I think that is a wonderful agreement. Of course I don't feel that children should meet just any date here and there, I feel that the single parent should feel within themselves that the relationship is going somewhere and is solid before they introduce them to the children. 6 months is definately a good time frame to know.
Isn't it cu-razy how some people here feel that you shouldn't even date at all? Forget that some men don't mind either way if you're a mommy - they want to be with you...it's strictly NO DATES, NO WAY, NO HOW!
My ex and I don't have an agreement, but my thought is at least 6 months of dating the person on a consistent basis before I introduce him to my daughter and I will have to be feeling that it could be leading somewhere before I think about introducing him to her. I won't have a parade of men around my daughter. :smt023
very good........very good!!! But I don't know how old your children are. And I guess if one must date this would be the way to do it.
completely agree lovely. i have a couple of friends who would have a parade of men coming in and out of their lives and it confused their kids. if i think a relationship i'm in is going to go somewhere & we're in love and planning a future, then and only then will he meet them and hopefully they will all get along. exactly petal pie. i don't understand why single parents aren't supposed to date. we put our children above all else, work hard to support them, love and cherish them, but we have needs as well and deserve love. i must say that it's quite lonely being a single parent. when the kids are in bed, i'm all by myself
I agree that having a revolving door type situation isn't ideal. My children were very vocal about wanting me to date. They tried to make me set a time frame, pushy little shits.
Congrats sonny, i hope it all goes well for you. As for some of the other posts, i had two kids by the time i was 23. They have the same dad and we were together for over ten years but not married, does that make me a bad person?? Dont judge shit you know nothing about. That is all. :smt018
No actually everyone doesn't. Some of us are capable of considering something without doing that, we don't make a judgment either way because it's none of our business. People make mistakes, those are theirs to pay for, or work past, or repeat... who are you to tell them they are right or wrong?
Excellent post, CB! :smt023 I agree 100%. I never understood women who dragged men in & out of their kids' lives, especially having the kids calling them all daddy. It makes me sick. My son pushes me to date, too. He loves me & he wants me to be happy just like your kids do. That tells me we did a damn good job raising them.
They are incredibly good kids, and I know they are trying to do what they think is best for me... but I was kinda happy with my lifelong solitude and celibacy plan.
My son is a good kid, too...thank God for that! I know where you're coming from though, because I was there for a long time, but I think I'm at a point where I'm ready to really get out there & see what I can get into...lol!
