Amen! A support system is definitely key.... It sucks how people have such disdain and spit such vitriol for people who date "differently" than them.
That's all you can do, unless they come at your physically.... I wish it were more commonplace as a whole...
That's true! I spent Thanksgiving and Christmas with my girlfriend. We've been together for a few years nows, and I gotta say that her family has always treated me just fine. Not just her immediate family, but I'm talking aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents. Even when we go out with them to places, and I know people may stare whether it be in wonder, general glance, or disagreement or curiousity, the fact that they have accepted myself and their daughter's relationship with me as a normal relationship adds a +1 to normalizing such relationships across the board. I would also assume it encourages people in similar relationships.
Thanks! I don't take it for granted, not one bit. As I've had experiences in the past that were quite the opposite of my current ones. I guess the aweful moments have made me appreciate the good ones even more so.
Yeah even me and my gf don't experience the same stares and nonsense I once did when I was in my earlier 20s and teenage years. Or maybe I'm just far less sensative but whatever the case the times are a changing we just have to let it.
I dunno about the whole pulling a gun bit, but the fact that he stood up for his girl like that is sexy. And I have never dated a single WM who would do that. Not saying I want my man to be crazy and always ready to fight, but having the balls to show someone what's up is sexy.
I was thinking the same thing. What I don't get is how anyone can find dumb shit like this romantic. Pulling out a gun on someone because he said ww were good on their knees, that's pure ghetto shit that puts a dude in jail for three years while the same chick is with someone else. Fucking stupid. Ladies how about we shift our thinking on ideas of romance huh. One where I don't have to risk my life or my freedom over your horseshit honor lol.
I'm sorry Mr. Fantastic, I was trying to find in my post where I said I approved of the gun part. Can you show me where please? I'm not talking about kicking someone's ass and ending up in jail. Instead, I meant that when a man sticks up for his woman, that it's nice and not every man would do that. Getting into fights IS stupid, but I'd be hella disappointed if someone said that about me and my man sat back and said "Whatever." That was my point. And I don't know you, but I'm sure respect is important to you as a man. If someone said something that was blatantly disrespectful to your woman about you and she just sat back and didn't say anything, I wonder if you'd be upset then over your "horseshit" respect.
This is where you said it: http://whitewomenblackmen.com/forum/showpost.php?p=427664&postcount=30 RedRaspberry, I think it depends on the situation and what's being said. I actually don't find displays of testosterone all that impressive. It's one thing to say 'You're out of line, man.' and another to threaten to kick someone's ass. Fighting doesn't impress me. I'd break up with anyone who got into a fight over me, or for any reason. I think physical fighting is weakness...so I don't have patience for it. I'd feel the same way about a gun. I won't even date someone who OWNS a gun.
Thanks for saving me the time to say all that DB The whole fighting for respect with violence is childish. At this point in my life I'm only using physical violence if someone is being physically towards me or my family. Besides its 2011 its everyone is litigation happy. You know how expensive throwing a punch is these days? I'd have to take out a loan just to pay the retainer for the lawyer lol.
Damn that fool did 10 years! And he was recently released again. Man some brothas can't get enough of jail. :roll:
I think most men worth their salt will stand up for their woman if she is being disrespected by someone else. I know I certainly would. I'm a very confident and no nonsense individual, so I don't tolerate disrespect. Even if someone doesn't like me, as long as they are respectful in their interactions then its all good. I don't disrespect others and don't take kindly to it.
lol, no problem, MrF. I'm like that, too. If someone is trying to harm me physically, I will fight back (think: mugging in a dark alley). And absolutely, throwing a punch will cost you- depending on who it is you hit. lol I just never understood the fighting thing. I once dated a guy who, as I got to know him better, let it slip that he often got in fights and was considering owning a gun to protect himself. I was like 'Um, how about you stop fighting when you're out?' and he's like 'A man's got to protect himself!' and I was like 'Yeah, you know, I don't think we're going to work out....' Never understood the logic. Even if someone calls you a name...dude, it's just a friggin' name. Walk away. It takes more strength to walk than it does to take or throw a punch....at least as far as I'm concerned.
