I can definitely say it doesn't appeal to me especially if its over the top, like they spent too much time watching hip-hop videos.

I'm sure some grew up in certain surroundings that influenced them, but that is an underwhelming minority that would be applicable to if we keep shit 100.

Most white girls have no clue of the ghetto next to what they see on TV in rap video parlance and crime shows.

Isn't anything cute about that if you grew up in it. When I came to America at 12, I lived in the hood and there was nothing cool about graffiti on buildings, dudes running the street with guns in their hand, chasing another (I saw that the 2nd day I was in America), mofos hanging around the corner store all day and gunshots at night, every night.

People don't know the half. I know what the hood is like nothing glamorous about it.

I like my white women refined, cultured, well spoken, educated, goal oriented, respectful, world traveler and someone who I can build a respectable future with, kids, house, vacations, etc. That's what's up. Fuck the Hood, as Karma said the goal is to leave that shit behind, I'll always have the memories of my hood days.

 

I like my ww to have a little hood in them. Many black folks can switch from hood to refined seemlessly given a particular situation. I call it the Clark Kent/Superman effect. I don't want my ww to be too much of a Marsh Brady.

I love women like Tamstrong, that sistah is elegant & hood.

 

You do know she's related to Lady T, yeah? Distant cousins to be more precise.

 

I did not. You really do learn something new everyday.

 

Hood [insert race] is a turn off for me. And the funny thing is people equate directness, boldness with being hood. I grew up in the hood...and I watched as my parents fought tooth an nail to ensure that as adults we didn't have to live in the hood.

Dman that.

...but there are some BRUTHAZ, that feel they need change who they are to be with white women, and some WHITE WOMEN, who need to change who they are to be with black men.

...the picture of the "I'm a white chick with a black man" hair style just popped in my head.

 

I'll have to gather the information...that is IF this name matches yours and can be traced to Teena Marie.

 

I hear what you are saying about that, I just don't want that over the top nonsense when they speak. Trying to talk ebonics.

She wants to be or see the hood, I'll take her to see the hood, the real hood.

I hear you about that other aspect as well about the switchup. I actually like that I can throw down in some ebonics if I need to, especially if I get heated, but moreover can also express myself like a U.N. diplomat when speaking.

 

LOL, throw in the big ass hoop earrings for good measure along with the hairstyle.

A lot of brothas are with white women to get away from that nonsense.

I can fuck a white "ghetto acting" chick but long term relationship and wife, probably not.

That sounds so wrong but keepin it real.

 

LOL, probably something like this Tam

 

It's a turn-off for me for same reason that I would be turned off by any woman who possessed certain characteristics, hair styles, poor language or social skills, etc.

Personally, I have always spoken and written in the exactly the same way. Sure, I was a bit of an anomaly, and at times it was challenging, growing up in urban areas. Impressions generally changed though as people understood that I was being myself.

I embrace my blackness and everything that it means, music, culture, history and politics. I just happen to be well educated and perhaps a bit more sophisticated as a result of my experiences. I'm not an elitist or a snob, I just prefer that the women I date have a certain amount of sophistication. That's is more comfortable for me, period.

 

LOL, talk about overkill with the fronts on their grill. :smt080

I understand some people are attracted to aspects of urban culture and all that but where's the line between reality and silliness.

Oh well guess they aren't hurting anyone, just looking like a silly poser.

 

Well stated brotha, well said. That has always been my approach.

I don't for a second forget that i'm a black and am under no illusions about the world out there and what that can mean in certain situations.

But like you said, I'm an educated brotha that looks for certain values, morals and class in women I deal with.

I put too much effort into making a better man of myself to allow foolishness around me in someone I have a relationship with.

I love women that are balanced, humble and a lady, no caricatures.

 

You and me both. I cannot tell you how many times I have heard from both black and white women that I speak as if I were white and that I act white.

 

good post. i'm pretty much the same way

 

People get really confused when I come around. I wear skirts and high heels most of the time and look basically artsy because that's who I am. Long hair and a very round curvy backside. I like ALL different kinds of music, but you won't find me buying a lot of hiphop (I'll listen to it on the radio sometimes). Most of my music is alternative, singer/songwriter stuff, and maybe a LITTLE bit of rap and a lot of soul/neo-soul type stuff.

One black guy looked at me for one second (a new coworker) and asked me what kind of music I listen to. So I said, "Gangsta rap" and rolled my eyes. He got the message and we are friends to this day.

People assume I must date black guys NOT because of any way that I dress, talk, or act, but ONLY because of my physical attributes. Black girls would pretend to friends with me, then bust my chops and try to embarrass me in front of their friends when they found out I wasn't someone they could categorize. Maybe they would be more comfortable with me if I "acted" like I want to be like them but I don't. Anything aside from staying true to my own authentic self gives me a headache.

A black chick at work told me that they get confused because they think I'm going to be a certain way simply because of my body shape, like I'm going to be a little ghetto (negative stereotype of it, like the little white wannabe hoodrats), and then I start talking, and people find out who I am - a well-spoken, educated woman who is an artist and loves world culture. She actually said "proper" but whatever.

People trying to masquerade as another culture are only fooling themselves. It's like a stupid person trying to "pretend" to be intelligent - the real article can spot a fake from a mile away and it only makes the poser look pathetic.

 

lol at this thread, what is it the 50s? Who the hell cares how someone chooses to act.....


How can you possibly say a white girl who "acts black" isn't being their true self? Who the hell are you to say who they truly are?
I don't know what's worst, the fact that you think there's a such thing as acting black/white. Or the fact that you even care how other people choose to act.


Grow up.