I believe that! A challenge may be fun sometimes, but I much rather have the strong chemistry and passion. If all things are equal I will pick a woman that I know is strongly attracted to me over a woman that is just giving off subtle hints. The slick thing about it is that it is not even a conscious choice. There is nothing like when a woman gives you that I want you soo bad right now look!!:razz: The last thing I am thinking about at the time is judging her!!
From what you said, she probably was a bit embarrassed to be seen looking at you. If you don't know her name, then you have the perfect opening to talk to her by introducing yourself. I would just make polite conversation after that as and when the opportunities arise. If you and colleagues go out for drinks after work, you could always ask her to come along after speaking to her; to get to know her in a less formal setting. This gives you a chance to get to know her and decide whether there is a mutual attraction before you ask her out on a date. At the end of the day, the worst is that she says no.
I'm old school and i still believe in the age old tradition of a man walking up to a woman and striking up a conversation with the intention of getting inside her pants eventually. Maybe a new breed of men want women to be approaching them these days.
^5! I am generally far too shy to approach a man, so it's good to know men still feel this way. Don't get me wrong, I don't see anything wrong w/ a woman approaching a man...and once in a while I get bold enough to actually do it.
With your looks(and other assets) you dont even have to try cus it obvious men will be attracted to you like bees to a honeypot.
thank you. even so, the attraction is not always mutual (smile)...however I will say when I see something I want, if I'm bold enough I will approach him...however I'm not always feeling confident. I prefer a man to approach me, in a perfect world. then...in a perfect world he will have everything on my checklist ) and we will live happily ever after. LOL
Did Ceasar or Marc Antony reject Cleopatra?? lol, I think men have always been the same. Even back in the old school days, if a woman approched a man I am sure he would have not had a problem with it. As men, we are always going to approach women, but if a woman approached you would you have a problem with it? Are you in tune with your natural desire are more in tune with social constructs and norms? *marinate*
I am guessing you read a lot of romance stories when you were a teen hence the "live happily ever after" huh lol.
Some dream with their eyes wide open and actually act out those dreams. They say don't let life pass you by.
it`s very tricky to ask someone from your work out! i would never do that! and don't recommend aswell! First because, if you guys break up, that could ruin your job. Second because, if you get all her actions wrong, and hit on her. she could feel bad about it. and that could ruin your job. Just random talk with her. and see what happens. just move if she moves first.
i saw her yesterday and i completely bottled it i think i might just speak to a mutual friend and use her to tell her how i feel i just found out shes around 5 years older than me as well im not bothered about that as she looks great but it does make things even more difficult for me as she's a mature woman
I wouldn't bother, you already missed your chance. Trust if she was feeling you it would of got back to you somehow someway by now.
IMO I think it's a bad idea to go thru any of her friends to relay a message. Big turn off. If you are interested then approach her. Just saying hello and beginning a convo with her is perfectly acceptable.
Can't get this German girl out of my mind Well, you could hit her with this: Hallo, und was für ein Gefühl haben sie diese feinen, schönen Tag? Möchten Sie haben mich zum Essen? TRANSLATION: Hello, how are you this fine, lovely day? Would you care to have lunch with me? Unfortunately, you'll have to work on the pronunciation yourself. Also, I'm assuming that she's native German and actually speaks German (a former colleague was Chinese, spent part of his early childhood in Hong Kong and didn't speak a lick of Mandarin, much to his parent's dismay -- go figure). And assuming that you really want to get to know her, saying something to her in German may prove to be an icebreaker. Just be ready, if she responds in German, to quickly wipe the momentarily shocked expression off your face and think of your next clever move!
I agree, random talk with her, you should be able to get a better vibe from her in an actual conversation. But I would be hesitant wanting to date someone from your office. Age is nothing so don't let that change your mind. Instead of getting your friend to talk to her for you, why don't you ask your friend to get her to join you three for a coffee or you could even ask one or two others as well, just make sure you get a conversation going with her and see if you two really do hit it off.
