Went to my very first gay pride parade last night. Was very fun! Two days left until Nate gets to meet my parents, hopefully. Yaaaaaaaay
Sorta. I've got the "temp" one they gave me that is just a print out, which could be easily forged. But I'm taking an excess of other identification so I hope if the first onedoesnt work they will accept something else. Otherwise I will bevery sad.
I made it I made it yayayayayay!!!!!!!!! My temp id and my expired license worked!!! Now to travel for the next 7 hrs lol. Super relieved and excited now! YAY!!!
I went over to my parents yesterday and they informed me that I needn't worry about my brother flying in from FL. He missed his flight on Sunday, that my parents booked for him, because he lost his state ID on Saturday night. This is par for the course with my brother. He's never been very reliable. So, he got himself a new state ID and went to the airport yesterday only to find out that he needs to pay a $150 re-booking fee plus another $28 in fees to switch the ticket. So, he's not coming home. I was initially happy, but the more I think about it, the more I realized that staying there, in his situation, is probably not a good thing. I could probably float my parents the money to send to him to re-book his flight, but I'm not sure I want to do that. I'm conflicted about it right now. :smt011
You're a good person for even considering that Bookie. Believe me I understand that particular dilemma, I have a sister who is very much like your brother, and my first instinct is to help if I can, but I've learned over the years with her that she doesn't actually want the help. I think she says she does, so we'll all think she's finally gonna get her shit together and work on changing her bad habits. I think that's just an excuse to get us to take care of her long enough to get back on her feet so she can go right back to her f**cked up life. One thing I have learned, no matter how screwed up I think she is, I need to multiply that by a factor of 10 to get an accurate representation. Unfortunately she's done it to herself, and so she's the only one who can actually fix it. You also get used to the outlandish stories, and learn that everything they say is suspect. Personally I would question the lost my ID, missed my flight story. Sounds like something my sister would do just to get me to send her the money to rebook it, which she'd promptly find some other use for. It's sad that you have to think like that, and I really wish I didn't, but addicts just are not trustworthy people in any respect. :smt011
I have a brother that is like your sister that is like Bookie's brother. My advice is don't help. It only enables them.
This what you do. You get either him or your parents to sign a contract saying that they will repay you. or tell your parents that you will pay half for free or pay for a bus ride.
Been there and done it all, too. Believe me, when my parents told us at the graduation party on Sunday about him losing his ID, I was the most skeptical of the bunch. And I've also been the cheerleader of getting my mom to understand that most of what he says is BS. However, I can't help but think that he WAS sober for 7 years. Maybe he's ready to be sober again, and by this happening, it won't happen. Believe me, I'm the LAST person that wants him here, living with my parents when my daughter and I are going to be there, too, and my change of heart regarding him has been freaking me out all day, but I can't help but think that maybe he deserves a chance. I don't know. I'm sorry to hear that Arch. It's never easy having someone close to you being that way and you're powerless to help them. That's a good idea. I still have some mulling over to do about it, before I even mention it to the folks. IF I did it, it would be under the condition that he's already at the airport and if he doesn't come home, then I'm flying there to kick his ass.
Well personally at the point I'm constantly considering something, or it's really nagging at me to do something, I just do it. I think some things are truly meant to happen, and fighting that is what causes the stress. I say go with what that little voice inside is telling you should do and hope for the best. I've done that twice with my sister, when I just knew I needed to help her out, and both of those instances worked out okay. I wish you best of luck in coming to a decision and implementing it, and I hope for his sake this time he's serious. It's really hard to not be able to trust someone you love. :smt086
you're a beautiful girl joanie, and whatever you decide will be what's best for you, your gorgeous girl & your parents...and if you do pay for the re-booking of his flight, make sure you get paid back...that's vegas money baby...!!! :smt058
I called my Dad tonight and asked him about my brother. He said that they're going to pay the money for him to fly back tomorrow. They said that they'll only do it if he calls from the airport. I told him that I'd pitch in some money and they said they'd think about it. Thank you, sweetie. But don't worry, I have money set aside for Vegas. :smt023
