My dad passed before I started going out with black guys. He probably would have killed them (or me). My mother thinks I am scandalous. I don't live near her anymore (thank God) and I'm sure she's never told her friends. She knows I write, but if she knows what I write, she's never mentioned it. I grew up in a very bigoted atmosphere. I guess I got the rebellion thing nailed. Okay and before you say that I date black guys because of my upbringing, I might have to agree with you in part. But that only goes so far. I've been away from the hate for too many years for it to run my life in the here and now.
My mum and Aunt had told me when I was younger they would prefer if I married a black woman but as long as I'm happy they don't really care what race woman I married. My dad doesn't care either way. I never had any problems about dating white women from my family. I'm not the only person in my family to have dated white women.
I never had any trouble with my family because of my preference for ww. Especially both my older sisters gave me great support, they always encouraged me massively to date white chicks since my youth... And that´s what I did. :mrgreen:
My parents did not care but I had problems with my cousins they were into that black power bullshit. I was nerdy and the only women that liked me was the white girls I told them so what I am supposed to die alone that shuts them up a lot LOL
My father wouldn't mind. My mother is sort of okay with it, somewhat. I have cousins on both sides of my family who are married to a white person. I know it is okay for me if I found and loved someone who also feels the same as I do for her.
My parents are totally unsupportive. My mom told me that I was dating him because I wanted to hurt her. And I just wanted bad attention. And my father wasn't any better. My heart was broken by some of the things I was told. That was the day I realized even my parents who love me, might not want me to be happy if it makes them "look bad". It was a sad day.
In the beginning my Mom was a little insecure, because there are not a lot of black people living in our neighbourhood (so she is not used to being around black people), but she got over it pretty fast. I gotta give her credit for that, especially since she doesn't speak English and couldn't really communicate. I'm very lucky to have parents who are very kind people who would support whoever makes her daughter happy.
neither of my parents are here anymore unfortunately, but I often wonder how they would feel. I think my dad would have had a bit of a problem with it. My parents were of a different generation, they were both quite old when they had me, and a lot of their views came from a different time. I think he would have been unthinkingly racist in his language, not realising how inappropriate it was. My mum would have thought it a little ''odd'' I think, but would only want me to be happy, so if the man was good to me, she would come around to it quite quickly I think. But either way, it wouldn't have made enough difference to me for it to to influence my choices.
more than half my siblings so far have lived with nonblack partners: 2 sisters, me and my brother. I haven't met a white woman that I've been close enough to to introduce her to my family, but I'm sure they would all be fine with it. The one sister who I would've expected to be most against such a thing now lives with her white boyfriend. :smt005
I live in one of the most international cities in Europe which is Geneva. We have nothing but international companies, entities like the United Nations and three languages are spoken in this country not including English. My best friend who is African just got engaged to an Indian woman. My other friend also African, is dating a girl from Panama. Come to think about it, I don't have any close black friends who are dating black women and none of their parents have said anything. I have dated every race (btw I absolutely hate that word) except for black women. My mother has never mentioned anything. It's more than skin color. Level of Education is #1
I wish there was a day that no parent cared... It's funny, the thought never crossed my mind, how my parents would take it. That's how comfortable I am dating other races, how comfortable my parents made it for me. Some it had to do with me though. If you look guilty, you probably are. With that said, I never approached IR skeptically, I knew what I wanted and got it. If I approached it cautiously, the results probably would have been more negatively based.
