So totally disappointed.

 

Why what happened kid?

 

My happily ever after came to a screeching hault. Words and accusations flew by my head at warp speed...no take backs. Totally speechless.

 

oh honey, so sorry :smt058

 

Oh, damn. I'm sorry Cherok33. You guys were a great couple and it's always sad when something good comes to an end. Hugs :freehug:

 

Omg, Cherok. I'm so sorry. :freehug: I know this must be heart-wrenching.

Any way this would be his way of dealing with (or not dealing with) the impending seperation?

 

I'm sorry lovie, it's always hard when something like that happens. Sending hugs your way, they don't make things much better... but hoping you feel better soon :freehug::freehug::freehug::freehug:

 

oh gosh... babygirl i m so sorry to hear that, just checked and saw you havent got any out of forum contact options set. felt like just picking the phone when i read that. i hope from the bottom of my heart that you and him can work that out, sometimes we say things without a second thought....
lot s of love for you :freehug:

 

Thanks babe.

Thank you, Since. I just don't know how to feel right now or where this leaves us. Have to think about things.

Thanks, Ches...you know, thats what I'm starting to think. Jealous rant that was totally unnecessesary, truly feels like he's just pushing me away to make things easier for him.

 

thank you, Gem. I do know sometimes we say mean things without a second to think about how to say those thibgs without hurting the other person. He has been so freakin good to me, so it makes what happened that much more upsetting and leaves me wondering how things will go while hes away for two years if we do manage to work things out...ya know?

 

thanks babygirl

 

Oh wow so sorry love. His loss.

 

i agree with a former poster... this might have happened because of him knowing he has to leave for them 2 years.. no matter what cherokee... my contacts are on my profile. contact me whenever you need me. this mama has a big shoulder for you to cry on. :freehug:

 

Two years is a long time to be apart. Maybe he's not certain he can handle that. Since this is coming out of the blue and seems to have little to no basis, it sounds like a defense mechanism. Protecting himself. It would be interesting to know how some of the guys here might read this.

 

Yep, that's kind of how I see it. Maybe if things aren't so great by the time he leaves it the separation will be easier.

 

:freehug: thanks... why do I feel like it's mine?

thank you, Gem. I appreciate it :freehug:

2 yrs overseas is a long time; but I was on board. I do understand pushing me away if he has doubts. His basis revolves around trust issues and past experiences with other women. Vulnerable women and men w/ less than honorable intentions. Definitely protecting his heart. Given what he's been through, I can appreciate that. Just very unfair to group me in with those other women.

We are going to work on it. I guess it just hurts and I worry now about where this will leave us in the end. We are at least talking now. We'll see, I suppose.

 

Is he afraid you will hurt him, or is he afraid he will hurt you? (Does he have reservatiins about his ability to be faithful? Or vice versa?)

 

I am very certain his reservations are only with me, in that I would hurt him.

 

Hurt him how?

 

Then all you can do is stay by his side, and prove him wrong.