Are men intimidated by smart women?

That's because Andrae understands the concept of agreeing to disagree, and he has manners. It's hard to maintain that when someone is being inappropriate with you, so I applaud him for managing to bow out before he says more than he wants to. Oh and I don't think he has a mean side BMJ, but I do think he has a fierce side and a generally well controlled temper. He and I have a lot in common, and I see a lot of my younger self in his personality.

 

Dude the hardest thing is to curb my desire to rip someone a new one but I'm an adult and I have to act accordingly but damn sometimes I wish I was a kid again lol

 

Damn Espy you really get me ma. I truly adore you for that.

 

Agreed.

Still though, when someone attacks you personally, you (at least i) have no other choice but to strike back. Thats how i was raised and it has little to do with mannerism or being a gentleman. If a girl comes to you incorrectly, you smack her. Simple and plain.

I have high respect for everyone in here, however, andrae was simply stating "a well known fact". And he got attacked for things that didnt even matter in the discussion. To me that would be enough reason to act completely classless.

Agree?

 

That's an Aries thing Andrae, that desire to verbally eviscerate someone who likely really deserves that type of reaction. It's one of the hardest parts to reign in I think, especially when combined with a really bad temper... another Aries trait. We kinda got all the volatile traits, but thankfully they threw in logical and fair-minded to balance them out a bit.

 

Lol aight. keep doing you homie

self defence my brotha. She comes at you with a knife ,dont just stand there and get stabbed. Knock her ass out :mrgreen:

 

Dude I'm right there with you but like Espy said this is such an emotional topic like the weight thing and the immigration thing and when emotions get involved its just a bunch of senseless arguing and who needs that nonsense. I come on here for honest and open debates not to protect someone's damaged inner child

 

Very eloquent observation but talk about a gift and a curse.

 

You know when I was a kid I got jumped by some kids in my neighborhood because I went to private school and never really talked to them. One of kids who jumped me was a chick(the only one I didn't hit) and she got an ego about it so she started punching me everyday until my little brother cracked her across the knee with a stick. She ran home crying and never bothered me again. When we got home I told him mom said we weren't ever suppose to hit girls and replied mom also told us don't be stupid.

 

I agree that at times I think emotion takes over and that prompts people to react in ways that are inappropriate and unwarranted, especially given this is an online forum that in no way impacts real life. In my experience if you touch on something that is an area of insecurity for someone, you'll generally prompt a more emotional response. I think that's just common sense.

While I wouldn't fault Andrae had he lashed out, because I do see the provocation, I am a big advocate of being the bigger person. I know that's not easy to do, and I assure you I understand the strike back mentality BMJ. I'm considerably more evolved than I was in my youth, but prior to that point I got a lot of experience giving as good as I got on that front. Though really you can say pretty much anything you want to me about myself and I've always just shrugged that off as the blatant stupidity I know it to be, however if you really want to push my buttons just say something inappropriate about one of the people who matter to me and I will react.

Now I've learned over the years to mute that tendency, along with my really fiery temper, and you really have to push me hard to provoke a bad reaction, generally I consider the source and determine what's driving their attack and I almost always find it to be jealousy, ego, bitterness, or stupidity, thus leading me to pity them and leave them alone. However there are a few instances where someone just keeps it up long enough for me to tire of their nonsense and at that point it becomes almost a duty to shut them up. If Andrae reaches that point, so be it, like I said I wouldn't fault him or anyone else for reacting to someone who consistently needles them.

I also have to say that this applies to verbal type attacks only, if someone physically attacks you I'd expect you to clean their clock. I don't care if it's a woman or a man, if they hit you they should fully expect you to hit them back. I do not buy into that 'a man should never hit a woman' mentality. If a woman starts it with a man, I have no problem with a man finishing it. You touch someone without an invitation, you should expect no less from them, period.

 

LOL, andrae. If you could stand my feminist liberal rantings and the fact that at my skinniest I was still a chubby marathoner, we might actually have a chance. :smt058

The ex I was talking about worked for a couple of private places, and then started working for NYS. I'm pretty sure that CPA's around here don't pull in as much as other areas. I knew exactly what he made because he was pretty effin' proud of the fact that he made more than I did, especially since I work at a non-profit.

He also considered Italy a third world country, so that should tell you something about being classless..

And hey, didn't you respond to my one comment about how I refer to kids as 'vagina gnomes'? lol In all seriousness though, my issue is more with pregnancy...I think it's twisted and weird and want no part of it. My BF now has a 2 1/2 year old son, and that doesn't bother me so much because I had no part in popping him out. lol

 

Yeah I'm close to the city so anything in finance is gonna make a lot more around here. Yeah the idea of babies freak me out. They're way too small and fragile and cry all the time.

 

True that, my firsts are never sexist.

I mean, its not like I lack respect or whatever. This is just an internet board and nothing we do here affects real life, however, the manner in which we present ourselves and what we say and do is a reflection(in most cases) of who we are, so if anyone tries to disrespect THAT, they deserve to have their neck ringed. That’s me though

I mean, some women (I don’t mean anybody on this site hah)are real bitches and will use whatever they can to attack you; from your post counts to your tendency to post to who you talk to and yadda yadda when the subject matter wasn’t even bout that. Now if it was already an active battle id compeltly understand but if its uncalled for then it’s a battle call.

So yeah, while I agree that you should just turn the other chick , be a bigger person or w/e (yeah right) to keep peace within the community, there are some women that deserve to get knock back to reality (again, nobody in here). I don’t generally lash at anyone in here, and if the attack are baseless then i laugh it out because its pointless, yeah true, but sometimes you gotta set the record straight.

As for actual physical contact, Ive never personally hit a woman that didn’t ask for it, and because so many of mybuddies got locked up for that shit I usually make sure the girl knows shes wrong, by knowing this, she understands that the act of knockin her out was her fault, and therefore inevitable.


ANyways ...back to the topic...intimated by smart women? psshhh...never that. However, Ive actually known females that carried with them a portable IQ test, to determine whether the "date" should proceed. Ofcourse i usally "pass" these so called "tests" however I winded up acting like a complete asshole because,,, well, I can.

I want an intelligent lady(to have intelligent kids...thats a "no brainer"), but fuck, a portable IQ test??. who does that?

 

If you're serious, that's insane. What's the point to that? I suppose if you buy into that whole theory that high IQ people have high IQ kids, then that might be important to you, but really if you're going to get that picky about it just go the sperm bank route for conception. I hear they keep all that info on every donor.

If a man every presented me with an IQ test on a date I'd leave. If you can't figure out if I measure up well enough through conversation, that's too damn bad.

 

Your subliminals are classic kid lol

 

this is interesting coming from someone that for his first 1450 posts basically insulted different posters on this site...yep, i used your post count and your subliminal messages are lame...it's always fun to see men try to be coy...in fact you have also made many a joke about post count and how people who post too much don't have a life blah blah blah...so don't try and back out of it now...unless you want to backpeddle a bit so you can make a new e-friend:smt077

i'm not sure who you are or what you did with bmj...you are doing the same thing in just a more passive aggressive manner...you used to be a straight shooter...

 

Do you think that's why BMJ deletes so many of the posts he writes?? To keep his post count down so he doesn't look like he spends too much time on internet forums? lol

 

ha

Thats not the reason kid. i just dont repeat myself, ever. And having your posts out there at all times is like constantly repeating yourself over and over again. People change ,notions change and whatever you thought yesterday might not be exactly what you think today, So what was said was said and shouldnt be repeated. Those that witnessed the spectacle witnessed it and those that missed ,missed. Thats how i see it.

Nothing to do with how much time i spend on the internet, although i must admit i am a tad bit addicted to this site,:smt003

And lippy, i got numba luv fo ya.

 

This is true with my now ex-boyfriend. He told me up front that he never went to college, after he found out I did. I told him that that didn't matter, because like you, I understand that school isn't for everyone.

However, he loves his job (he's a fireman/paramedic) and he calls it the best job in the world. He's successful and loves his job. What more could a girl ask for?

Unfortunately, it didn't work out, but I know that it bothered him that he didn't have a college degree when I did (because he brought it up on more than one occasion).

 

In general you are right, although I know it different. As soon as you "Talk the same language" (in the way of shouting or insulting back)- you are in the same level, shouting and insulting is always equal of loosing control of the situation.

I know from men that they mostly distance themselves, ie a woman starts to get rude, the people around her start to move- so that she stands outside, nobody talks to her anymore. It is simply embarrassing and nobody wants to be with her anymore. And it´s a disqualification for the future, not just for this evening.

We call them hysteric, very unprofessional.. even if you talk about something emotional- to call someone in a rude way or to attack personal- is no argument.

If the attack is physical- of course you have to defend yourself, but I guess it´s enough to stop her, I see no need in beating back.