And goodlove, before you wander in here to tell your tale of woe and assert that all us ex-wives are money crazy bitches who won't let men see their kids, please save it, I don't want to hear it. Your one experience does not translate into the experience of all men everywhere. If you want something, you fight for it, in divorce I have found that is particularly true. If you don't fight & keep fighting, and you don't get what you want, you have no room to bitch.
Your ex was mean, she lied, she uses your child as a bargaining chip... it's not right, but it's a divorce, they aren't easy or enjoyable. Rarely do you find two individuals who can be reasonable in a divorce, even if issues like infidelity don't exist, there is just something about divorce that makes a lot of people crazy and mean spirited. It's something you just have to get through so you can move on. As Jordan said, if you aren't happy with the results, go back and fight. Saying that it's expensive to do that and bitching that it costs men more in a divorce is horseshit. Yes divorce attorneys cost you, sometimes a lot, and it can be incredibly time consuming, but saying I didn't get custody of my kid because it would have cost me too much to fight... how is that not putting a price tag on your relationship with your child? That's a rhetorical question BTW, and an answer isn't necessary.