Are men intimidated by smart women?

i agree, if someones putting thier hands on you, then they can expect the same back but many people lose control doing this and while the girls maybe slapped the guys face and to me doing this she can expect the same back but some guys go too far and put her in the hospital.

( and before im called sexist i know that situation can go the other way too with the girl flipping out and beating on the guy )

if you feel yourself losing a grip on your self control then its best all round to just walk away and get your emotions back under control

 

Altough I can understand the anger- it´s just not imaginable that a situation like that can happen- at least I´ve never seen it. That a woman does not know, how to behave happenes sometimes, but I´ve never seen a man beating back. They take her, call a taxi and is never seen in that group.

I am not sure, which consequences are worse, but I assume "ours" are harder, it can destroy a lot.

On the other side, you know, you pass a border and it cannot be that we lead our conversations with violence.

 

i was in a club where a girl slapped a guy across the face, he punched her and then threw her down the stairs, the guy had most certainly lost it

ive also read in the papers on occasions guys who are in court for abh and gbh against a woman and brought up in mitigating factors are the fact that she had put her hands on him first

my ex was of the other persuasion. when having a fight with a man, knowing he wouldnt win would come home and start on me insted

all these peope had most certainly lost control of the situation

 

Robina- I agree with you- those kind of people exist, no doubt, but what I wanted to say is that you will never find me in places like that or surrounded by people of that level.

That´s what I wanted to explain, I never experienced such a situation, that a man slapped a woman in a normal situation (I´ve seen it once in a robbery, but this is something else). People, who take care about their style and reputation are extremely rare in such a situation. It´s not even to think about- espesially in public. You are ruined socially, if you let yourself go like this and I mean both genders. There are also people, who don´t even wash themselves, I cannot change that- but please stay out of my life- if you are like that.

I can only advice, don´t sell yourself cheap.

 

i had no idea he was even doing that except for with pictures...he used to try to be the big tease...put up a picture ...let one person comment on it...and then take it down and then the rest of us would be begging to see it...lol...classic trap!

his post count is lower because he doesn't normally post this much under bmj...he likes to entertain us with his alter egos as well so they all have post counts too...he made up beth and she used to hang out in chat to read our conversations...the funniest part is when beth would ask everyone if we thought bmj was hott...lol...i knew it was him and said no...after that i was the focus of his wrath for awhile but that stuff doesn't phase me too much...kinda like boys that would pull your hair in grade school...

let's get back to smart women...this thread got derailed talking about physical violence...

personally i think men in the same age group as a woman are the most intimidated...as if it is a contest....where did you go to school, what was your major, what was your gpa. when did you get your first job offer, starting salary etc...men for the most part find self worth in $$$$...some men do the this is what i am bringing to the table too soon trying to sell themselves and for me that is a turn off...i don't need to know what your salary is or isn't...the most important thing is that you are employed...happy doing something you love and if not taking the measures to change that situation so that your job isn't a daily gripe

 

*Chuckles*

Moving on

 

I would agree that whatever the response it should be proportional Robina. If they hit you and you hit them back, that's fair. Though I will say in my experience it rarely stops there, and also in my experience men rarely punch women, they tend to slap their face instead. I've never seen a man get slapped by a woman and then just completely lose it. However I will say that in my case, you can punch me and I can remain very calm and collected, but if you slap my face I just completely lose it and have no control over the next few minutes. So I can see how slapping someone with a similar response could trigger more of a reaction than expected. In general I think it's just best not to hit another person unless you're okay with having your ass kicked. Like I said I think the response should be proportional, but you can't overlook the fact that if you hadn't started it they wouldn't have had a reason to touch you in the first place. Oh and I have actually known a woman who beat the hell out of her man on a regular basis and he never laid a hand on her because he was taught not to, so women absolutely can go to far as well.

 

Very refreshing to hear this viewpoint coming from a woman Espy. I was raised to never hit a woman and I never have/will (short of a life and death situation, i.e. someone attacking my family ect.). In addition, I must always keep in mind that for someone like myself, big, tall, athletic, my response would have to be to simply walk away if a woman ever hit me. If I hit her back and the authorities were called, they would take one look a me and then I would have no chance of the cops hearing my side of the story.

 

I hate coming into threads late, but I think if a man has confidence in himself, nothing in a woman or anyone else for that matter would intimate him.

 

Amen brother. I've even told girls I date I won't play that choking shit for that same reason if things go wrong....
Big black guy plus little white woman always equals prison.

 

A lot of men were raised as you were Loki, in fact I think that's more the norm than men taught to disrespect women. I was brought up to never raise my hand to anyone unless they hit me first, at which point I was expected to defend myself. I do think it's unfortunate that in situations like this the man often doesn't get the benefit of the doubt due to being male, and often being larger than the woman involved. That's simply unfair. Gender and physical size should be completely irrelevant, the only thing that should be taken into consideration IMO is who struck whom first.

I have taught my children that you always approach everyone with respect, but at the point someone violates that by putting their hands on you, you do whatever necessary to defend yourself. But I also taught them that self-defense should always involve a proportional response, unless you really think they're going to kill you or cause serious permanent injury, in which case fight back with whatever means necessary to avoid that. Ultimately I think you have to instill in people that they are worth defending, to let them know that no one has a right to mistreat them, and part of that is teaching them how to defend themselves, and then not holding it against them if they have to do that at some point..

 

I agree. If you are secure with yourself and who you are and where you are in life, no one should intimidate you with their goals or accomplishments, be you male or female.

If you were secure and confident in yourself then you would always offer support and happiness for your significant other's goals and achievements, not try to degrade them or keep them down.

 

Exactly!

 

Like the sig lol

 

My wife is far smarter than I. I never felt intimidated by her, in fact I like the challenges that she offer me. She has a masters degree and is currently working on a second masters. For me it's a relationship of mutual respect for each other. Men should not feel intimidated by extremely intelligent women. What they need to do is to continue to improve themselves. Women want men who are constantly growing. I believe the white woman and black man relationship when you strip it all down comes to growth in the relationship between the two intellectually, spiritually and yes indeed physically. The contrast of the two are like Ying/Yang. We were born to love and respect each other.

 

Blacktiger, it's always so pleasent to see you talking about your wife in that way. You 2 must be a great couple!

 

Who the hell is making the tags?!

 

Trolls.

It's summertime. I'm guessing that there are some bored kids hanging around.

 

I actually agree with Lippy on all points. Makes one question himself and how much he's in control of his destiny.

 

you do understand smooth that agreeing with lippy is not a popular stance on this forum...i actually had good intentions with this interaction with andrae until he fired the "F" bomb and then i had to take my gloves off...

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