Attraction to Black Men = Perversion?

whikle said:
I'd like to know if anyone else has had a similar experience to me:

I've found that when I express to friends in a conversational/casual way that I'm attracted to black men, I'm met with jokes or shock or questions. The general assumption from society seems to be that it's a sexual perversion, that it's all about big black dicks, that it's some sort of joke. It's never just accepted as an ok/normal thing.

My good friends know about my preferences and they're totally fine with it - but there are still jokes when it comes up, or it's assumed that I'll have the hots for any black man that crosses our paths, regardless of whether I find him attractive or not.

I'm even afraid to tell a black guy that I may be dating that I prefer black men, in case he thinks it's weird or a fetish and I'm sexualising him.

Personally, my love for black men feels natural and pure and the LAST thing it feels to me is dirty or perverted. I just hate the assumption that if I like black guys, it must be about big dicks :(


Has anyone else had that kind of reception?
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Tell those friends that we can't do anything about the big black dicks...whether they are curious or envious.....the dicks are here to stay....That said------tell them that your attraction to us is a keen gift----- for we are also intelligent, captivating and manly......
Lastly, tell them that YOU epitomize classically what we find attractive, so your calling is natural........
 
whikle said:
I'd like to know if anyone else has had a similar experience to me:

I've found that when I express to friends in a conversational/casual way that I'm attracted to black men, I'm met with jokes or shock or questions. The general assumption from society seems to be that it's a sexual perversion, that it's all about big black dicks, that it's some sort of joke. It's never just accepted as an ok/normal thing.

My good friends know about my preferences and they're totally fine with it - but there are still jokes when it comes up, or it's assumed that I'll have the hots for any black man that crosses our paths, regardless of whether I find him attractive or not.

I'm even afraid to tell a black guy that I may be dating that I prefer black men, in case he thinks it's weird or a fetish and I'm sexualising him.

Personally, my love for black men feels natural and pure and the LAST thing it feels to me is dirty or perverted. I just hate the assumption that if I like black guys, it must be about big dicks :(


Has anyone else had that kind of reception?
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Didn't 't you hear, white women and black men have hot, sweaty, passionate animal sex, 24/7/365. Everything else be damned.

LOL, maybe they are projecting and they are the actual perverts if they automatically picture you sexually with a black guy above other aspects, after all they wouldn't do that if you were speaking about a white guy relationship wise.

You have one life, live it, enjoy it in the ways that fulfill you as a woman.
 
Archman said:
Tell those friends that we can't do anything about the big black dicks...whether they are curious or envious.....the dicks are here to stay....That said------tell them that your attraction to us is a keen gift----- for we are also intelligent, captivating and manly......
Lastly, tell them that YOU epitomize classically what we find attractive, so your calling is natural........
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Wish I could rep you for this!!
 
southfloridagirl said:
I can see how a racial prejudice can make someone attack and make them mask it as a sexual attack, but I still honestly think that if you were a man, any color man, you'd not get these comments as often.
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I have to disagree with this. Black men get as much flack as anyone and definitely more than any male for their sexual preferences. I think it is a patriarchy/matriarchy issue (at least in the US). Since most non-Black races lean more towards patriarchy, the males tend to attempt to sexually manage the females with many of the slut-shaming tactics mentioned in this thread as a tool. Blacks lean towards matriarchy, so Black women tend to be the most vocal about what their counterparts are doing, which is why no other race of men seem to be as hen-pecked about their sexual preferences as Black men are. Unfortunately and not coincidentally, the White male patriarchal structure gives the Black female matriarchy a forum to loudly voice their grievances since it essentially does some of the dirty work for them.
 
I suppose its when a woman says they are only attracted to black men, thats when people start thinking its for one reason.
Not saying thats right, but it is generally true.
Its when women or men say they will only date one specific type/race/whatever, people are like ''erm...why??''
 
AlmostThere said:
I have to disagree with this. Black men get as much flack as anyone and definitely more than any male for their sexual preferences. I think it is a patriarchy/matriarchy issue (at least in the US). Since most non-Black races lean more towards patriarchy, the males tend to attempt to sexually manage the females with many of the slut-shaming tactics mentioned in this thread as a tool. Blacks lean towards matriarchy, so Black women tend to be the most vocal about what their counterparts are doing, which is why no other race of men seem to be as hen-pecked about their sexual preferences as Black men are. Unfortunately and not coincidentally, the White male patriarchal structure gives the Black female matriarchy a forum to loudly voice their grievances since it essentially does some of the dirty work for them.
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Where the hell were you when Apollonia was posting. Damn good post sir
 
suzieb said:
I suppose its when a woman says they are only attracted to black men, thats when people start thinking its for one reason.
Not saying thats right, but it is generally true.
Its when women or men say they will only date one specific type/race/whatever, people are like ''erm...why??''
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Interesting that question rarely comes up when specifically choose wm
 
Archman said:
Tell those friends that we can't do anything about the big black dicks...whether they are curious or envious.....the dicks are here to stay....That said------tell them that your attraction to us is a keen gift----- for we are also intelligent, captivating and manly......
Lastly, tell them that YOU epitomize classically what we find attractive, so your calling is natural........
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fantasyfangrl said:
Wish I could rep you for this!!
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Well said by brotha Arch indeed, repped him for it. Love is what love is, can't fight it. :D
 
In fairness some folks are genuinely curious about things because it is not a part of their world view.

But at the end of the day even if a white woman is a big ole freak that likes black dick, that is still her life, her choice, her desire, her decision to make.

All it is at the end of the day is a woman and a man coming together in a relationship.

We don't live in the Puritanical era any longer where women can't express their desires, as though its some dirty secret.

I mean there are still white women who deal with black men and don't even take the brotha home, because they are afraid of perceptions, but its what they like and yet because of social mores are reticent to stand up for themselves for fear of what their family, friends, neighbors, community may think.

That is why I love a white woman that keeps it 100 and knows what she wants and will not let anyone keep her from it. Haters gonna hate. :D
 
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GQ Brotha said:
In fairness some folks are genuinely curious about things.

But at the end of the day even if a white woman is a big ole freak that likes black dick, that is still her life, her choice, her desire, her decision to make.

We don't live in the Puritanical era any longer where women can't express their desires, as though its some dirty secret.

I mean there are still white women who deal with black men and don't even take the brotha home, because they are afraid of perceptions, but its what they like and yet because of social mores are reticent to stand up for themselves for fear of what their family, friends, neighbors, community may think.

That is why I love a white woman that keeps it 100 and knows what she wants and will not let anyone keep her from it. Haters gonna hate. :D
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Very true. It is a shame that some want to bring back those days to reclaim their identity and former glory. And that former glory was to control women and keep them in the home as second class citizens with no rights and no voice. Sex is and always will be the one question on a curious person's mind when they see a an attractive couple of either combination.
Questions will be raised like:
1. What does he/she see in him/her?
2. How and where did they meet?
3. What did he/she do to get him/her?
4. How can I find a man/woman like that?

The list goes on...

If I am with someone, it is because we both want to be together because we love and care about each other. Damned the haters. Keep on loving.
 
Archman said:
Tell those friends that we can't do anything about the big black dicks...whether they are curious or envious.....the dicks are here to stay....That said------tell them that your attraction to us is a keen gift----- for we are also intelligent, captivating and manly......
Lastly, tell them that YOU epitomize classically what we find attractive, so your calling is natural........
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GQ Brotha said:
Didn't 't you hear, white women and black men have hot, sweaty, passionate animal sex, 24/7/365. Everything else be damned.

LOL, maybe they are projecting and they are the actual perverts if they automatically picture you sexually with a black guy above other aspects, after all they wouldn't do that if you were speaking about a white guy relationship wise.

You have one life, live it, enjoy it in the ways that fulfill you as a woman.
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GQ Brotha said:
In fairness some folks are genuinely curious about things because it is not a part of their world view.

But at the end of the day even if a white woman is a big ole freak that likes black dick, that is still her life, her choice, her desire, her decision to make.

All it is at the end of the day is a woman and a man coming together in a relationship.

We don't live in the Puritanical era any longer where women can't express their desires, as though its some dirty secret.

I mean there are still white women who deal with black men and don't even take the brotha home, because they are afraid of perceptions, but its what they like and yet because of social mores are reticent to stand up for themselves for fear of what their family, friends, neighbors, community may think.

That is why I love a white woman that keeps it 100 and knows what she wants and will not let anyone keep her from it. Haters gonna hate. :D
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Great responses, guys. You have made me feel better about the whole deal :freehug:
 
Gorath said:
Very true. It is a shame that some want to bring back those days to reclaim their identity and former glory. And that former glory was to control women and keep them in the home as second class citizens with no rights and no voice. Sex is and always will be the one question on a curious person's mind when they see a an attractive couple of either combination.
Questions will be raised like:
1. What does he/she see in him/her?
2. How and where did they meet?
3. What did he/she do to get him/her?
4. How can I find a man/woman like that?

The list goes on...

If I am with someone, it is because we both want to be together because we love and care about each other. Damned the haters. Keep on loving.
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The irony is the notion of big, black dicks was started during slavery times to dehumanize blacks as beasts akin to a horse, donkey, ox, beasts of burden. What better way to rationalize enslaving someone.

Black males possessed oversized genitalia and were weak in self control and unbridled lust towards white maidens, if they weren't controlled by white men.

In American society because of its history there has always been that palpable tension about a white woman involved with a black guy, its more accepted today because society evolves over time, but there are still many who wince at it because they envisage the physical interaction first and foremost over all other aspects of a relationship.

It is indeed as though through the stereotypes of time and history they don't see or acknowledge the black guy as a human being with feelings, empathy, emotions, but an object the white woman possesses for her pleasure. Thus the sexual aspect gets brought into play above all other factors. Some of the sentiments are driven by curiosity, some by ignorance, some by stereotypes and some by just plain ole' racism.
 
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whikle said:
Great responses, guys. You have made me feel better about the whole deal :freehug:
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No problem whiks, the key for any woman is confidence and assertiveness in what she wants and going for it.

Its a new era and a woman has every right just as a man to pursue what makes her happy. She isn't doing anything wrong by liking a black guy.

Whatever her reasons may be that is up to her. Some black guys are going to be terrific, some are going to be assholes, just like any other guy. :D

Few subjects around relationships elicit such strong sentiments as a black man with a white woman because of history and its events that shaped the interaction. There was a time in America as we all know when black men were killed for even looking at a white woman in a suggestive manner, that should tell us something. Its like folks see it as individuals on two different ends of a spectrum, black and white to the extreme degrees, its the coming together of two folks on polar ends of societies racial divisions. :)

Sex is but one aspect, at the end of the day we all know it takes a whole lot more for things to work out in the long run. Any well thinking human being would realize that when forming opinions on such matters. :smt017
 
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whikle said:
I'd like to know if anyone else has had a similar experience to me:

I've found that when I express to friends in a conversational/casual way that I'm attracted to black men, I'm met with jokes or shock or questions. The general assumption from society seems to be that it's a sexual perversion, that it's all about big black dicks, that it's some sort of joke. It's never just accepted as an ok/normal thing.

My good friends know about my preferences and they're totally fine with it - but there are still jokes when it comes up, or it's assumed that I'll have the hots for any black man that crosses our paths, regardless of whether I find him attractive or not.

I'm even afraid to tell a black guy that I may be dating that I prefer black men, in case he thinks it's weird or a fetish and I'm sexualising him.

Personally, my love for black men feels natural and pure and the LAST thing it feels to me is dirty or perverted. I just hate the assumption that if I like black guys, it must be about big dicks :(


Has anyone else had that kind of reception?
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I've come across it, but have basically put it down to Australians and their lack of knowledge and contact with black people in general.

Last year I spoke with two different women on two different occasions about my attraction to black men and both used the word 'negro', not in a bad way, but because they didn't know what word to use and thought black wasn't politically correct.
 
Tarshi said:
I've come across it, but have basically put it down to Australians and their lack of knowledge and contact with black people in general.

Last year I spoke with two different women on two different occasions about my attraction to black men and both used the word 'negro', not in a bad way, but because they didn't know what word to use and thought black wasn't politically correct.
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GQ Brotha said:
No problem whiks, the key for any woman is confidence and assertiveness in what she wants and going for it.

Its a new era and a woman has every right just as a man to pursue what makes her happy. She isn't doing anything wrong by liking a black guy.

Whatever her reasons may be that is up to her. Some black guys are going to be terrific, some are going to be assholes, just like any other guy. :D

Few subjects around relationships elicit such strong sentiments as a black man with a white woman because of history and its events that shaped the interaction. There was a time in America as we all know when black men were killed for even looking at a white woman in a suggestive manner, that should tell us something. Its like folks see it as individuals on two different ends of a spectrum, black and white to the extreme degrees, its the coming together of two folks on polar ends of societies racial divisions. :)

Sex is but one aspect, at the end of the day we all know it takes a whole lot more for things to work out in the long run. Any well thinking human being would realize that when forming opinions on such matters. :smt017
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Love this post
 
GQ Brotha said:
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I swear, I heard the word and the look on my face had them both red faced and flustered. Both apologised and I could tell it was sincere, they honestly just didn't know how to speak about black men without not being politically correct.
 
Tarshi said:
I swear, I heard the word and the look on my face had them both red faced and flustered. Both apologised and I could tell it was sincere, they honestly just didn't know how to speak about black men without not being politically correct.
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Where is the damn Z woman lol

I am still shocked that in 2014 that some people in diverse areas of the world still have had little to no contact with black people
 
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