So some members here have facebook. I wonder how many members here have twitter.

 

For the men

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I saw two hot men in my travels yesterday.

Yesterday morning, when I parked and got out of the car to drop my daughter off at her summer camp, a shirtless, very muscular white guy jogged past me. I love me some muscles.

Then that same morning, I was driving to work, and a very hot, muscular black guy (shirt on, unfortunately) was waiting on the street for it to clear so he could continue his running.

It was a very nice morning yesterday. *sigh*

 

So Bookie....you know the karma in this don't you....keep up with your running....and look what you may 'run' into.....:smt045

 

Hmmm....that's a nice spin! 8)

 

So I was on the phone with this chick I used to see (22 and really cute) and after the conversation (if you can call it that) was over I have to be honest. At my age girls that age have nothing to offer me other than buns. I think I might seriously try the 25 and over crowd for real now. I think I'm open to the senior citizen crow now

 

That's the problem with a much younger man/woman - there's not a lot in common other than sex. And you do have to talk *sometime.*

 

You make it sound like any woman over the age of 25 should be happy to find someone.

Jeez. I know you're just playing, but it's jokes like this that make women HATE aging in any kind of way.

 

Truth be told my biggest reason for dating women under 25 is two fold. They usually just want to have fun no pressure and they tend to be more sentimental and don't expect as many expensive gifts as older women. At least in my experience. Women 25 to 40 are in that prime I want to get married and have a family age and the older they get the quicker they want a ring. It's like your expected to propose with in a year. And women under 25 are less likely to have a kids. As a single man without kids I dont feel comfortable dating a woman with kids. I've done it and makes me feel like an intruder.

 

Exactly! This chick was bragging about how hard she hit someone in the bar. Red flag trouble maker and then she told me that she doesn't usually like "nerdy" guys like me but I intrigue. She's still trying to figure out who she is and I don't have the patience

 

she actually sounds like a catch. i've decided that you're far too picky

 

1. Who the hell expects expensive gifts????Jesus, a card and single rose or handwriten poem on Valentine's Day, something I have mentioned that I adore, bath products, a book, CD, nice scented candles for Bday or Chirstmas. That is what I like.

2. Married??? not all.

3. I feel you on the kid thing. Right now, I have decided to just basically platonically date until I find the right person. One man I am seeing tomorrow, 3rd date, is a sweetheart, but has 3 kids ten and under...BTDT. Man with grown kids are fine.

 

Well all the great women live too far away or are taken so I have to take what I can get lol

 

Well you're over 40 so your motives and expectations are totally different but I am glad someone sees where I'm coming from on the third one.
Raising someone elses kid doesn't feel fair to me and quite honestly it makes me very uncomfortable

 

Any woman worth her salt with kids is going to tell you that even if she marries you, you will NOT be raising her kids. SHE will. You'll be her partner, but you wouldnt be expected to parent.

 

But isn't that marriage part of the consideration? That it's a union to nurture and raise the children together?

 

Sure, YOUR kids with her. I never remarried, but I did spend 8 years with a guy, and we lived together part of that time. My son was my business. The decisions and responsibility were mine. Determining discipline if needed was mine. Same thing with his daughter - she was his child, and she already *had* a mom. Doesn't mean I couldnt be a friend to his little girl, or babysit, etc, but it wasn't my place to decide what infractions required discipline and enforce it, etc.

If we'd had a child together, then it would have been up to both of us to determine decisions etc together. But for my child? Not his responsibility, and not his business.

 

To me if we can't share that experience it's not worth it to me and I can't stand the idea feeling like a bystander in my own home. But hey that's just me other guys might feel differently

 

You wouldn't be a bystander in my home. Step-parents are "parents" in my book. I'm a step-mom and I was instrumental in several areas of my stepson's life. He wouldn't be where he is today if it weren't for me.

Sometimes, step-parents are better parents to the kids than their own parents. Not all people who make a baby are good at the part about raising a child.

The future step-father to my daughter, I hope, will raise her as he would his own daughter. I won't be living with a guy who I didn't trust around my child.

I would still have the most power over her, but I wouldn't expect a man with whom I'm living with and with whom my daughter is living with 95% of the time to not have some say in how she is raised.