I wonder if anyone else have these same thoughts

Well this is the interracial dating forum so this is thought pertaining to such. I know some people may take this wrong way, but on a real note there is no disrespect intended....so I proceed, at my stage of life I really don't have an ideal woman physically...there are a few mental characteristics that I have noticed I are common in preVious women I have dated...one intelligence, I don't judge by degrees or your education...I speak of inherent intelligence...I like kind women...I like independent thinking woman...diverse and open minded women...but here is the subject of the topic, I don't like white women that only date black men...it is almost always a killer for me...and honestly, sometimes I can tell that they soley date black men before they even tell me that fact...I am not saying it is fool proof , but the vast majority of times it doesnt work for me...I have them tell me silly stuff like black men are the kings of the earth...our skin feels better...once u go black don't go back...we knock em dead in the sack...we have that swag....they like how we carry ourselves and our style...I am not completely sure why I feel so deeply about it...I guess it doesn't seem logical at first glance...but if you knew the true reason why,maybe it is completely logical...but to not be able to love your own race, isnt that puzzling??? And then when someone talks "black" or act "black", that does it for me as well...I guess if that is how you always talk and act fine...but it does sit well with me if you transformed into a black person...

 

I know the post is a little helter skelter but I have to bounce soon

 

That's fair enough, I don't think anyone could think it was disrespectful. But, not all women who have only dated/been with black men are exclusive intentionally.

Me, for example (I know your post wasn't about me )...I've only ever been with black men, but I've not been with many men, and the fact that they were all black is just a coincidence. I never intended it at all. I didn't set out to do it, never even thought of sleeping with a black men in the first place (there were no people of african origin around where I grew up). The men I ended up dating/sleeping with, just happened to be black. So, that's my experience anyway. And of course I wouldn't date a white man anymore...because I'm married. LOL!!!
But, I guess I don't really fit into what you're saying because if I ended up getting a divorce, I wouldn't completely disclude white men from my dating choices...although I'm MUCH more attracted to black men now.

Black skin IS nicer than white skin...why? Because A: It doesn't get as sun damaged as white skin and B: People with black skin tend to take much better care of it. I love my husbands skin, it's so damn soft and lovely.
I think you'll find a lot of women who date men of different cultures and colours agree with me on that too.

Anyway, just giving you an example of another type of 'dates black men only' woman.

 

A few things...dating your own race and loving your own race are two separate things. It reminds me of certain women in my past who would try to guilt me into dating them under the lie of self hate. Self Hate is just that SELF hate. It has more to do with a personal insecurity. If certain women are attracted to one specific set of people then that is perfectly fine for them. They have found what they like and stick to it. I commend them for that. Personally, I date and have dated all kinds of women (white, black, asian, indian, arab, persian, etc...). There will always be cultural norms in each subculture. And the way a group of people date can form into a subculture.

If dating women who only date black men bother you, there is nothing wrong with that. You shouldn't feel uncomfortable or feel the need to explain why. You should pick whomever makes you feel the most comfortable. Personally, I am not a fan of stereotyping, but I would be lying if there weren't similarities for the various women that I dated that only dated black men. I am similar to you in the fact that I don't date women who only date black men as I don't only date one particular race or culture. No need to feel uneasy for liking a certain type of woman. It's called a preference. And as they prefer Black Men, you prefer white women who haven't date predominantly black men. At the end of the day, when you get married you have to be happy with the woman you come home to. Don't feel uneasy or apologetic for finding her based on a cohesion of your likes ( I can assume loyal and loving) and dislikes (did not predominantly date black men in her past).

The world will try to tell you what is right and what is wrong, but when it comes to finding Ms. Rightforyou, it's all up to you.

 

I respect that you feel the way you do, Nice, but if I were dating you and we clicked and then you discovered that I prefer BM and end things because of that (due to your reasons listed), I would be offended. I have nothing against white men (except they are less flexible about dating bigger women). I do not hate my race, I do not want to be black, and I'm not dating BM because I can't get anyone else.

My main reason for choosing BM, is simply that, at my age, they are more visually appealing to me than white men. I dated and married white men because that's what I was expected to do. I didn't have the opportunity to date BM until I was older. I won't say I will never date a WM again, but that's not where my preference lies. Physical attractiveness isn't the most important attribute in a relationship, but I count it high on my list. He doesn't have to fit anybody's idea of attractiveness but my own, but I want to find my man physically appealing. And for me, BM do that far better than WM. If that's a poor reason, well, that would be your loss. Other than that, men are men, regardless of color.

 

Are you a native of australia?? And is this the place that is devoid of black men??? I have a question, are aboriginals and Torres strait islanders considered "black"...is it taboo to date an aboriginal there??


I dont know about the skin thing...I have seen some bros with some sandpaper rough skin...haha..but I am glad you like it

 

The concept of not being able to find not one sole of your like race to be with baffles me...I know there are an infinite number of reasons why this may happen, but the thoughts in my mind are 1) blacks may have pursued this person overwhelmingly more 2) this person has been generally rejected by their race as a dating candidate 3) this person is a product of her environment..they grew up in the hood 4) this person person want biracial children...haha... 5) this person is immersed in rap culture or some other stereotypically black culture

QUOTE=luvattractivewomen;603273]A few things...dating your own. race and loving your own race are two separate things. It reminds me of certain women in my past who would try to guilt me into dating them under the lie of self hate. Self Hate is just that SELF hate. It has more to do with a personal insecurity. If certain women are attracted to one specific set of people then that is perfectly fine for them. They have found what they like and stick to it. I commend them for that. Personally, I date and have dated all kinds of women (white, black, asian, indian, arab, persian, etc...). There will always be cultural norms in each subculture. And the way a group of people date can form into a subculture.

If dating women who only date black men bother you, there is nothing wrong with that. You shouldn't feel uncomfortable or feel the need to explain why. You should pick whomever makes you feel the most comfortable. Personally, I am not a fan of stereotyping, but I would be lying if there weren't similarities for the various women that I dated that only dated black men. I am similar to you in the fact that I don't date women who only date black men as I don't only date one particular race or culture. No need to feel uneasy for liking a certain type of woman. It's called a preference. And as they prefer Black Men, you prefer white women who haven't date predominantly black men. At the end of the day, when you get married you have to be happy with the woman you come home to. Don't feel uneasy or apologetic for finding her based on a cohesion of your likes ( I can assume loyal and loving) and dislikes (did not predominantly date black men in her past).

The world will try to tell you what is right and what is wrong, but when it comes to finding Ms. Rightforyou, it's all up to you.[/QUOTE]

 

So what is so physically appealing to you about a black man??? Is this something that developed later on in life or was this attractiveness present all along??

 

Yep, I'm a true blue Aussie. Born and raised. When I was growing up (and even in my early twenties), the only black people I had anything to do with were my best friend and her family (all women and all with white men). I had zero to do with aboriginal boys and men, not because we avoided them, but because there were none around my area and so few at my school that I only remember one and I have no idea what his name was because he was in a different year to me.
You'll find more asian people in Australia than black people (or white people, in some areas).
It's not taboo to date an aboriginal man/woman, not at all....white, asian, indian and european people just out number them...by a lot. Today, for example, I went into town to go grocery shopping and saw exactly 2 aboriginal people (or people who were obviously aboriginal, I should say...it's hard to tell sometimes) the whole time I was out.
The only Torres Strait islander that I've been aware of meeting is my stepfather's nephew who is half TSI, half white (and named Torres, by his TSI mother, by the way LOL).

Oh and yes, Aboriginals and TSI are considered and consider themselves black.

 

Women who usually say dumb shit like that don't have other options so they feel the need to talk up their only option.
The same when men say nonsense like that. I admit I prefer white women and have dated them exclusively but the women who tend to find me attractive that share my varied interests are always white and on the rare occasions they happen to be asian hispanic or black they tend to gravitate towards white men anyway.
Interesting topic thanks for bringing it up.

 

I have always found BM atttactive but really wasn't free to act on that as a young woman.

The thing that perturbs me about BM is that they want to know why we find you attractive, but our reasons never suit you. If a BM and a WM with similar qualities and traits are placed side by side, and I say I prefer the BM because he apppears more attractive to me (looks younger, carries himself in a sexier manner, his skin - both texture and color - is more appealing), that's wrong. Why is that wrong?? We have thread after thread after thread on what BM find appealing about WW. But when we start listing what we like about BM, it's all "stereotype." Not fair.

If you have the same qualities as a WM (intelligent, emotionally literate, personable, witty, well-mannered, etc), what do you want me to find about you that sets you apart from your white counterpart? If my reasons leave you flat, what reasons are acceptable?

 

So would you be interested in an aboriginal??? Are they black in you mind...yes their skin is darK but they are not of immediate afrIcan decent....sort of akin to very dark skin people from India, you wouldn't consider them black ....meaning they are not immediate descendants of africa

 

Sir I can relate.

It seems that younger white women especially expect for you to act like a rap caricature of what they see on BET and MTV.

 

I never personally said it is wrong...I just mentioned that it is not attractive to me to date a black only dating white woman...I don't know you personally so I don't know if you will fit the profile of only dating white woman that I commonly cross paths with...I will give these women credit as it must take a strong white woman to love a black, unless you are at a sad point of life where you don't give a shyt about anything...I am a black man and honestly I was not strong enough to date a white woman until later on, so I know it must be hard for a white woman to do the same..

 

Exactly and from my experience , black men only dating ww seem to have a much higher percentage of superficial admiration of black men...my experience is my experience not a say all be all fact

QUOTE=4north1side2;603384]Sir I can relate.

It seems that younger white women especially expect for you to act like a rap caricature of what they see on BET and MTV.[/QUOTE]

 

LOL. Oh hell no!

This is why I'm always so ardent about the kind of white women I find attractive and I always emphasize ones that are cultured and eclectic.

She has to be able to have a discussion with me on issues that go above and beyond the latest hip-hop album and X,Y,Z artist.

I can talk about all that but she better have some depth to her mindset that goes beyond that.

 

Behold. The world's longest run on sentence.

SirNice, these are your preferences. If anyone is offended fuck them. Don't change who or what you like due to the thoughts of others. You aren't hurting anybody.

 

Double post....

Beauty without intelligence is like painting a masterpiece on a napkin.

 

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ROFL, well stated bro.

 

Grammar is overrated my brother, it is only the message that is conveyed that is important
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