Quick question for black guys.

[Espy]

She probably thinks you are a Black man.

You know I actually get that a lot on here, I have no idea why? I honestly can't count on both hands the number of times someone has asked me if I'm actually a man without running out of fingers. At least no one ever accused me of being a troll though.

The OP is trying (and failing miserably I might add) to suggest that anyone involved with IR will face a "litany" of insults and abuse. They are trying to further this negative perception of IR relationships with the hope that it discourages BM and WW from getting together, it's pathetic and transparent.

While we all know dating IR can sometimes bring unique social challenges, somehow in our 19 years together my wife and I have never suffered insults and abuse from WM or anybody else for that matter, but that is not what the OP wants to hear because he is so frightened of and desperate to
paint IR relationships in the worst light possible.

I have never had an issue either Loki, though I know unfortunately it does happen. I think people like the OP prefer to make it seem as if it's the norm in yet another attempt to make IR relationships seem ill-advised. You'd think they'd just realize that's not going to work, but perhaps they are the sort who don't think for themselves and allow others to influence their opinions and so they assume everyone is that weak?

 

[bonsaiiKITTEN]

You know I actually get that a lot on here, I have no idea why? I honestly can't count on both hands the number of times someone has asked me if I'm actually a man without running out of fingers. At least no one ever accused me of being a troll though.

Well, your ankle DOES look slightly tanned, come to think of it.

 

[Espy]

Well, your ankle DOES look slightly tanned, come to think of it.

LOL! You made me look. I actually have a large birthmark on my left ankle, which is why I don't post pics showing my left foot, but I thought maybe I screwed up.

 

[Loki]

but perhaps they are the sort who don't think for themselves and allow others to influence their opinions and so they assume everyone is that weak?

Very insightful Espy, hard to truly know what goes on in what passes for a "mind" with a racist troll, but I would wager that group-think and sheeple type thoughts are rampant... along with a lot of tumbleweeds.

 

[Espy]

Very insightful Espy, hard to truly know what goes on in what passes for a "mind" with a racist troll, but I would wager that group-think and sheeple type thoughts are rampant... along with a lot of tumbleweeds.

Yep, looks about right Loki. :smt036

 

[SmoothDaddy101]

Where are all these morons coming in from lately?

 

[The Dark King]

Good post Andrea, you gave her more than she deserved. I would rep you if I could.


Thanks
You asking or demanding respect......See this is the Pandora's box. This poster believes we and BM like us are disrespectful to Black women.



This poster is not honest enough to speak plainly about who are they are and what they have to say. Instead of just speaking their mind, she asks questions that will lead to the argument she wants and is prepared to have. As ESPY said, she crying foul now that we don't want to play along.

She's lame and anyone can see that

 

[The Dark King]

You know I actually get that a lot on here, I have no idea why? I honestly can't count on both hands the number of times someone has asked me if I'm actually a man without running out of fingers. At least no one ever accused me of being a troll though.



I have never had an issue either Loki, though I know unfortunately it does happen. I think people like the OP prefer to make it seem as if it's the norm in yet another attempt to make IR relationships seem ill-advised. You'd think they'd just realize that's not going to work, but perhaps they are the sort who don't think for themselves and allow others to influence their opinions and so they assume everyone is that weak?

We're giving the poster too much credit, it's obviously a girl who has a hard time getting the guys she wants and chooses to use this place to vent her frustrations in thinly veiled posts.
As soon as she gets some dick she'll be ok unless she looks like Precious then its a wrap

 

[Espy]

We're giving the poster too much credit, it's obviously a girl who has a hard time getting the guys she wants and chooses to use this place to vent her frustrations in thinly veiled posts.
As soon as she gets some dick she'll be ok unless she looks like Precious then its a wrap

Hmm... why do I think it's going to take more than that to make her 'ok'?

 

[exist2live]

I think the OP is specifying a certain group of black men (ignorantly presuming that those type of black men all post here) who say they mostly date interracially because there aren't any good, educated non ghetto classy black women, while evidence points otherwise (black women in college ratio, so on and so forth) . In which case, is only a 'cover'.

Only white dudes like Deniro and Ronin Thicke can like light-skinned BW...you know the drill.

De Niro (the name is two words, not one, sorry ) has been with black women of all shades, if I recall recorrectly. I don't think know Robin Thicke's dating "history" but in an interview he said he's always liked black girls. Although I doubt he would admit he always liked 'mixed/light skin' black girls, if that were the case.

 

[xoxo]

Hmm... why do I think it's going to take more than that to make her 'ok'?

God forbid if her Black man even looks in the direction of a White or light woman. She will probably accuse him of being too shy to admit he prefers white women or other light-skinned women over her.

You know I actually get that a lot on here, I have no idea why? I honestly can't count on both hands the number of times someone has asked me if I'm actually a man without running out of fingers. At least no one ever accused me of being a troll though.

From her prior post I think she assumes that the majority of the posters on here are men.

 

[lilhawk624]

Good question

I actually find this to be a stunningly legit question, which I've also discussed in a few classes.

My simple answer is like you, I love ALL women, not just white or black, but my most recent gf was white.

In as non arrogant or condescending tone, I feel like I would want a women who is astute, and intelligent as I, no matter the race/color.

I feel like since I'm spending the time to take on medical school to become a physician, I want my girl or eventual wife to have some academia behind her as well. It would be awkward If I'd gone that far, but she has an 8th grade education for an example? Not saying it would be impossible, just not too likely, from a man or womens perspective.

That is all-

 

[Espy]

God forbid if her Black man even looks in the direction of a White or light woman. She will probably accuse him of being too shy to admit he prefers white women or other light-skinned women over her.


From her prior post I think she assumes that the majority of the posters on here are men.

That's not a well-founded assumption, but then I suppose that's about par for her.

 

[BlondieLuvsBLK]

I think Black men luvs me cuz im purty..


m.

 

[The Dark King]

I think Black men luvs me cuz im purty..


m.

Don't forget about the booty too lol

 

[Inner Beauty]

It goes against my better judgment to reply to this post but the academic in me is willing to indulge your horse shit briefly.
(1) Do black men sometimes try to cover up their aversion for women of their own race because they are embarrassed/shy to admit they prefer white women or other light-skinned women?

I believe people in general have an aversion to speaking about their preferences if it's outside the scope of what's currently popular or considered normal especially when you know there will some type of social stigma for openly admitting what you like. I for one as a bm didn't verbally speak about about my preference for ww until I was out of high school because I knew that bw in my social circle would make a big deal about it, but here in lies the hypocrisy because when wm have a preference for Asian women or any other race they aren't called out for covering up. Same thing for bw who only like to date wm or hm and talk about having a pretty baby with "good hair" nothing is ever spoken about their aversions or self hate.
Why is skin complexion under such scrutiny? When a man prefers blondes to brunettes or tall women to short women or chunky women to skinny women there is no talk of aversion or embarassment. Why is skin the litmus test for how a relationship will fare?

(2) Are black men willing to settle down with a gorgeous bw who is educated and well-off without having to deal with the societal hastle of coping with and IR relationship. Or are they more willing to settle down with a gorgeous ww who is educated and well-off, while having to deal with a litany of racial insults and abuse from white male counterparts?

Here you make a plethora of assumptions:

1. You assume that being in a IR relationship in 2010 is like what would have been like 50 years ago. Even we take social pleasantries out of the picture no company wants to be sued for dumb shit like that, no one wants to get fired for a racial insult that will blemish their professional career for years to come so I doubt that's a real problem.

2. You assume that IR dating is a monolithic experience, like there is a one size fits all approach to all of this and the truth is that it's far more complex than simply just being a bm and ww. You have to ask how does education level and socio-economic environment play out in these scenarios and is it only something experienced or more heavily experienced amongst bm and ww coupling? But I'm sure you know this since you're studying sociology.

3. Even the way you ask the question shows a clear bias to bm dating ww instead of bw. The question shows that you think love or even coupling is like shopping for new shoes. That men are just going to the white girl emporium instead of black rite. Did it ever occur to you that two people might actually like each other and be attracted to each other based on something far more important than just skin complexion.

I know that you wrote this thread to start arguements and unfortunately you've exceeded but if you decide to continue participating on this site please take the time to realize everyone here is a lot more than just a bm and a ww. Just like I'm sure you're more than a race baiting child, I'm sure you don't hate anyone or wish harm on us but seriously let us do us. Let us enjoy the site without you trying to make a mockery of it.
You don't have to understand it but you do have to respect it.

 

[z]

I think Black men luvs me cuz im purty..


m.

Blondie, Noone will accuse you of having a low self esteem, lol.

 

[archangel]

Howdy folks, I'm a black male who pretty much loves all races of women so I'm not sure if this question is pertinent to the members of this forum but I was simply curious...

I understand that many black men prefer to be with white women and that is perfectly cool but I was just thinking.... My sociology professor recently told me that there are more black women in college than black men (at my specific school there are almost twice as many bw as bm) and they tend to have much higher GPA's, are much more likely to finish their education, to be more independent, wealthy and educated, yet they find it very difficult to find/attract black men. I've run into a lot of black men who complain that there aren't enough successful/sophisticated black women around but if you look at virtually ANY college campus, university campus, or p.h.D program in the country you would realize that that is basically hog shit. They are literally crawling out of bookstores, libraries and campuses, so my two questions are as follows:

(1) Do black men sometimes try to cover up their aversion for women of their own race because they are embarrassed/shy to admit they prefer white women or other light-skinned women?

(2) Are black men willing to settle down with a gorgeous bw who is educated and well-off without having to deal with the societal hastle of coping with and IR relationship. Or are they more willing to settle down with a gorgeous ww who is educated and well-off, while having to deal with a litany of racial insults and abuse from white male counterparts?

I'm posting this because I'm interested in what people have to say, and because I need to come up with creative answers for my final exam

The real long paragraph runs into the same thing women say. It is not about education but about compatablity. The truth is there are more women in college no matter the race in the usa. You don't hear the rest complain. There are more women in the usa than men. The other issue is the high standards for some women. It really hurts them in the end. I have no problem dating a women with a high school degree or associates or higher. If she wants to get a higher degree, I'll support her. This isn't the case with lots of women with higher degrees(not all women). They stick to men with equal or better education or money. It hurts their picks.

1) I think men like women of all colors. We have an attraction to WOMAN. Some have made it more selective but they can still say that there are other women out of their selection that are attractive. Of course again, it hurts their pick to be highly selective. I like women of all colors so I am not the one to answer this question correctly.

2.) This one depends on the man. Men want to settle down with the woman that treats them right.

 

[dafame]

The replies here are a great example of how ignorant people can be when they feel that their position is being challeged. This person was simply asking some simply questions that may have been just a little too relivant to be approached by children.

 

[flaminghetero]

The replies here are a great example of how ignorant people can be when they feel that their position is being challeged. This person was simply asking some simply questions that may have been just a little too relivant to be approached by children.

You and your filthy agenda can go back where you came from.

Whoever started this thread was being disrespectful and just starting shit.