I'm not saying you won't have a better chance, because complexions are more accepted (be it light or dark) in whatever country etc., but my thing is, some guys have issues with women period. So it doesn't matter if you go to the Mars and date, you're still going to carry them with you. Like I said, if you keep doing the same shit and coming back with the same results, then YOU'RE doing something wrong. Change your attitude, your approach, your social scene, your locale etc (like you said and like I said in my other post) to make yourself happy and hopefully find better results.
Thanks. I think it's a hard lesson for everyone - how to deal with approaches they don't want. You don't want to be an asshole, and hurt someone's feelings, and it takes some maturity and experience to figure out how to turn someone down without making them feel like shit. For women, there's also a fear that doing so will lead to a scene (I can't speak to being a man) - some guy approaches you and you turn him down, and he starts screaming about what a bitch you are, or how you're a slut, or you're ugly, etc...you'd be surprised at the crap some Nice Guys pull in situations like that. It takes some toughness to get to the point where some guy screams in a public place that you're a bitch when you're only "crime" is not wanting to fuck him. Now, my answer would be a loud and lusty "Thank you, so glad you noticed." But we all know I'm a hardass. ;-)
That's why I'm a huge advocate of just enjoying the things that make you happy and not to worry about who you can't date. Just stay in shape and lead a life worth being proud of.
Yeah I don't get that behavior at all. Seriously how does someone you barely know have so much power over you? Or how can they upset you. Its so sad now all I think is awesome one less ingrate to spend on. That's how I've always seen rejection. You don't miss out on anything by getting rejected because the great thing of life in terms of people to fuck. There are literally billions of choices. Your job is to make yourself a great option.
Going to Europe falls under this lol Its not just complexion. Americans, at least New Yorkers anyway, tend to be quite snobbish. I have never come across such a material based people before in my life. We dismiss people based on the designers they wear which when you think about it is the dumbest reason to exclude people but we do it but in a place like Lancaster, England or more recently Toronto they could give a fuck less who made your clothes. There are differences in what we appreciate and reject. That plagues on a person's sense of self worth. Maybe some guys wouldn't feel nervous talking to a girl if he didn't feel like he'd get shut down for his walmart clothes and 92 Honda Accord.
Skip Los Angeles then, I found it way more materialistic and status symbol based than NY. What's funny as hell to me is that my friends who have REAL money, i.e. 7 or 8 figure incomes, hang around in worn out sweats and old tshirts, and could give a shit about labels unless they're going to a film premiere.
That's how it usually is. One of my dad's friends with no education came to the states in the 70s and got the idea to buy real estate in Brooklyn. He literally owns a block in Brooklyn. The guy drives a 1997 green honda accord and he's a millionaire who always has paint on his pants and shirts.
You know what Tree, there are a lot of materialistic people out here, but I find that a lot of the transplants are the ones coming here thinking they have to be this or that to live here. I've come across this so many times. Most people who were born here, don't act like that.
I thought you were in a committed relationship. No? And you definitely knew what I meant by you don't date women. But to clarify you don't have to deal with the male female dynamic as well as the gender roles that go along with that. Women don't tend be as sensitive with other women as they are with men. It's not the same.
I agree, there's just damn few who were not transplants from one place or another. I enjoyed my time in Los Angeles, and still miss it sometimes, but I do not miss the "Plastic" quality of a lot of people I met there.
