this ^ if i want to go on vacation...see a concert...go to a show...i want someone that can afford to do the things i want to do...i am more than willing to contribute to our home...cars...vacations...retirement...i just want someone that is on the same level of contribution...little less is fine...little more is fine...too much more and i will feel the need to take on more in my career get a raise...
well then speak up and let me know which age bracket you're refering to. I am only in my 20s and we dont think this way ( I highly doubt the guys in their 30s think this way as well) Must be an old person think imo
sooooooooo do you have a plan for the future? it is very possible you are not there yet...but one day in the future you will consider owning a home...or traveling...taking regular vacations...having a family...furnishing a home...when that all starts to happen for you...you may decide that you hope the girl working at arbys is almost through with her degree and moving on to a career that equals or compliments yours so that together you can build a future
Sometimes your a little naive and narrow-minded. I have never dated someone in their 50s. I have experienced this for quite some time on a regular basis, where it in the beginning is not an issue but eventually becomes one - its not uncommon men fall for the pressure and -perceived- outside view that they should earn more than their woman. On the flipside of that, I have never ran into a man that wants to take advantage of me economically either so that is great.
Shhhh... Just watch the evolution of a naive little boy grow into old jaded bitter man within the coming years.
Brah, everytime you post someone should be cutting you a check... or atleast buying you a beer. It's like God himself posts on this forum LMAO.
I think rather than how much money a man has, I'd be interested in his fiscal responsibility and attitude towards financial matters. Does he save for things he wants or does he get himself into unnecessary debt? Does he budget? I'd be happy for a boyfriend to make the same assessment of the way I handle my money too. It's fair if the relationship is heading in a serious direction.
I have met my share of male gold diggers especially where I live now, lol. I want a man that can support himself and can keep up to me with the things that I like to do (dive, travel, arts...). I completely understand brief periods of one partner propping up the other but this should not be a lifetime event. I fully believe in splitting the bills 50% including the down payment for a house. If I put in the full down payment, likely it's only going to be my name on the deed. I've long since lost any naiveté regarding happily ever afters, so I look for the real meat and bones that make a relationship viable such as financial stability in both partners, similar goals and timelines, some shared interests, etc.. There's no way I'd let the man pay for everything nor do I want to do the same. I have always been like this and will not change any time soon so for those posters who believe all women act like privileged divas, I am proof this isn't true. I want a partner, not a dependent.
Well put yourself in the rare category my friend. I keep seeing that the women basically want an activity partner. Very interesting.
I do want an activity partner and so much more. I much prefer to share activities with my partner than to have to go it alone. In fact I prefer to meet people doing what I love than on a dating site for example. It adds depth to the relationship when you can have fun outside of the home, IMO. EDIT: when my former husband and I split, I lost my favourite climbing buddy and haven't climbed since I need a new one!
I was a climber until the MS hit - now I don't know anyone here I'd trust enough to partner with outside. I climbed pretty solid 5.10, except for seriously overhanging stuff, but approached 5.11 with climbs which were slabby. Ex-dancer, I had excellent footwork and flexibility. I led 5.9 on trad climbs, and 5.10 on sport climbs. I live about 15 minutes from Garden of the Gods, and it breaks my heart I've never climbed there.
Affection and love is holding you tight while tears pour down your face. It's gauging your mood and understanding when you need time alone and when you need comfort. It's sharing a meal ( even if it's rice ) together. It's sitting by the hospital bed when you are sick. It's being responsible, and hard working and having a good attitude about money so you don't put undue pressure on your partner. That doesn't mean you have or he has a lot of it. A gift can be a token of love sure, but of course they don't actually form it. They are just decoration on top, theres gotta be something underneath. Mostly it's about the fact that people are conscious of social status. The west is not classless. You can miss out writing off a hard working guy still finding his way. A gift m
Haha.. Aww. Strange for a white girl to say, but I guess I'm a rasta at heart. My parents were refugees from two different places and married for 40 years, guess that is an influence. Agree with other women that attitude is important, and you must understand each other. But you also gotta know that if your house, car, lifestyle and all the other shit that we pretend is life breaking falls down you will still be holding each other. I'm not as much of a naïveté as that makes me sound, I actually view that as practical. Materially, you should ultimately rely on you to support you. A poor had worker and sponge not the same thing. Same as not all fiscal dudes who can go halves etc etc have good attitudes. Case by case.
