Random Conversation 2.0

Probably by leaving him for someone else once she's gone. A lot of men are deathly afraid of that.

 

Ahhh ok
Yeah I never fear that. Everyone leaves at some point you shouldn't waste time worrying about the inevitable.

 

Fucking hell, it's only a break up and there is no such thing as "happily ever after."

 

Of course there is grinch. Just because you've never experienced it don't mean it ain't real

 

I got this!

 

I'm with you on this, TDK. All things human are temporary. The fear of an inevitable future can cripple us if we let it.

 

How is that different from what you just said??

 

Because in my opinion happily ever after doesn't always mean a romantic relationship or a relationship thats always constant. People can phase in and out of your happily ever after while being some what temporary. Stories aren't told in only one way

 

it's called flip/flop:smt043

 

Chances are that you guys may actually agree then, because you are using the same semantics to say something different. Or using different semantics to say the same shit. lol

 

Well no because Saty is basically calling it impossible, his tone suggests that long term doesn't work out but my position is based on how we define long term and what we consider happily ever after. I do think its possible to maintain a long term relationship with someone you love deeply although it might evolve and change over time. For example my brother married the mother of his child eighteen years after they had my nephew. They are now in there happily ever after even though there were times where they weren't together. So happily ever after depends on how you look at it. And all things are temporary but that understanding can make current experiences that much richer

 

That's a great example and I clearly see what you are saying. Personally I would not want to harbor the sentiment that everyone leaves at some point in all fairness to my partner. The realism you expressed is a good thing imo, but my priority would be to give someone a clean slate. If you expect them to leave at some point, you could actually end up unintentionally being the one to cause it (self fulfilling prophecy). Our thoughts contain energy that somehow comes back to us, I would try to keep them geared toward something I actually want to happen.

 

I totally agree but its kind of a hope for the best prepare for the worst thinking on my part and its the make the worst into something far more beautiful than horrific. Partners, friends, family, and even non essential people in our lives will move on or at some point die. It all ends at some point but in the small pockets of time where we get to enjoy each other we're offered small doses of happily ever after. So I guess ultimately I am saying live in the now because now is all we ever have and right not I am living happily ever after.

 

I think even those 'true' loves end eventually.

 

in what way? I truly love a lot of people

 

I mean the "get in the bed and shag" kind of true love. Lol

 

what do you mean by end though? Its hard for us to say all true loves end. I think so grow some pause some die but when two people are truly connected and in it for healthy mutually beneficial reasons it can last.

 

You know me, I'm pretty negative on "love" usually. I truly love a woman I dated back in the 90s. My love for her never really left, despite marriage and not seeing her face to face since 1999. But the relationship itself ended. I just think all relationships ultimately break up. Pay me no mind on this topic.

 

This sounds like an oxymoron. Was it true love if it ends? Anyway, trust is much more important to me for the LTR route. Probably because it makes more sense.

 

I agree with you. Trust is more important than 'love' or 'passion'. When I said it ends eventually, I meant that it seems like even those real loves just end because of life, the world, something. But it seems like even the best relationships have entropy slowing unwinding them or leading them to gradual breakdown. I'm no expert, for sure. That's just my observation.