Like others have already said, she's probably not speaking to you because she was uncomfortable with the situation. It may have been that she's just not into you or it could've been the awkwardness of being approached in the workplace. It sounds like the boyfriend reference was her way of telling you she wasn't interested without being rude or without hurting your feelings. You can't carry on like before because by expressing your interest in her, you changed it to something different than it was, & you can't undo it. From what you said about the situation, the two of you don't know each other on a personal level, so the fact that she doesn't know you that well could have a lot to do with why she's wary & avoiding you. As time passes, she may get it over it, but whether she does or doesn't, you shouldn't take it personally. It's just one of those things & the best thing to do is to let it go.
You can't make a woman 'interested' in you. If she was down, she would have been all over getting to know you outside of work. She's not interested, not a crime. Happens to the best of us. But there's another woman where you work who is. IMO this is where some dudes fuck up, thinking they can wear a female down with more effort. The only way that possibly works is to leave a woman alone and if she eventually gives you any play, you'll be the first to know.:smt006
Seriously. If she's not interested, wearing her down will only make her resent the hell out of you. Even if she relented, it would be a pity date. I doubt that's really what a man wants in that situation
Yes, that's a firm "No". She feels awkward and uncomfortable around you because she thought you were just "workfriendly" and you wanted more Because she wanted no more than what you had and you want more, she is not comfortable with that. The point not upset, just not interested in anything even remotely romantic and probably feeling awkward. Don't chase her down or seek her out. Maybe you'll end up being friends and maybe you won't, but you need to accept right now that you won't be any more than that and move on for your own good. Forget about whether or not she's talking to you, back off and give her space.
there are three rules to note Rule 1) never ever get your romance where you get your finance. 2) see rule #1 3) If you are going to do something that will cost you your job then be more slick about it. ask her in a way that is not asking her out. for example say: hey, I and this other girl are going to this activity do you want to go ? make sure it is a girl going also when you do this. the girl should be a good friend too. this way everything is cool and if she says no then she will see it as a friend thang not as a dude being thirsty
The dreaded friend's zone. It is like being in a candy store and not having anything to eat for a while. and the the store owner saying you can't have any.
You got rejected. On a positive note at least she didn’t make a report to Human Resource Management for harassment.
That line is so fine these days that many things can be construed as harassment. That is why it is probably best to move on since this is all happening in the jobplace.
Thanks for all the wisdom...the overwhelming concensus is that she have no interest which is probably true but I believe the perception of these happenings are not fully represented correctly. It seems that you guys believe I am hounding this poor girl and cannot accept the answer NO.....but it is not like that at all, what is puzzling to me is the silence...look even before I approached like that I would see her looking at me, maybe it was just she thought I was a nice person and friendly...especially since she is kind of new...and really only approached her bc I honestly felt she had some interest in me...the time I was told that she was single was when I was speaking to her senior coworker (by the way I am a physician at a large hospital and she is a social worker there...I am black and she is white)....well I was joking with her coworker then she invited herself into our conversation ...we talked and joke for like 20 minutes...then my interest woman left...the is when the older coworker told me that she is a great find and a wonderful girl....then she sort of leaned toward me and says she is single too, u know with a wink and smile...so really I thought tshere might be mutual interest....so at that point I asked her........after those words we haven't spoken...and immediately after asking her I didn't see her about 2 weeks bc of my work schedule....so I am not hounding her or trying to wear her down at all....she doesn't make n effort to speak to me like before and neither do I.....
It is not about rejection...as a simple no, will allow me to not be puzzled about the situation...I just hope I didn't make her uncomfortable
Give it time. She just may feel awkward now. Maybe once she understands that you got the message, she'll relax and be friendly again.
This is exactly what I was going to say. The ball is in her court right now. She probably is going in the way opposite direction to make sure that she doesn't give you any mixed signals, and once she feels okay with the amount of time that's passed or that you haven't been hounding her, she may feel comfortable again talking to you. Just keep doing what you're doing, and she may start being friendly with you again when her comfort level returns.
Even if its not it, it means she doesn't want YOU. She might have said she has a boyfriend HOPING you would get the hint...... ...you didn't ...how old are you dude?
She shouldn't have lied to the man though. just say no. geez of course, she might actually have one. I mean I wouldn't take much stock in 65 year old person.
