Thanks, Tarshi. I just had some weird random texts from people I haven't talked to in awhile- at first it was like "Hey! What's up!!" And after a few minutes I got these weird questions like "so, I see you're single these days...I always thought you were super hot, when am I coming over to hang out?" *blink, blink*.....I'm sorry, what?! Lol It just got me thinking about the times someone would express interest and it wasn't genuine. They just wanted to be in closer proximity to my boobs. Annoying! Maybe I'm just getting old and cranky. Lol
Men who truly care for you and has nothing to lose will tell you up front, whether they want to be with you in meaningful way or just want to fuck you, but others oh, well..... Relationship is very difficult to gauge especially at the beginning
That is true. I think the last part can be expressed in a way that guys just don't like the idea of being up front for the most part. But then you have guys like Brandin who take bold steps to say such things. Remember what he asked you in one thread? That's a real man right there. I guess guys rather try and not come off as being overtly sexual knowing that if they do say that, they're less likely to get any action.
Most guys are pretty easy, to understand... Feed them, fuck them, and occasionally shut the fuck up (thats directed to women), seems to be the formula for most guys I know.
Some folks might not answer a question as directly as you want them, but most times, in their answer, as evasive as it may seem lies their response and what they would do, and that is if you pay further attention to it, and what is left unsaid. Fucking is easier, but commitment is tougher for most. For some the fucking might not necessarily be fucking as such, but more of "let us test drive each other and see whether we are compatible," and "see whether things develop naturally from there." Relationships are not races you start with : on your marks set go, and the minute you shoot a gun, the 100 meters sprint starts. I think it is better cultivated more slowly, without putting each other on the spot. People don't start out wanting to have a commitment, it just drifts there.
You bring up a good point. I mean, I more brought this up because the exchange earlier got me thinking about the value of honesty and being forthcoming. Why don't we do these things? But, I think it's just me. Lol I've been accused of not picking up on things that are right in front of my face from time to time (we have our moments, right?). The few single friends I have left and I have chatted about this before, too.
On not noticing things, it means you likely have a laser-like focus, it is so good, it lets one achieve so much career wise . But it does not work most of the time on the human angle, and when it comes to relationships, I think. Yet, in human relationships, life is a bit more nuanced. One can't adopt the same strategy every time with people. Not sure there is a strict science to these things.We experience and interpret things differently, and have different set of expectations. Best attitude, I think is to understand people and make them feel comfortable with you and enjoy your company. Do not impose contractual obligations on them, if you are inclined towards contracting. For some, it freaks them out, and they respond in weird ways. For others, they make carry on like nothing is amiss and make up back up plans. These things are part art and maybe science too. @ Tasty, thanks.
I love having a camera on my computer so that when my classmates fall asleep, I can photograph them and later laugh and laugh and laugh... (when I email it to them). Small things amuse me.
I should return to my trend of avoiding contact with some people. I remain in peaceful bliss that way.
U sound just like me..lol. I still wonder who will bail us out when you and Tarshi and I get together????
Ps - I hate Customer service's with an attitude... I love adding fuel to their fire if the start out that way - with being overly friendly to the point they know what Im doing, telling them they are lovely and so amazingly friendly and helpful.. it really irks them. It cracks me uuuppp.
