Wow its been so long that ive posted that I thought everyone forgot about me . I am well and hope that you're the same.
Trust First and foremost, trust is important but it ultimately lies within ourselves. We need to be comfortable in ourselves and the bond that ties you and him. Its too dam stressful to babysit each other and it makes a person go crazy if we monday night quarterback every god dang thing that is mentioned, said, or done in a relationship. We are grown, we can't control the choices one another makes, and I sure ain't got the time to be inspector gadget. There is trust and then there is faith in each other. If you so dam uptight and jealous then that is on you. Never ever stress over things we can't control.
The closest person I have to a "significant other" is pretty well known, and I'm just working at getting him even more publicity (anything I post here isn't to get publicity, I really am just listening to/watching videos then lol). There's girls posting on his facebook, always calling him sexy. Some saying they wanted to meet him, dance for him on stage, stuff like that... I don't care. We're nothing official anyways, so it's not like I can say much, BUT even if we were official, I know that it kinda comes with the territory of being interested in him. I wouldn't say anything, because "star-struck" fans are... star-struck fans. Talk is talk, and if his interest was only with me, who cares what anyone else says. I basically have that attitude with anyone I'm interested in, as long as I feel I can trust them. If I didn't trust them, I wouldn't be interested, period. When I am dating/ in a relationship, I trust my man fully, it's the other women that I don't trust, lol.
LOL. In any other professional setting, their behavior would be considered HIGHLY inappropriate. Shit they're groping each other. And I know more than once Michael Strahan had his crotch pressed against this woman's body! I'm always fascinated about the rituals of sex BEFORE people are actually having sex. The mating dance. But maybe Strahan is her type. I wonder if he tried to hook up with Maria Menounos after the show?? I would have. :mrgreen:
well I'm from the UK and have no idea who those guys are really, but no I'm afraid I wouldn't be comfortable with that. Jealousy is a very negative and destructive emotion, but I'm afraid I'm one of those people. I've had a problem with jealousy pretty much since I started dating to some degree or another. I have got better with it over the years, but its still there. My current partner works in a very female orientated career, and he always feels the need to tell me about it when some girl chats him up or invites him around, or just comes out with something sexual towards him. He has always been very insecure about his physical appearance, as he is a big guy and has had some bad feedback from women in the past, but I am always complimenting him and telling him how much I fancy him (because its true!) so since then I think his confidence has grown quite a lot, and maybe thats attracting more female attention (I'm not saying he wouldn't attract women without it, but when you are really down on yourself, you're less likely to attract that kind of attention). Anyway, we are very honest with each other, which is why he tells me, and I'm ok with it really, but I don't exactly like it. So anyway, to sum up lol, I would not be happy with that kind of relationship at all between him and another woman. I trust him, but I would just be really uncomfortable.
yeah, if my significant other was around someone of another sex for a long, extended period of time, I'd become kinda' jealous.....& with good reason! On a side note, I'm sure we all know that Michael's giving Kelly the "business"........early & often!!
He must love his job right now...before it was stinking asses and bad breath men in his face....now it's fresh, beautiful women trying to tackle him. Very rarely can a woman rock a white dress on camera and kill it. Love Maria!
My attitude about this is: why worry? Worrying about it won't stop her from doing it if that's what she (or he for the ladies) wants to do. It's best to just be confident and go on regardless.
This makes so much sense, but it's so hard for me to do!!! Having been betrayed, my fear is that it will happen again and I will be as ignorant of it this time as I was the first time. I HATE the feeling of being the fool. I'm more afraid of that than getting my heart broken. When I discovered the extent of my ex's shenanigans a full year after we split up, I was really humiliated. :smt085 As much as I try to wipe the slate clean, it's hard when you see a pattern emerge that defies explanation. (Not necessarily having to do with the thread title, just in general).
I agree with you about the betrayal and humiliation, but that's why I refuse to worry about it. If a person wants to do that, they will. The worry and dread can be crippling and more harmful to your health and happiness than the actual infidelity. And I've found that, once you free yourself from that burden, you actually become happier and more pleasant to be around. As a result, people are drawn to you more and they feel less inclination to look elsewhere. I went through the whole infidelity thing and being dumped, but in the end I'm much happier now than I ever was with her or worrying about her.
