Like I said, it depends on your definition of a real relationship. In my mind, it's possible to be in a real relationship with a boring girl.
Yep. Like Tolstoy said, love doesn't really exist. There's a sexual need for intercourse and a rational desire for a partner.
I wouldn't want companionship with someone who bored me out of bed, even if they didn't bore me in bed. Part of the problem with the guy I've been seeing - out of bed we just don't have a lot in common. I need a better FWB match
Apparently everyone isn't like you sweetheart. I have a lot of other people in my life to connect with.
You're not talking to the right women, or enough of them, apparently. But I feel your pain. I find most men to be incredibly dull, on the whole. You have to meet a lot of people or really get lucky to find one who puts a spark in your eye - you need to find someone on your same intellectual level. The more intelligent you are, the harder it is to find a match.
Which somehow brought to mind the old I think Gloria Steinem quote "A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle." :smt043:smt043:smt043
I don't talk to enough women. Sadly, my pride means more to me than the possibility of finding a connection. Contrary to the old saying "treat others as you would like to be treated", it's not in our nature to be fond of those who do not treat us as we'd like to be treated. If you're not in my shoes (mid-twenties and never been in a relationship) it's nearly impossible for you to fathom my state of mind. My view is the exact opposite, but I'm viewing it from a male's perspective. When I'm on the prowl, so to speak, the first thing I'm looking for is physical attractiveness. Physical attractiveness is either there or it's not. If I don't see it, I can move on. Women are more than likely looking for a unique personality. A unique personality is something that you may not notice right away, and it may take time and effort to discover it in a person. First impressions are overrated and often inaccurate. I don't talk to enough women. But I'm no Nikola Tesla. I'm just a guy who reads a lot and appreciates a vast array of cultures and philosophies. One thing that I think I need to do is try to find some places where there's not a predominate amount of white women. I'll probably get a lot of flack for that comment but one thing that I consistently see around here is black people at white clubs looking totally out of place and unwelcome.
I (respectfully) disagree. Many women know exactly what they want - they just can't find it. As for your second statement, that just doesn't compute with me. Surely you've seen TV shows on criminals who have (supposedly) left their shady ways and now help authorities track other criminals. Why? Because they know all the tricks of the trade! Men may think they "know what to do" but, 1) how did they come by that knowledge, and 2) how do they know it's really the right thing to do? Only a woman holds the answer to both.
Oh please girl.. i'll answer his ?s.. 1)Be at least 6'1". Anything else, and you're s.o.l...(if you need translation here, i'll help 2)Like the other brotha so eloquently stated: play for the nfl.. or nba, or mlb.. or rap, dance & sing 3)Be an a-hole.. be willing to get as much in as little time as possible..if you're a nice guy.. and i think you are, you're also s.o.l... 4)Then cheat some more... 5)Be willing to deal w/a large amount of craziness from gals.. (love 'em, but the emotional sh#t is a strain on your well being....
