Soon after I turned 18 (way back in the 20th century) I dumped all of my friends. All of them. I didn't want to be around when they started going to jail and knocking up hoodrats. Fuck that. Of course this was before the era of facebook, Twitter, instagram and all that bullshit. Back then all you had to do was not answer the phone and make sure no knew where you lived. Blessed freedom. I'll still excommunicate a motherfucker (family, friends, whatever) without blinking, but have a very good core of smart people who know my boundaries. You need people who are going to understand and respect your boundaries player.
I hope it does, because this feeling comes back all the times, more intense than the worse. Shit I usually do to calm me down doesn't even work for me anymore. I look like a maniac punching the steering wheel at the intersection. Sometimes, I wonder how different my life would be if I had a surrounded myself with a different circle or at least expanded it. All of my friends that had some kind of motivation and liked doing shit got up, got the fuck outta town and started their lives. Only a couple are still in town. Even my family is killing me. I'm getting sick of people always needing shit from me, getting in my business or not giving me time to my damn self. Half the time, I gotta lie and say I'm gonna be out all day just so I can chill in my room. When I met my friends in the army, I realized my friends and I didn't do shit. We were some lazy mofos, mainly because half the group didn't want to do anything more exciting than camping and then that shit died down and turned into nights at the apartment playing Mario Kart and watching my friends blaze. As much as I hated the army, I had the most fun of my life during that time because of the people I met. I'm not trying to have this same shit going on in SD. I'm gonna start ignoring phone calls really soon.
It sounds like Saty's advice is spot on then. I just recently had to let go of a couple of friends and I feel like a weight has been lifted off. It's okay to stop hanging out with someone if he/she isn't bringing anything positive to your life anymore. Or if you've changed and they haven't, or vice versa. Friendship isn't a contract for life and that's a lesson I've had to learn repeatedly, some by my doing and and some by their doing. You'll make new friends.
Completely understand that. When I got home from college, I missed the DC culture. I missed people wanting to do things with their lives other than become a plumber or electrician. (Good trades, but the attitude here is, "oh, get certified, then that's good enough, set for life... no upwards thinking.) The friend circle I had... same thing. When I'd go to hang out with everyone, there was just nothing in common, nothing to talk about anymore. I cut them all loose. If I saw them around, I'd still say hi and make small talk, but I don't intentionally see anyone anymore. Just my high school best friend, that's it.... but I even see her less, the little things she does pisses me off. Getting up, and moving to another city will fix that for me, more in-line with the culture + population I'm used to... so at least you can get a fresh start in SD! :freehug:
Thanks, y'all. Didn't know this was such a common thing among people. Guess more people outgrow the people around them than I thought.
Just watched the trailer for the 50 Shades of Grey film and the female lead is surprisingly unattractive. The male lead has a generic Ken doll look like the casting agent picked him up at Toys 'R Us. I can't imagine either actor being the first (or second) choice in the minds of the book's fans. It is strategic that the studio is releasing it on Valentine's Day, though, as there will be millions of women not getting a fancy dinner or box of chocolates that day. When left to their own devices many woman will dispense with the artifice of romantic love and embrace their biological urges. It looks like a shitty movie but our genes aren't film critics.
:smt043:smt043:smt043 OMG you made me laugh. Don't do that my mouth still hurts from the root canal :lol:
Seriously depressed. Frustrated with life right now...just feels like it's always SOMETHING and just cannot catch a damn break! Work my ass off and have nothing to show for it.
you are still alive and can smile at the things you do have. shake that shit off and get back on your grind, all things work out in your favor. remember that.
You're telling yourself stories about what is just and how god or the universe is supposed to make things right. Iron shit out like wrinkled shirt. Guess what, despite your most well-cherished beliefs no one is listening. So now the question is what are you going to do to change the narrative?
Glad i made you laugh lol My best friend said he was chatting with this young woman online and things got a bit frisky and she came up with those words smh
