Naw, the thought of guilt would haunt me. So i'd rather not.

 

I agree completely, end the relationship instead of hurting someone. If I get bored or feel the relationship is going nowhere, I'd end it and enjoy being single. Oh wait, I'm doing that now. ahahahahahaa

 

I concur with this as well.

 

Well that's because he had a camera in his face. lol.

J/k no, your point it a common one - that cheating is all about the character of the person who does it, not the person often blamed for it. (the cheated). Sometimes though, alienation of affection can lead a partner to consider North's equation, despite still loving their partner. A person's mind can often justify many things if it feels victimized.
Which is why regular sex should never be taken for granted...it's just as important as committed love.

 

What North said is something I hear very often. My experience is that "not to cheat" is the exception, not the normality. But all of them (most are male colleagues) say that they love their wives or girl-friends.
I also think that it has a lot to do with how old the people are and how long they are together. Some even found a solution by changing partners. These people don't want to leave their partner, but the sex is just not that adventurous anymore as it was sometimes.

 

This is exactly what I was going to say. It doesn't matter if I know beforehand that I would never get caught by my significant other, I'd still have my conscience to answer to....and that can be worse than being caught. LOL.

Exactly. Rep added. :smt023

The only time I would ever step out on a relationship would be if George Clooney, Karl Urban, or Jeremy Renner wanted to have sex with me. :smt081 And of course, they'd be on my predetermined list of hot men that I could sleep with, that my S.O. knows about up front, that no consequences would befall the relationship. :mrgreen:

 

The problem w that statement is that cheating comes with deception and lies and hurt. Its not the sex per se that is the damaging factor - its what comes with it. Broken trust is really hard to mend.

I put integrity first, which means you do the right thing even when nobody is watching. That is when it actually counts.

If I do something that I would not want my spouse to know - that is the gauge for deciding to not do it.

 

I agree. Great post, Nic!

 

Great post, FG! I tried to rep you but before I could write anything your rep was given! So if you get a blank one, it was from me! I'm not typically speechless, but well, there's a first for everything, I guess.

 

I wouldn't cheat, I believe if you have a girlfriend or wife who you love and care about then why cheat even if I could get away I still wouldn't do it because it is wrong and would weigh on my conscience.

 

Never had a reason to cheat. Then again can we define cheating. My girl thinks anything below the neck and any action that lasts longer than the count of two is cheating.

I always felt if you feel its wrong then its wrong.

 

i agree with your girl. i'm also of the belief that having relationships online is also cheating. if you're flirting up a storm online and you're in a relationship & hide it because you know your partner would not approve, then you know that it's cheating.

 

So I guess you're asking half the guys in relationships to leave? Lol

Flirting to me is harmless just as long as you know it ends there. Its the equivilant of porn to me. Its not real. Now if you are acting on the flirting then I'd be inclined to agree with you boobs.

 

lol thanks for that fanny. i'm just saying if you'd be happy with your partner doing it, then so be it, but if you know that if you found out that your partner was making suggestive comments to other people and calling them your e-husband/e-wife and it would upset you, then maybe you should stop

 

I honestly don't think she cares. We made a pact not to police each other. I think a big reason why so many relationships fail is because people feel trapped, they don't feel like they can breathe.
I respect that she's an attractive girl and men will occasionally flirt with her or she might have an office husband or some shit like that. All I ask is she respect my health as I will respect hers because in the end fuck my emotions. My only fear when it comes to cheating is STDs and possibly taking care of a kid that's not mine unknowingly.
Like I said I doubt she'd care about my e-flirting especially with women who live thousands of miles away boobs lol

 

Nope, not lying either.

 

No, if I was in a relationship and wanted someone else then I would end that relationship and be with that someone else. IMO, there's never any reason to cheat on someone. Ever. Getting away with it or whatever wouldn't make any difference to me. I'm too conscientious.

 

As I sit here right now...No, absolutely not.
Do I honestly know what my answer would be in a months time, a years time, 10yrs time? No, I couldn't tell you. But right now in my life there is no way I'd cheat.

 

hmm if you love someone then why cheat best not too

but of what i read here from some post am already do by been here lol
oh well