at least most of the dudes I know who are fathers). I want it to be special too. Then again, regarding this whole topic, it's hard to meet someone without kids these days.
I know, right? LOL You don't want to get married again and I do. You don't want anymore kids and I do. Too funny....
Yeah I am the same way. Just wouldnt be comfortable with it. Sure women will say "I'm not looking for a father for them" but if the relationship does in fact get serious, the man will eventually be sort of a father figure. Add in the fact that I dont want to deal with the baby daddy either (watch the film In the Bedroom and you'll understand) But then again what do I know, I'm apparently a "troll" according to one of the mods on here.:smt102
Fuck no. I'm not ready for my own kids, so I ain't gonna be ready for someone else's. My dad always told me don't get involved with women with kids. Not that they're exactly bad, but they aren't my responsibility or my problem and got a long line of shit I need to take care of for myself. I don't wanna feel like it's my job to take part in looking after somebody else's kids. Also, I just don't fucking like kids. I get a shitty look on my face without even knowing it when I hear a group of kids running around Wal Mart, or screaming, or walking in the path a fucking car.
Then why do it to yourself. That's all I need bad ass kids I can't discipline but they can run all over me. Thanks but no thanks.
Not all children are bad ass and require discipline. As I said I wouldn't view any man as a father replacement for my children, but if they were acting inappropriately I'd expect him, or anyone else to point that out to them or to me. However, anyone I respect, my children would automatically respect as well, unless that person gave them a reason not to, so I wouldn't expect any issues to arise. I respect people's right to decide what works for them. If dating someone with kids doesn't appeal to you, don't do it. In general I think if something feels wrong to you, then it is wrong for you.
