I've wondered why nice guys finish last, especially when it comes to women. I think its because "nice guy" is used to describe someone who is in fact insecure, clingy and needy, and has little to do with actually being nice.
makes sense, for a second i was gonna say romantic would be better than nice, but then i thought that guys can get creepy with the romantic stuff too....
I find nice guys pretty attractive..I just think that "nice" is many times mistaken with "submissive". It's not interesting, if you can send a man around, he must have his own will and wishes. The nicest guy is the one, that is doing exactly what he wants and fulfills my desires automatically, because we think and act the same or we complete us to one.
what you are talking about is confidence and self awareness. i think most of the "nice guys" (which is a misnomer) who complain about this tend to be people who need to work on their insecurities and over compensate by being "nice" and smothering (flowers every day, showing up at all times).
yeah it makes sense, they don't allow themselves to have their own thoughts, opinions and wishes, so they follow what they assume can never be wrong (i.e. flowers-nobody wants)
I agree. I've heard this so much throughout the years and it always annoyed me, cause any woman with some sense wants a nice guy. Even if a guy ended up being an asshole, he had to have been nice to sway you in somehow. I think girls, (not women) who call guys, "nice", are usually immature and are addicted to drama. There are some lame dudes who would be classified as just that - "nice", but can be nowhere near, "nice".
Very interesting take from both you and CD. It's much easier to describe onself as nice rather than lame. Hello, i am a very nice fellow. :vom:
this "nice guy stuff" gets thrown around too much these days but i agree with Christine dubois, plus i dont think alot of people like hearing a woman preferring nice men over the cliche "bad boys" who i have seen to be more insecure
If you are attracted to rudeness, and being mistreated, that's a whole other can of worms. Though i think "bad boy" is also bandied about way too much; strength in any form can be very attractive.
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