I don't have a preference. I have dated & married the full spectrum of black men. For me, it has more to do with personality and confidence than whether your light or dark skinned.
Your international friends are speaking strictly from an economic and class based view but when it comes to what your average person labels what makes a man a man, lightskin dudes come up short. There was a thread on here not to long ago about Common vs Drake, so many people basically called Drake a bitch and don't even know the guy.
yeah there is a lot of colorism in the black community.....light skinned versus dark skinned. I wouldnt doubt ww having a preference over one versus the other.
This isn't about "color".... IMO, it's about conscience decisions of individuals who know what they want, like, and desire for whatever reason... No justification necessary... It is what it is.... The divide is really about closing the gap..... It's love, wherever you find it and however you choose to define it... But it always will take two... Preference is what it is... But to partake if offered, options still rest with the individuals involved and it's none of anybody's business unless anybody is paying the rent and the rest of bills...
I hope more of us participate in Loving Day this year because light skin dark skin or whatever love is all that counts. There 's enough bad out there without having to internally bring yourself down.
Eloquently opined Tam. Live life as an individual who sets their own agenda and is certified in confidence about your actions. The woe is me mantra doesn't get one far.
Thanks, GQ. Yeah, that crying, bitching, blaming, excuse making victim mentality doesn't get a person anywhere worth being.
You also have to keep in mind that there are millions more dark men than light skinned men. She may love they dark skin, and she may also be settling for a dark skinned man because light skinned men are few and far between.
Exactly Tam, I have seen White women with men of a host of different types. White/Black/Asian/Indian/Hispanic/Native American/Middle Eastern, etc. The first thing some need to realize is we only need one person in our life as far as a committed relationship. What everyone else does outside of that is of no consequence to me. As long as I have my woman in my life, it is what it is.
I agree with you fully but its interesting how this frame of mind is never applied to some of the women when they wanna bitch about the same things. Interesting.
No offense, Galiant, but you seem to have an unhealthy fixation on light vs dark skin, & it's disturbing. IMO you're over thinking/over analyzing the whole thing. It's like you're determined to make it your excuse for not attracting the women you want, but there are just as many women who find light skinned men attractive as there are women who like dark skinned men IMO. My own son isn't dark, but young women (WW included) are all over him. I can understand it possibly being a sore subject for you if you've experienced negativity over your skin, but dark skinned men deal with a lot of negativity themselves. It's not some kind of competition, yet that's what you seem to want it to be. It comes across like the one with the problem with your light skin is you. You sound extremely insecure about yourself, & lack of confidence isn't appealing to anyone. You should love yourself for who you are. Every person is unique & special in their own way, & it would benefit you to appreciate that about yourself. Well said, GQ. :smt023 It does apply to anyone who does it, but often around here folks (both women & men) who are just venting or speaking their minds or sharing things about themselves get accused of whining or playing the victim when that's not the case at all.
