This! Every time I mention to a friend that I find black men attractive it is met with some variety of ‘oh, you must want a big dick’ type comment and it is so irritating My attraction to black men is very much about, what at least I see. A quiet confidence and a masculinity that is just so different from a lot of white men. But they also seem to be very passionate and proud, while confidence and pride can be arrogant at times, which is a huge turn off for me, it is so much more about how they carry themselves I’m not the best with words so hopefully that makes sense