Damn fam Im not a woman hater who wants nothing to do with them lol. But if we are really going to be equals we should act as such
For myself, I want to be treated equally as a human being. If I'm courteous & respectful, I expect to be treated in a like manner. But I'm a woman and I don't want to be treated like a man or a buddy. Men & women are uniquely different from each other and I like to celebrate those differences, while treating other equally as people. Just my (feminine) 2 cents.
See to me that makes no sense. Either I treat you like any other friend or I dont. All my friends get the same treatment because we shouldnt have to be careful with one another. In the work place I get it but in social interactions it takes away from the fun.
LOL, I know, I was just kidding you. Some of your comments in previous threads did pop into my mind during those scenes though. I can admit to identifying with some of what ol' Henry is talking about when my house was overrun with my mom-in-law's quilting circle ladies, and my wife and daughter had their horse riding club moms and daughters meeting at the same time like this past Saturday.:smt017
I totally get you about it not making sense. It doesn't to me, either. The gender distinctions in treatment to me seem to be leftover cultural traits stemming from the deep-seated gender power distribution inequalities in human societies. Men treat women differently because women are historically treated as possessions/prizes of men. They get cuddling and tenderness and protection because in human society women and children were historically powerless and physically weaker than men and thus, subject to exploitation more readily than another male. Violation of them was historically seen, not as an injustice to them (which it was) but instead an injustice done to their male owner, requiring a violent or formal response from the wronged party. I know that many women want equality yet continue to demand the pampering and specialized treatment reserved for women historically. While I think it's illogical, I long ago realized that I could be irrational and well-sexed (lol) or rational in an empty bed. So I gave up. LOL
With my girl I natutally treat her that way but with female friends NO SPECIAL TREATMENT. Either we are equals or I play the chilvary role but you damn well better be up to playing your position too.
You ain't never lied, lol. If she wants her gender-specific favors, then she'd better be ready to give you yours! I try to get out of getting mine, because then we're off down that road...but sometimes you can't escape it.
Kissing my arse isn't special treatment or a gender specific role so you both are still able to do that
I agree with you both. I don't want to be treated differently just because I'm female. If we're just friends, I expect the same treatment that you give your other friends. Anything "different/special" takes us into a whole different friendship category. I get the cuddling/tenderness from my guy...I don't need it from my friends. It ends up making things awkward IMO. Now if we have an agreement about favors, then there's a time and place for those "extras"! For friends-with-benefits situations, I don't expect to be treated differently when we're with a group of people, but behind closed doors I would expect more tenderness than I'd expect from my "just friends" male friends lol. Rule number one though of FWB...don't catch feelings!! If she starts wanting all this special treatment, you're heading downhill into relationship-ville and that is a slippery slope to try and get off of! FWBs are great when both people can control their expectations and feelings. Either understand and appreciate the relationship for what it is, or don't do it.
And I will Tarshi. With gusto. FWB is a dangerous game to play. Because the friendship makes 'feelings' almost inevitable once some 'benefits' are thrown in to sweeten the pot (no pun intended).
I think it depends on the individual and the situation. If you start fucking a long time friend whom you already have love for...yes it'd be quite dangerous. But if you have a new friendship and you incorporate benefits, it can work just fine. I think a lot of it depends on the individuals ability to separate their emotions from sex. Sometimes sex is just sex...two individuals scratching an itch. IMO it doesn't always need to be about being in love. There's relationship sex, and there's FWBs...both are great, depending on where you're at in life and what you're looking for. Just my opinion of course.
I have never really had an fwb relationship. I guess it's just as well because an fwb relationship also begins with mutual attraction, too. Nothing works without mutual attraction.
Why thank you sir :freehug: P.S. Digging the nickname (although I think it suits you better than it does me)!!
Which is why there is no such thing as f*ck buddies. Sex is too deep to be that casual. Some young people tried to change the rules of relationships/friendship and ended up badly because having sex is dangerous not just disease but a pregnancy. You see on those shows like Springer,Maury etc that passions go very high and I wonder because of the passionate feelings of a woman or man towards say a cheater is the sex that good? Could be but, I do support of no sexual relations of friends of the opposite sex.
