Well, since Tarshi and I are already married, this is easy... Intrigued gets us both. He can sleep in da middle.... :smt029
:smt023 I think that we are on the same page with this one. I think that I do have different views on the commingling finances, but I understand why you feel the way that you do. I plan on posting about it in the other thread.
9+ pages in 6 hours. That's why I got my popcorn for this thread. A lotta knowledge and a lil bit of entertainment as well.:smt023
:smt025....Puleeze buleeve, I'm patting myself on the back! ...now I just need to write a book and get paid for this!
She is. My dad is a pretty special man too. Once all of us kids were grown, my mom went to work. My dad retired while she was still working. Once he retired, he started helping with the housework and learned how to do laundry. They are each other's rock. My parents will be celebrating their 49th wedding anniversary this December, and they are still going strong.
Wow, that is trully a blessed union. Any of us should be so lucky. {I'm now guilted into stopping fornicating} Sike.
If we can't be honest with the family, whom can be honest with? I think we should be next to star in those Old-Spice commercials....cause we're men damnit!
First of all, I think that if people would just live within their means in this society, we COULD have a lot more stay-at-home parents. It wouldn't be an easy life, but it can be done. People are too focused on big homes and fancy cars, so they do need both parents to work. I digress. I just wanted to say that. On to the topic, my Mom was a stay-at-home Mom. She cleaned, cooked all the meals, did the dishes, etc. My parents just celebrated their 52nd year of marriage. I'm living at home with them now, and I can tell you, I have stepped back into the 50s with the gender roles and I HATE it. I don't think my Dad has ever washed a dish. My brothers have never washed dishes. It's the woman's job to do that. Ugh. I think if both spouses work, then both are equally responsible for the duties in the household: cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. I'm away from the house 11 hours a day. I'm worn out when I get home. I would imagine my husband would be, too. The commute alone is enough to wear me out every day. I shouldn't be expected to do everything once I get home whilst my husband sits around. Sorry. If we're both working outside the home, the duties should be split evenly.
:smt008Well B-dub, that's kind of our point. If you my wife (I should be so lucky), I would not want you working hard, fighting that nasty Chi-town traffic and then having to take care of me (...and yes, I expect that!). Hence the reason why if I could, I'd prefer my wife to stay home.
I think that are wise words.. A couple should look what each of them likes to do more or which one is more gifted in something. For example I was once with a very creative man, but for him to do anything technical was a always a catastrophe. So we had to change the typical roles, or if some one is working twelve hours a day and I have less hours- for sure I take the part of our family house work. As long as the other part is willing to support me- I am willing to give. But if there is an expectation or demand i become the same stubborn.