Can somebody please explain to me the big deal with coming out of pocket a little on a date? I get that $200 might be out of some peoples budgets, but why are some guys so opposed to the idea of spending a little cash on a date.
Serious question.,. and not meaning to troll or go down the path that this thread will inevitably go. What entitlement issues? I don't think there is anything wrong with having a certain level of expectations in a date / potential partner.
little cash is fine but over $100 is not. You have to start doing the math. If you should have ten dates in one month that is $1000 assuming the date is $100. Keep in mind, you may not even have found the one and it is one month ... 2 months 2 grand so on and so on. You should most certainly pay for your portion of the date but keep in mind this is still a total stranger that could disappear after the date. be cautious because every dollar you spend is a dollar you could have spent on the lady that is going to stick with you for the rest of your life over this stranger or a dollar that you could use to make life better for you.
Because expectations of someone else's pockets are rude. No different than me expecting something from a date because I paid that kind of money. If the intent is to get to know one another the objective can be achieved for far less and it lets me know you value me not what I can do for you. My first date with my current girlfriend was ice lemonade at starbucks then a long walk. Second date was sushi which only cost 20 bucks and our third date was the gym. And the best part was she always said thank you, that kind of shit won me over quick. Now she gets far more than just 200 dollar dates.
Stuck up entitled New York women who all believe they're Carrie from Sex and the City searching for Mr Big. Men aren't the only ones capable of being entitled douchebags.
Wait wait wait... because I don't mind spending a little on a date every now and again, I'm gassing? Really? I really do not understand the mentality of dudes who constantly complain about women not choosing them, but put forth no effort to make themselves desirable. You have expectations for women, why can't they have expectations as well?
I think this is part of what we forget in these conversations. Things can be very different in different parts of the country. There are also generational differences. Obviously, some people consider a "first date" different things too.
Every date doesn't have to be over $100, most dates aren't. If you're doing the $100 dinner every date, that gets boring and unimaginative relatively quickly. It's one thing if you don't have $100 to spend on a date. There are many women out there who will understand and not have a second thought about it. I'm not going to throw dirt on any women who want a guy who can take them out and do something special every now and again. It doesn't default them to gold digger, some people just have a different standard of living.
I have absolutely no expectations for women fam. When I was dating I literally went out to see what was what. To see if the person I talked to and text had chemistry with me, I felt no need to impress because they were total strangers to me. The only effort I put forth is to be kind, gracious, and engaging. Money isn't needed to convey those things.
Interesting. Really makes one question this whole love thing then. I only love you if you can comply with my standard of living.
Because you decide to go somewhere nice on a first date doesn't mean that the person has expectations of your pocket. A $200 first date can be just as much for you as it is for her. I like 3030 Ocean a lot, if I ask a woman out should I not take her there because it means I'll have to drop a little coin? Should I ask her to go dutch? Or should I take her for lemonade because she might be out to get me?
The op is stating that those are averages. That being said I can't find a creditable source so not too sure if people are indeed paying those prices.
Trust me, your posting history strongly suggests that you do have expectations. Not necessarily financial, but you do have expectations. You're questioning the wrong thing. It's not about love, it's about compatibility. Love does not guarantee compatibility. I've had to adjust my own dating standards for this very reason.
Well for me I do the low key thing because its important to know I'm with someone who can fun and enjoy themselves with little money involved. The sad thing is circumstances can easily change and I want to know we actually enjoy each other's company not lifestyle. And for me personally all the women I've pulled out all the stops for trying to impress them on the first date always ended badly for me. But then again it may just be a difference in personality. I don't feel like my authentic self doing shit like that, it makes me feel like I'm auditioning for something. To each his own I suppose.
