That could be one of the reasons she chose accounting, because she is not much of a people person. To suggest that she is like that among her friends is shortsighted.
But it also goes to show that there really is no true standard of beauty. It changes with trends and time.
There is no absolute or "true" one beyond basic fitness and genetic health (i.e. distance between eyes, waist:hip ratio, blemish-free skin, and a few others that are standard across all races that seem to come from the primitive past). The rest are all manufactured desires by media.
Of course, there was a time when plus-sized women were worshipped and considered beautiful. They were in paintings, they were pop and opera singers. As long as they were in demand, they were attractive in their own way. It still applies to this day.
I think this here is making DK's point. What you are describing sounds less of a race issue and more of a female cattiness issue. Your blackness in this case is just another nit to pick for these females. Sounds as if these females would likely be catty if a White female was the object of affection. When it comes to BM/WW complete strangers feel the need to comment and opine with their world view. Don't recall if there is a White female equivalent of Jill Scott or if WW were threatening to boycott Robin Thicke because he is (was?) married to a BW.
Women are catty period. I think being ignored for any other woman would create tension regardless of race don't you think
Tell that to fashion models where the overwhelming majority of women are white. Whatever the features whiteness still reigns supreme love
OK so I told myself I was going to stay out if this convo but I can't lol...I have never had a white woman say anything about who I've been with (except family members) but I have had complete strangers (BW & WM) come up to me and go off. I have been threatened with physical violence simply because I was walking hand and hand with a BM. When my ex finished signing his life away to the Air Force we went for pizza at the food court. A group of 3 BW went off in front of my 3 kids. Luckily I didn't have to say shit because his recruiter (BM) was there and did all the talking for me
I have been blatantly ignored by BW. who I have spoken to at parties when I was with my Ex husband, not fun to be somewhere like that at all. (African) With my current partner, things have been a little easier as most Caribbean women I've met, seem to be much more friendly overall.
complained when actor Robert DeNiro dated, married and had children with black women. Actor Sean Penn, after his divorce from Madonna, dated a black woman(it was brief but it caused quite a stir). Again, nobody complained. My cousin on my father's side of the family is married to a white man. I'm not complaining and so far, none of my relatives are complaining, either. But, if a BM(celebrity or not) was seen with a WW, you can bet there will be stares and whispered comments. And if they are bold enough, some man or woman would voice their opinion because they were shocked by what they saw and it challenged their world view. I remember I had drove a woman her daughter and her boyfriend to a hospital in another town. When the young mother was called in to see the doctor, she and her boyfriend went in, leaving me to look after her daughter. I did everything I could to keep her entertain(like using my hat as a toy, or my car keys). Everyone in the waiting room(all white) watched me and my handling of the little girl's care. After a while, a man came over and sat down with us and said hello. I explained that I was looking after the little girl for her mother. The man said that he was curious and that he understood that me and the little girl got along fine. But he used "we" in that sentence. I wasn't sure if he meant him and his wife or the collective view of the other people in the waiting room. It felt very awkward. But, the little girl and I waited until her mother and boyfriend were finished with the doctor. No problems that day, thank God.
Thanks for sharing your experience. I have also experienced this as well. In undergrad I was cornered, physically intimidated threatened with physical and sexual assault by a black guy whom I had turned down numerous times (due to his reputation of being sexually aggressive on dates) when he found out that I was dating a "white boy".
What an idiot. I don't know what makes some guys think that if a woman turns you down, the proper response is to get threatening and loud. Like you were going to say: "oh, thanks for insulting and berating me...now, how about that date?" Lol. Makes me want to ask "How's that working for you?" Pisses me off. Wish you had been sitting there on the white guy's lap, lol. That's what he needed to see. What a tool.
