i can sleep sideways and hog the whole bed and when i steal the covers no one steals them back.

i can also listen to one song on repeat and no one says shit.

 

You're also 19 my dude lol. There's no reason for you to be tied down to anyone. My only point was there are good people who won't make your life more difficult. In fact they can make it better but only when you're ready.
I don't know where my relationship is gonna end up but I can say I've never been more focused since meeting her. I'm not distracted by all the stray ass out there and juggling multiple women is time consuming. But to each his own. Just keep doing well and be an example my dude.

 

its mandatory to have a newborn, a husband and a pitbull by age 19 in this state.

 

Mufugga, I'm 23! I feel you though man.

So much for emphasis on educational goals.

 

Damn wish I was 23 again. Would have two masters and a Phd by now lol
You're on the right path though fam.

 

Please y'all stop with this posturing. Human beings were not designed to be alone to themselves, so being in love with someone who loves you back is the ideal situation. Its mostly after a bad relationship that people like saying being single is the best. I can bet my last dime that if you enter into a loving relationship y'all will be hollering on top of the roof that being in love is the best and single people don't know what they are missing (until you become single again of course)

 

True. But I do love being single

 

Thank you... this is the most bullshit thread on these forums.


... and that's saying a lot!

 

There are a lot of freedoms to being single but I love loving and being loved so I prefer to give up a tiny bit of freedom to get it. :smt047

I do love being together but within that relationship you have to respect alone time.

 

I can wake up and go to bed without worrying about his anger issues

 

I agree with what you've written JC, yet I feel that in my situation, it's better and easier to be single. Which is why I'm enjoying it now (and everything associated with it).

Once I'm settled into one place for a few years or more, heck yeah I'd be open to a great relationship. But until then, I think it's impossible to find someone who truly understands what I need to do right now and has the patience to encourage me to focus on it & not them....

 

Meh... Humans weren't made to do a lot of things.
Like fly and eat meat.
We adapt and get over it. Honestly for personals..I would have died if someone told me 15 years ago that I'd be pushing 40 and alone. The loneliness is hard at times..but not dealing with all the day to day bs of another is almost heaven at my age.
As I've gotten older I find have so much less tolerance for stuff I could have coped well with 10 years ago. The lying, not pulling his fair share, sabotaging my life and future because he was an insecure prick? The cheating..the grabbing my ass as I'm falling asleep to single it time for duty sex as a wife..
I miss none of it.
And the relationships after him..while the one was good the ending literally almost killed me. I don't do ends well at all if I'm attached at the hip and with Byron I was. So attached.

I would like to have closeness and affection and support and yada yada...but I'm not sure I could pay the price of what I give up to achieve it in another person. I do well enough without it and so I don't find any reason to fill some kind of gap I'm suppose to have there.

 

I call bullshit my friend. Plenty of good guys could and would be open to your situation. Its hard to see but its out there, but maybe you'll be more open to it once your settled.

 

Damn some of you are in need of some real healing. There are good people out there, good matches for all of you. Not every guy, hell not even most guys are going to lie to you and not pull their fair share or try to sabatoge you. The ass grabbing is another story lol.

 

Lol @ a guy telling me how guys treat me.

 

I never said how they treated you in the past just saying how they may treat you kid

 

Really? Plenty of guys like long distance relationships with women who aren't even American? They like being literally ignored for a couple of weeks to months at a time with only a quick hello on Skype as contact? Plenty of great guys like that? Please, do send me their digits. I'd love to meet them.

 

being single sucks if you are forever alone (in my case)

 

There's beauty in being single. You realize the gift of aloneness which comes with being by yourself. I feel most people suffer from loneliness instead of being joyful of aloneness because they depend on their partner or others for happines. This leads to a dreadful feeling of emptiness if the person you're depending on to feel good is removed from their life. Aloneness really solves it all, no fear of breakups cause you know the joy that awaits.

 

They exist,definitly,they are just difficult to find.

Most people are just too egoistic. They want that their own wishes are respected, they cannot support their partners to live their own life, to fulfill their own wishes. I think that this factor is extremely important for a successful relationship.