It's a 2 way street baby, we all can pull our own these days. How about you show some class on a first date and start paying for his meal as well. Don't want you coming off looking so cheap...
i agreed with ches because i think the same way in some points. i ll break it down a little more to make myself clear, since i was not meaning the *money* aspect of it. i agree in the points of someone making some thoughts about the where to take a woman. needless to say, i d do the same thing the opposite way round. it s not important for me if that place is expensive. i care for atmosphere, the possibility to have a decent conversation and a bit intimacy. apart from the fact that this thread asks about restaurants: i d be happy to be invited for a home cooked meal aswell, because it s always nice to me if someone cooks for me. (too sad that being invited to a mans place for first date is always taken as *he got other plans*) now for the not-knowing-how-to-cook men... it s ok to get a take out aswell, for the upper case, put the take out on plates,add some flowers, candles anything that shows effort. fine with me. i cant and dont want to pass judgement over the places you announced, since i dont know them. we dont have them here. i wont want go to mc donalds coz i generally dont go there. (got nothing to do with the first date aspect) after all i think anyway if chemistry is right, it doesnt matter where you go to, coz what s left after will be that you enjoyed each others company and that is more important then anything else. (at least to me)
This, absolutely. I honestly hate going to dinner as a first date. I feel like it puts pressure on a guy who's inevitably just trying to make a good first impression. I want that more intimate dinner setting once I'm more comfortable with someone. First date, I'd rather be in a more comfortable/natural environment which is why I prefer something outdoors, active and relaxed. The beauty is that there are people who fit all our styles. There are those men who think a nice dinner sets a good impression, and there are women who appreciate that. There are also men who tailor the date to the interests of the individual they're courting...and there are women who appreciate that :smt039 There's really no right or wrong here, it's all about preference and what makes us as individuals happy...and ultimately finding that partner who sees things in a similar light.
This. I, too, stressed that it was about planning and atmosphere, but somehow it all came down to money. McDonalds's is cheesy, chintzy for a first date. Even so, I don't think spending $30 on a first date with someone you'd really like to get know is expecting too much. It's what I would do if I invited someone out. Sheesh, I don't even take a friend out to a fast food place! And if I'm cooking for a first date? You'd better believe I'm not gonna be serving chicken out of a bucket.
A woman pay for a man's meal on a first date? I wish to derail this thread no more. These are my top picks, I don't take women to these restaurants to impress them, I take them to these restaurants because I thoroughly enjoy them and stand behind them 100% as if I was a spokesman for these establishments. They all provide excellent fresh foods, attentive quick service, and have fun but chill atmosphere which always makes for an memorable experience. [/IMG]
jup, picnics can be bomb and talking a walk in a snowy forest with some foodpacket and hot drinks can be too. pretty cheap choices btw.
I'm a sucker for a sweet picnic. We don't get snow, but long walks at the beach or local trails are awesome. Outdoors, fresh air, no interruptions, he can hold my hand and make me all butterfly-y...that's definitely my style :smt023
I agree with this. Since the thread was about first-date restaurant suggestions, I addressed that. But absolutely, if you and a potential partner agree that another activity would be fun for a first date, it's all about figuring out what would be enjoyed by both. I'm not married to the dinner-as-a-first-date idea. A young man I know invited a young lady he was interested in to help him serve dinner in a soup kitchen. Not your typical first date, but it was perfect for them. (They're married with 4 children now).
*sigh* :smt060 I would be all over that as a first date. Says so much about the mans character IMO. Love it.
I actually did that before. Don't care who pays on the first date. If it grows into something more,then we would probably be taking turns anyway in the future.
Good ole McDonalds express, one of the finest dining establishments I've been too. Nothing says express like waiting in line for 7 minutes in a walk in closet for some chicken mcnuggets. Mcdonalds in DC suck because not a single damn one sells pineapple mango smoothies. The fast food places in Detroit had bullet proof windows at the counter. Ive never felt safer and more secure in a restaurant.
lmao, a walk in closet indeed McDonald's in DC also sucks because it's impossible to find a strawberry sundae :smt087 My mom read that the Subway by my school had bullet proof windows as well. She didn't like that though, because she said she's not bulletproof, and won't be bulletproof when she leaves. I'd feel safer if they didn't feel the need for the bulletproof glass.
I may have to reconsider my no-fast-food-place-for-a-first-date stance. This sounds exactly like the ambience I'm going for on a first date.
You actually said that you don't care how wonderful a guy is or how great of a time you would have with him. Whats the point of spending any time with the guy if it does not matter if you enjoy his company? It also does not matter if he fits your definition of wonderful if he takes you to Mickey D's. Well seems as if you may be indifferent to having a wonderful companion in your life. Was that the same message sent by the other posters that you claim agreed with you??
