Is sounding "white" a turn off?

It is bad because it isn't 0. It takes a lot to kill a person and little effort not to.

 

i sound white people are always shocked when I open my mouth, wish my voice was a little deeper but ahwell

 

I don't neceserrilly care for the black man that sounds like or has a lifestyle like some white man. Give me a real black man with that sexy brother man accent.

 

Do I sound white to you?

 

Ha, you see this is the thing for me as a black guy that grew up in an urban environment.

I'm well spoken and mannerly in my presentation and apparance, but growing up in an urban environment I know all the slangs and phrases and how to kick it in Ebonics if I wanted to.

Its kind of like knowing another language having grown up in the environment, it doesn't just disappear.

I save my slang and rough talk for the bedroom moments.

 

What exactly does sounding white mean ?

 

uuuuh but u have sucha a cutie pie voice! u remind me of candies, lol

 

What are you trying to say? That he's a sucker?

 

You all need to stop picking on NN1. I feel EXACTLY what he is saying because I've been through it too.

First of all, sound "white" means: high pitched (lack of bass), educated and proper speaking, and that certain unexplainable "chipper" (happy) pep white people tend to have in their voices. its hard to describe. but many of us, right or wrong, if listening to a voice on a phone, one from a black man and one from a white man, we could spot the difference correctly and not consciously know WHY, but those 3 criteria i just mentioned are probably the things we noticed subconciously.

right or wrong, this is how we determine "white" sounding voice in today's society because thats what we see and hear everyday. its not a "stereotype" if its TRUE!

secondly, i been through this all my life. I have a very higher pitched voice, it used to be much worse but its still much higher than I'd like. I try to lower it when I talk around friends and peers and girls in my age group (i dont disguise it around family though). i dont lower it to the point of sounding like james earl jones, but just enough so that I sound "manly". its a very slight difference but to me its a huge one. combine that lack of bass with the fact i try not to use too much street slang and the fact that im happy alot (or pretended to be, ive actually battled depression for a long time and still do from time to time, but my love life and career are slowing turning for the better so its getting better) and people would say I sounded white, or even GAY. i remember in 5th grade a black girl asked me 'why im so happy all the damn time'?

these comments only came from black people, hispanics, and (i know this is an unpopular term to some) wiggers (white people who act black). as a teen ive had people talk to me on the phone and think i was a girl, ive had a black female customer come up to me once in a store i once worked at and assume I was gay. I dont possess gay mannerisms at all, but she was a very ghetto black woman and me being a preppy high pitched well educated speaking guy, she had to assume that. i used to date wiggers and would deepen my voice tremendously when speaking with them, use the N word, talk with street slang, the whole 9, and im GOOD at it because i hear it everyday in the hip hop i listen to and my older brother is black and acts and talks "black" so its second nature to me ... but its just NOT me. but i pretended it was for certain girls.

you can only do that for so long. at the end of the day NN1, just be you and if that means only being with white bread beckys who dont mind how you sound so be it. "normal" classy suburban white girls ive been friends with and dated have NEVER once commented on my voice sounding "white". ever. they've never thought i was gay. in fact from how aggressive i flirt, how i look at them, and interact with them its clear im straight. in a way i think they are glad i DONT sound like your typical "thug". and that feeling of acceptance for who i naturally am is one of the millions of reasons I stick to them.

but yes i can see how black women, hispanic women, wigger chicks, would find a "white" voice on a black guy unattractive. i know this for a fact because ive experienced it. my advice is to stay clear of those women and date normal white girls who like the way you sound. my very first girlfriend, a white girl from the south, actually told me i have a sexy voice that got her wet. you have no clue how good that made me feel. its all in the eye (or ear) of the beholder....

 

I wonder why people play dumb when shit like this comes up.

 

Dave Chapelle - White Voice (Video)

 

"That certain quality in your voice that makes you sound white!!" I'll admit I do this when I'm on the phone with people especially when I'm talking to some business person. All this talk about talking white I can't forget about acting white! My ex even said to me once that I'm more like a white-dude because I'm sort of nerdy. I decided to dive deeper into what she meant by that and her response was "look how most black men dress then look at yourself". Basically it came down to (cough) swagger..LOL. I have no swagger...

 

Maybe you ought to have reminded here that black guys come in all types. I didn't realize we had to walk around looking like a walking stereotype of the hood

I'll be darned if I walk around with my pants hanging off my ass, looking like a right old fool as a grown man.

I'm an educated, well spoken, well dressed BLACK man and I'll keep it that way.

 

how much booty (female) you gettin with that mentality

 

It comes down to knowing who you are. Those guys with the pants hanging off they ass feed the stereotype because so many women continue to date them. If you see more and more women with these guys some start to believe that is how you need to dress if you want attention. Reality what some of these hood brothers lack in their lives they make up for it in other ways.EX: Person may not have a college education or the best grammer but knows how to be romantic and attentive .

 

To answer the question, from a white woman's perspective, no, sounding "white" isn't a turnoff at all. I think it's actually demeaning to black men when white women act like all black men have to swagger, be "gangsta" or whatever, etc. The black man I dated happened to speak in a "traditionally white" way, and he also wore khakis and polo shirts.

Don't worry about it!

 

I don't know about sounding white but people who talk as if every sentence is questions, and the ones that say LIKE as if they are getting paid by the word usage.

I'm going to the store

Verses...

I"m going to the store?

 

I thought we discussed using that word before? SMH